Evanhue said:

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Get your kid the hell out of that situation. There are plenty of normal kids he can room with.

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Just confirming that it is your learned belief that men who are gay are not normal.

The amount of people on this board encouraging this guy to throw his son into this situation and essentially trying to shame him if not is astounding and honestly very discouraging.

just bc a school is under a religious umbrella doesn't make it less progressive… we toured one small Catholic uni and the student guide was pretty snarky towards the faith

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BluHorseShu said:

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MondayMorningQB said:

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If OP feels they haven't equipped their adult with the right tools of life by 18, then heading to university at A&M is the question, not what personality and beliefs a roommate of their son possesses and the affect that will have on said adult's moral compass.

Really tough to see so many posts of Ag parents seeking to curate life outcomes of an adult. When does it stop if we say "well the first semester or year is tough"? Will you also be there for the first tough interview conducted by a hiring manager with world views different from your own?

When does your adult's life begin, that's the question you should ask OP. You've spent nearly two decades instilling all the values, tools, and morals you can. Aim high and let them fly.

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So you asked the school to place your 18 year old daughter with a 20 year old male roommate to test her character?

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What a stupid comparison. And ultimately, how many freshman girls find out later on that their roommate was gay? Likely there were many…and they survived. The pearl clutching from either helicopter parents or people with no kids here (who have no basis for commenting) is hilarious. Grow tf up. Now, the militantly liberal part might be an issue. If anyone's roommate is militant left or right, I seek other options. I'd be more concerned they turnout to be a sociopath

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Please explain in detail how it's different. If the comparison is stupid you should be able to provide a very specific, detailed, infallible, logic based response with ease.

You can't because it's a completely valid comparison that is too difficult for you or the other half wits to intelligently reconcile with anything other than "because it isn't".

It's like you radical leftists can't have too logically congruent thoughts about anything.

CinchAG97 said:

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What would you do?

Child is a senior going to college several hours away from home. No one from high school attending the same college, so child gets assigned a roommate by the University.

Child finally finds assigned roommate on social media. Apparently, based on posts, assigned roommate is gay and apparently militantly liberal.

My child has been raised in a conservative Christian home and holds conservative values.

Is this an untenable situation where we should urgently seek a roommate change or find a new living situation? Or am I overreacting?

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have your son be strong and stand up for his beliefs. Nothing wrong with him being just as militant about his views. No reason to back down to loud voice in the room. Host bible studies every night and force the other guy out. Backing down is what the left wants

Well your scenario is a man and a woman, so that's where I'd start. And the arbitrary two year gap.

Not necessarily on topic, but I had a Muslim office mate a couple years back before the pandemic, and I'm actually pretty thankful for that experience. As a Catholic, we had some very good and insightful discussions about our beliefs and I learned more than I ever could through a book.

Not unreasonable to think the same couldn't happen in a college dorm.

Ideal situation...life is one's guru.

Get them out of that sinful situation! You may also consider looking into their schedule and having them transfer out of any classes with professors too liberal for your tastes.


Send me the university I can give a list of professors I endorse.

Depends entirely on your kid and the potential roommate, none of us are going to know enough about them to intelligently be able tell you how you should handle it.

Plenty of people have very close friends they vehemently disagree with politically, religiously, etc. Plenty of people don't let political views distort their perception of individuals they know personally. Moreover, some people cherish opportunities to "win hearts and minds" of those they disagree with. And some people would not do well in this situation at all.

All I'll say is, generally, shielding your kid from challenging life scenarios and those with opposing worldviews is not conducive to producing the best adult possible. But certainly some scenarios should be avoided if it's clear it's going to hurt your child.

Keegan99 said:

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agz win said:

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Stop the helicopter parenting and let your kid make adult decisions.

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That's fine as long as the kid has a full understanding of the risks.

This isn't a generation ago where a roommate conflict would just result in a room switch and no one outside of the dorm would know or care much about it.

In 2022, a conflict could result in the kid being suspended or expelled, and named-and-shamed on social media.

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This is a valid concern, but just like most conservatives don't hate gay people most liberals don't concoct fake hate crimes to screw over decent people.

Again, it just depends on the kids.

I'm late to the party. The gay mafia will cause problems, what's the procedure for getting a new roommate?

Can the kid request a normal roommate next semester?

HTownAg98 said:

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Your child is going to have to learn to deal with people that aren't like them, and will share little or no commonalities. It's called growing up and being an adult. His roommate will likely be going through the same thing. Unless it becomes untenable because of pressure from the roommate to do certain things that makes him uncomfortable, you should let them figure it out on their own. That's another thing that's called being an adult.

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Dealing with people is one thing; living with them is a whole other animal. I get what you're saying, but the parallels you're trying to draw don't line up, this is an apples and oranges comparison.

7 pages for a consensus to get a new future roommate? Am I missing something?

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GAC06 said:

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Sounds like a learning opportunity

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No it doesn't

This " tolerate" BS has been pushed on conservative Americans for years to the point of if we reject it we're the problem.

Some of us still have Christian values and don't want to surround ourselves with those that don't.

So no, no way in hell my son would be living with a gay roommate.

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So you don't like gay people?

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So don't let him be a student athlete, a guy in the Corps of Cadets, a member of a fraternity or any other male-based or student organization, a member of Student Government, a credible, academic study group, the church (yep, I said it), or any other group affiliated with the University. There are gays EVERYWHERE, folks. EVERYWHERE. They're every occupation in EVERY facet of life. Among those people are the staunchest Conservatives, Republicans, hard working, taxpaying, country-loving, and … yes … faithful people who open up the Good Book and treat people the way we are commanded to do rather than closing it up and beating people over the head with it. Some of you who use your faith as a weapon are so antithetical to what the Bible commands. Did you ever think about that? Haters gonna hate. Love people, people. It seems as if some of you are loving yourselves first … and certainly before you love your neighbor. I never really expected this kind of attitude conduct out of Aggies. Vigorously disagree, but don't do it so disrespectfully.

I think I agree?

I had a gay roommate my freshman year. He didn't try to go after my cornhole. NBD.

Obviously that's the exception to the rule

Get him out before this kid goes jussie smollett on your son. What if he's the white gay Tupac?

A false hate crime isn't necessarily the only concern. Many universities have sanctions for vague offenses like hate speech, unsafe environment, etc. There are plenty of campuses where a conservative expressing their beliefs could result in a leftist of the "speech is violence" ilk seeking penalties.

Then there are concerns outside of formal proceedings. Having someone righteously going around identifying their roommate as a bigot or racist or similar places the roommate at social and potentially physical risk.

You're right, it does depend on the kids, but the use of the word "militantly" is the problem, as I see it. That indicates the roommate is someone that is aggressively hostile toward - and wholly intolerant of - conservative worldviews.

Militantly liberal would be far more concerning to me than gay.

I'm a Christian conservative but have several good friends who are gay. In the end their relationship with God is just that: theirs. I'll continue to love them and treat them with respect, and I can hope maybe it leads to different decisions.

But if the person shows a pattern of causing problems due to their ideological cancer, no way I'm setting up my freshman to add that to his list of things to deal with at such a critical time.

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HTownAg98 said:

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Your child is going to have to learn to deal with people that aren't like them, and will share little or no commonalities. It's called growing up and being an adult. His roommate will likely be going through the same thing. Unless it becomes untenable because of pressure from the roommate to do certain things that makes him uncomfortable, you should let them figure it out on their own. That's another thing that's called being an adult.

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Living in a world with vastly different people is one thing, living with them as a roommate is another.

OP, get him/her out of this situation - - not overreacting at all.

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Keegan99 said:

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A false hate crime isn't necessarily the only concern. Many universities have sanctions for vague offenses like hate speech, unsafe environment, etc. There are plenty of campuses where a conservative expressing their beliefs could result in a leftist of the "speech is violence" ilk seeking penalties.

Then there are concerns outside of formal proceedings. Having someone righteously going around identifying their roommate as a bigot or racist or similar places the roommate at social and potentially physical risk.

You're right, it does depend on the kids, but the use of the word "militantly" is the problem, as I see it. That indicates the roommate is someone that is aggressively hostile toward - and wholly intolerant of - conservative worldviews.

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I agree, and if this person is truly that it's probably not a good idea

To be honest I'm surprised how many in this thread are hung up on the gay issue in this context. Someone being militantly liberal is exponentially more concerning than their sexual preferences.

"First of all, ignore all the people telling you that "this will make him a well rounded individual", or "he can just get over it" etc… in no way shape or form should you sacrifice your son on the altar of wokeness and just allow this to go on. Not to mention your paying for it! It sounds like you've spent too much time and effort raising him right to just turn around and flush it all down the woke toilet."

Very well said!!! First semester freshman year is already a rough transition, why would you want to put your kid in that situation to compound the stress!

How many of y'all even knew who your roommate was before moving into the dorm?

Aggie118 said:

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The amount of people on this board encouraging this guy to throw his son into this situation and essentially trying to shame him if not is astounding and honestly very discouraging.

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It's rare to ever like your freshman roommate. If your kid doesn't like him, allow him to be an adult and figure it out.

Had a chance to talk to my kid. Bottom line is that the roommate situation made them very uncomfortable so they wanted out.

Kid had already decided to pursue another roommate. Had already taken the action to email housing services, on their own accord. Kid also proactively connected with other incoming freshman via social media and has found someone who may be a better fit. The email sent to housing services did not mention concerns at all about the roommate. It was entirely focused on asking if moving to a different dorm was an option - the dorm where a better fit was already assigned.

So, overall, I'm proud that the kid did all of this on their own accord. We aren't helicopter parents by any means, but our job as parents is to use discernment to help our kid navigate this world and avoid potentially disastrous situations.

Thanks for the advice everyone. There was some posts that did make me pause and think differently. And, there was a bunch of BS posted too but that was expected.

Good for your kid

NM

My son had a gay roommate that was several years older than him. He moved to another place after the roommate started sexually harassing him. However, the guy still kept stalking our son since they had some of the same classes. After talking to a retired FBI agent, he advised us to immediately relocate our son. That same day we helped our son pack up all his stuff, and then moved him out of state to live with another relative for several months. The guy kept calling our home looking for our son, but eventually he gave up. Our son enrolled in a different college.

HTownAg98 said:

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Your child is going to have to learn to deal with people that aren't like them, and will share little or no commonalities. It's called growing up and being an adult. His roommate will likely be going through the same thing. Unless it becomes untenable because of pressure from the roommate to do certain things that makes him uncomfortable, you should let them figure it out on their own. That's another thing that's called being an adult.

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Lol, dealing with them is one thing. Living with them is another. But you know that.

combat wombat said:

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I wonder if the roommate has ever had a positive relationship with a real Christian? The Bible tells us to love one another. This could be a great opportunity for your child, it could be a challenge. It could be both.

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Love doesn't mean be tolerant of evil or sin. I'm sure you would not be ok with confronting the gay person with scripture about the wages of their sin. Are you ok with OPs child taking on a conversion project?

Keegan99 said:

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agz win said:

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Stop the helicopter parenting and let your kid make adult decisions.

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That's fine as long as the kid has a full understanding of the risks.

This isn't a generation ago where a roommate conflict would just result in a room switch and no one outside of the dorm would know or care much about it.

In 2022, a conflict could result in the kid being suspended or expelled, and named-and-shamed on social media.

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