Why is dating after 35 such a beating?

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Why are you normalizing valuing people
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42 said:

I had those, way before I got my bike.
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Anchorhold said:

This whole thread feels about as healthy as eating South Dakota shellfish. I hope y'all have a reason to smile soon.


Dibs on this band name
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I saw this today and thought "the father of the bride looks to be the same age as the groom!!!"

Then I remembered this thread. Seems to fit in here somewhere.

Cute video.

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Camo said:

As a single male in my early 30s I can attest there are TWO types of women in their 30s on dating apps, ONLY TWO

Woman 1: BSC and feels she has to get married/have kids because of some mental stigma she feels or judgement from her peers. Absolutely nuts

Woman 2: The most badass, fun loving type of woman. A woman who has actually matured and does not worry about outside perspective and has their **** together. One who understands; is what is, this is life, let's have fun. This woman exists more often than men our age realize

From these two you can branch out to get more detailed but these are the two. Every girl i know or have gone on dates with via online dating have all told me how 'hard' it is because literally every guy swipes right on them because most guys are desperate and hope for a match, shotgun approach. In reality, the woman has all the power, feel lucky if you get a date.

Regardless, it's exhausting but OH BOY have I had mucho fun meeting some of these women. FWB sometimes and some turned into friends I see every now and then. Ghosting sure it happens
I think youre forgetting a few other types, like the strong independent feminist woman who says she doesnt need a man, but secretly just wants a boyfriend lol. The overly careerist woman who is obsessed with her job and thats all she talks about. The traveler who took a year off to travel around the world, and every conversation topic she somehow brings up her trip to Nepal and how life changing it was. The "bro-ey" girl who pretends to like sports and drink beer because she wants to appear super chill and thinks thats what guys like. And of course the woman who just got out of a toxic/abusive relationship and has a huge wall up, and is afraid of getting hurt again.
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I dont need a partner, but would definitely enjoy one to share life experiences. I dont think humans were meant to be solitary creatures.

I do think both men and women stop caring as much about superficial things as they age, since they realize looks are already fading but the mind is not. If there isnt anything behind the pretty face or wallet (eye roll) then its not worth the time.
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Also, a 47 year old man just matched with me and in the first 5 minutes of talking he asked how much money I made.
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What exactly did he say?
That's so forward. I would just google the job title and pay scale and make guesses from there.
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Well first he asked where I work, so my plain response to that is "I'm a contract killer for the CIA" because I'm not going to randomly tell people where I work. Duh.

Then he asked "what is your GS level" which is asking what pay status i'm on. I ignored the first question and tried changing the subject. He answered my next question and then asked again my GS level.

I just unmatched than answer.
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I started dating my amazing wife when I was 38… first engagement / marriage and well worth waiting for. She's a few years younger, so I have someone to take care of me when I'm an invalid.
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chiken said:

Also, a 47 year old man just matched with me and in the first 5 minutes of talking he asked how much money I made.
Holy &$#@! That's a sooooooooooooth operator right there. Straight and to the point.




This thread has been an eye opener.
Being in TexAgs jail changes a man……..no, not really
swimmerbabe11
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yeah... asing what you do for a living is pretty normal, but not where you do it.


likely the g5 level was to try to do a gotcha you don't work for the military type bs and impress you with his knowledge of things no one actually really cares if you know.
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Coog97 said:

I started dating my amazing wife when I was 38… first engagement / marriage and well worth waiting for. She's a few years younger, so I have someone to take care of me when I'm an invalid.


How did you meet her, and do you have any advice?
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I'm so glad I met my husband while I was making more money than him. Seems like a lot of y'all think women only marry for money. Not me… I married for looks.
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Obviously not all,, but its a stereotype for a reason. And it isn't the money, its the perceived security that money brings.
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chiken said:

Well first he asked where I work, so my plain response to that is "I'm a contract killer for the CIA" because I'm not going to randomly tell people where I work. Duh.

Then he asked "what is your GS level" which is asking what pay status i'm on. I ignored the first question and tried changing the subject. He answered my next question and then asked again my GS level.

I just unmatched than answer.


Sounds like to me he was making a joke.

"I'm a contract killer for the CIA"

"Oh cool, what kind of pay scale do you get for that?"

Your response SHOULD have been, "if I told you, I'd have to kill you"
CNN is an enemy of the state and should be treated as such.
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Captain Positivity said:

Coog97 said:

I started dating my amazing wife when I was 38… first engagement / marriage and well worth waiting for. She's a few years younger, so I have someone to take care of me when I'm an invalid.


How did you meet her, and do you have any advice?


Mutual friends… and no, because I still don't understand why she puts up with me, almost 11 years later.
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Naw. I can tell a joke when I see one. And he typed like a 12 year old.

"R U really a CIA wrker?"
"Im GS 11. Wbu"
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chiken said:

Naw. I can tell a joke when I see one. And he typed like a 12 year old.

"R U really a CIA wrker?"
"Im GS 11. Wbu"


Somebody types "R U _______" to me I'm out. Can't stand text speak like that.
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It bugs me too, but I'm not going to write someone off for something as trivial as that.
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chiken said:

Naw. I can tell a joke when I see one. And he typed like a 12 year old.

"R U really a CIA wrker?"
"Im GS 11. Wbu"


That must be an olds thing then. I haven't been on dating apps in a few years, but I was for a lot of my 20s and not once came across someone who typed like that
CNN is an enemy of the state and should be treated as such.
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Also, just found this gem

maroon barchetta
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Doesn't sound very Christian.
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He's 5'9 so should've been an automatic no anyway
CNN is an enemy of the state and should be treated as such.
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I'm only 5'6. 5'9 is plenty tall for me. I would date someone shorter than myself as well. Height is nice but not a necessary.

Edited to add: he was cute too! And WHITE! Such a pity he's the sht he's trying to avoid.
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So he wants a woman that is only partially full of *****
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There are quite a few men out there that do not love when a woman makes more than them, and generally the more successful they are, the more it bothers them.
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BenFiasco14 said:

He's 5'9 so should've been an automatic no anyway

If he says he's 5' 9" he's 5' 8" at most
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if the listed height is under 5'8" it is accurate

f he says 5'8" in the bio, he's 5'6" or 5'7"

If he says he's 6', he's 5'10 or 5'11"

over that and it's honest.



just like a baseball roster
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I'm 5'4"
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Sea Speed
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Good thing I am 6'2''. Being as ugly as I am I can't imagine how hard dating life would have been for me if I was a short *******.
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How can you say that after what I said? Not everyone is that superficial!!
 
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