I have almost a Pavlovian reaction to women with obvious/visible tattoos only bc that already signals to me she makes bad decisions and that's generally gone well for me in the past (in the short term, naturally) but I'm trying to break myself of that.
Why is dating after 35 such a beating?
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Last: 7 mo ago by aeon-ag
Your Age: 35
Looking for: woman
Age: 31 - 40
Height: don't care
Physique: generally fit and takes care of herself (I know that's broad but fit can look very different on different people)
Smoking: no
Drinking: in moderation - I'm sober so that makes this more of a thing
Education/Career: prefer college degree, stable career
Kids: open to them having kids already but needs to be the right situation, would like kids of my own
Other: understanding of my sobriety and what that means is extremely important, at least understanding and preferred support of my training and the schedule that requires, them having activities/hobbies/whatever that they care about and are engaged in, interested in real conversations and topics (i.e. not just social media driven stuff), and a healthy mix of independence and support
Looking for: woman
Age: 31 - 40
Height: don't care
Physique: generally fit and takes care of herself (I know that's broad but fit can look very different on different people)
Smoking: no
Drinking: in moderation - I'm sober so that makes this more of a thing
Education/Career: prefer college degree, stable career
Kids: open to them having kids already but needs to be the right situation, would like kids of my own
Other: understanding of my sobriety and what that means is extremely important, at least understanding and preferred support of my training and the schedule that requires, them having activities/hobbies/whatever that they care about and are engaged in, interested in real conversations and topics (i.e. not just social media driven stuff), and a healthy mix of independence and support
Ag_N_Houston said:
Age: 20-33 is right where you want to be. That's ideal world conditions at any sex or gender.
Height: Inversely proportional to weight. That 5'9 and above is your sweet spot. Shorter and its a constant battle with weight, and poor lifestyle choices will bleed over and drag you down. So you got to watch for that.
Smoking: I almost prefer a smoker nowadays. My absolute best relationships have all been with smokers. All things considered. You go out and smoke out the house, and away from the house all you want. No smoking in the house. But overall, I don't mind if you smoke, and I'd encourage it. It really keeps the weight off and the appetite down for most folks. Folks that smokes's craving for sugar and carbs are way down. The nicotine overpowers that neural network. And it gives them something to do and not be right up on your ass. Smokers are generally more content than nonsmokers. In my experience.
Drinking: Nope. I ain't about people drinking and going crazy. If you the type of person where alcohol is a stimulant. I don't want that on or near my premises. I've come to Jesus on that. Smoke all the weed you want. Be high all day every day. Idgaf. But no drinking on a regular basis. Especially if you over 35. Which you shouldn't be. If you reading this far.
Education/Career: I don't give a **** what you do. If you working. I'f you ain't working. Have something to to that don't involve me. I don't need to see you more then 4 -5 hours a day. I don't want to be going to a bunch of work bs and social events. That **** will suck the life right out you. Its a nightmare. So a 'low achiever' is a real plus in my book.
Kids: No kids. I got a non kid friendly lifestyle. I don't want to see a kid, hear a kid or have a kid calling on the phone while Im trying to relax.
I think a low achiever smoker fits you perfectly given how inarticulate your writing is. Yikes!Stat Monitor Repairman said:Ag_N_Houston said:
Age: 20-33 is right where you want to be. That's ideal world conditions at any sex or gender.
Height: Inversely proportional to weight. That 5'9 and above is your sweet spot. Shorter and its a constant battle with weight, and poor lifestyle choices will bleed over and drag you down. So you got to watch for that.
Smoking: I almost prefer a smoker nowadays. My absolute best relationships have all been with smokers. All things considered. You go out and smoke out the house, and away from the house all you want. No smoking in the house. But overall, I don't mind if you smoke, and I'd encourage it. It really keeps the weight off and the appetite down for most folks. Folks that smokes's craving for sugar and carbs are way down. The nicotine overpowers that neural network. And it gives them something to do and not be right up on your ass. Smokers are generally more content than nonsmokers. In my experience.
Drinking: Nope. I ain't about people drinking and going crazy. If you the type of person where alcohol is a stimulant. I don't want that on or near my premises. I've come to Jesus on that. Smoke all the weed you want. Be high all day every day. Idgaf. But no drinking on a regular basis. Especially if you over 35. Which you shouldn't be. If you reading this far.
Education/Career: I don't give a **** what you do. If you working. I'f you ain't working. Have something to to that don't involve me. I don't need to see you more then 4 -5 hours a day. I don't want to be going to a bunch of work bs and social events. That **** will suck the life right out you. Its a nightmare. So a 'low achiever' is a real plus in my book.
Kids: No kids. I got a non kid friendly lifestyle. I don't want to see a kid, hear a kid or have a kid calling on the phone while Im trying to relax.
P.s. glad you don't want to be around kids.
Your Age: 42
Looking for: to be left alone
Age: n/a
Height: n/a
Physique: n/a
Smoking: n/a
Drinking: n/a
Education/Career: n/a
Kids: n/a
Other: n/a
jwoodmd said:I think a low achiever smoker fits you perfectly given how inarticulate your writing is. Yikes!Stat Monitor Repairman said:Ag_N_Houston said:
Age: 20-33 is right where you want to be. That's ideal world conditions at any sex or gender.
Height: Inversely proportional to weight. That 5'9 and above is your sweet spot. Shorter and its a constant battle with weight, and poor lifestyle choices will bleed over and drag you down. So you got to watch for that.
Smoking: I almost prefer a smoker nowadays. My absolute best relationships have all been with smokers. All things considered. You go out and smoke out the house, and away from the house all you want. No smoking in the house. But overall, I don't mind if you smoke, and I'd encourage it. It really keeps the weight off and the appetite down for most folks. Folks that smokes's craving for sugar and carbs are way down. The nicotine overpowers that neural network. And it gives them something to do and not be right up on your ass. Smokers are generally more content than nonsmokers. In my experience.
Drinking: Nope. I ain't about people drinking and going crazy. If you the type of person where alcohol is a stimulant. I don't want that on or near my premises. I've come to Jesus on that. Smoke all the weed you want. Be high all day every day. Idgaf. But no drinking on a regular basis. Especially if you over 35. Which you shouldn't be. If you reading this far.
Education/Career: I don't give a **** what you do. If you working. I'f you ain't working. Have something to to that don't involve me. I don't need to see you more then 4 -5 hours a day. I don't want to be going to a bunch of work bs and social events. That **** will suck the life right out you. Its a nightmare. So a 'low achiever' is a real plus in my book.
Kids: No kids. I got a non kid friendly lifestyle. I don't want to see a kid, hear a kid or have a kid calling on the phone while Im trying to relax.
P.s. glad you don't want to be around kids.
He had to have copied that from somewhere. No way does a guy say he is immediately judgy about tattoos but encourages smoking.
But, why??
Your Age: 40
Looking for: A decent male human being
Age: 35-55
Height: 5'10+
Physique: Healthy height/weight proportion. Prefer someone active for lifestyle reasons more so than superficial reasons.
Smoking: Don't mind occasional cigars as I enjoy one a couple times a year myself. No cigarettes or vaping.
Drinking: Yep.
Education/Career: Don't care about education, but stable career or source of income.
Kids: Doesn't matter.
Other: I don't want a relationship. Just someone cool to hang out with a couple times a week, who enjoys at least some of the things I enjoy, will go with me to the occasional social event and be cool to my friends, won't expect me to be in constant communication or get pissy because I've got other things happening in my life, won't want to meet my kid or have me meet his, and won't care if I go out with other people.
Looking for: A decent male human being
Age: 35-55
Height: 5'10+
Physique: Healthy height/weight proportion. Prefer someone active for lifestyle reasons more so than superficial reasons.
Smoking: Don't mind occasional cigars as I enjoy one a couple times a year myself. No cigarettes or vaping.
Drinking: Yep.
Education/Career: Don't care about education, but stable career or source of income.
Kids: Doesn't matter.
Other: I don't want a relationship. Just someone cool to hang out with a couple times a week, who enjoys at least some of the things I enjoy, will go with me to the occasional social event and be cool to my friends, won't expect me to be in constant communication or get pissy because I've got other things happening in my life, won't want to meet my kid or have me meet his, and won't care if I go out with other people.
Because I like to be left alone.chiken said:
But, why??
When I was single I dated younger gals and older gals and same age. It wasn't about the age. It was about their maturity and personality.
I know some women older than me that never really grew up. They were "kept" women and find themselves single and think they should be taken care of and not work and that life is about making sure everyone on social media believes that whether they are is the greatest place and experience EVAH.
There are others who are single and have been awhile and have great careers and focus on that and date when they feel like it. They would be great catches for some lucky guys and they know this and they don't care. They did that already.
Kids was never a big concern for me. I didn't have some hard and fast rule against kids. Someone over 35 with no kids and no desire to have kids should have a good reason why that is the case. If it's just because they want to party and get trips to Tulum to take selfies with girlfriends, then no thanks. I wouldn't trust them to take care of my dog and am glad they have not reproduced.
If they do not want kids because "I don't want to put my body through that, I have worked too hard to get this physique", then that's a red flag. That amount of vanity tells me "nah, we won't be compatible". And that's fine. Go hang with your CrossFit bros with their flat billed hats and their tribal art tattoos.
Smoking? No. If you are too stupid to accept scientific facts about smoking or don't have the self control to quit, no way. Plus you smell like a burning litter box.
Drinking? Not to excess. No sloppy drunks.
Height doesn't matter. I've been out with gals that were 4'11" and some that were 6'. A tiny woman is "petite". A shorter guy is just short. It's a double standard.
Man I'm glad I don't have to deal with this. Good luck to you singles!
I know some women older than me that never really grew up. They were "kept" women and find themselves single and think they should be taken care of and not work and that life is about making sure everyone on social media believes that whether they are is the greatest place and experience EVAH.
There are others who are single and have been awhile and have great careers and focus on that and date when they feel like it. They would be great catches for some lucky guys and they know this and they don't care. They did that already.
Kids was never a big concern for me. I didn't have some hard and fast rule against kids. Someone over 35 with no kids and no desire to have kids should have a good reason why that is the case. If it's just because they want to party and get trips to Tulum to take selfies with girlfriends, then no thanks. I wouldn't trust them to take care of my dog and am glad they have not reproduced.
If they do not want kids because "I don't want to put my body through that, I have worked too hard to get this physique", then that's a red flag. That amount of vanity tells me "nah, we won't be compatible". And that's fine. Go hang with your CrossFit bros with their flat billed hats and their tribal art tattoos.
Smoking? No. If you are too stupid to accept scientific facts about smoking or don't have the self control to quit, no way. Plus you smell like a burning litter box.
Drinking? Not to excess. No sloppy drunks.
Height doesn't matter. I've been out with gals that were 4'11" and some that were 6'. A tiny woman is "petite". A shorter guy is just short. It's a double standard.
Man I'm glad I don't have to deal with this. Good luck to you singles!
The thing that would excite me most right now is someone I can hang out with who doesn't spiral out of control with self loathing or self delusion at the slightest inconvenience and someone who wants me in their life as opposed to someone who (depending on the day) thinks she needs me in her life. That is highly erotic to me.
But I'll play along i guess?
Looking for:
Age: 30+
Height: 4' +
Physique: something between twig and bowling ball
Smoking: 420 friendly
Drinking: not to excess 5-6 nights a week
Education/Career: should have something going on, yes.
Kids: 2 or fewer baby daddies
Other: limits herself to 2 or 3 social media accounts. If your Instagram automatically updates your Twitter and Facebook feeds and you're sending snaps to all your peeps so they can see your latest tiktok, leave me the fck alone.
But I'll play along i guess?
Looking for:
Age: 30+
Height: 4' +
Physique: something between twig and bowling ball
Smoking: 420 friendly
Drinking: not to excess 5-6 nights a week
Education/Career: should have something going on, yes.
Kids: 2 or fewer baby daddies
Other: limits herself to 2 or 3 social media accounts. If your Instagram automatically updates your Twitter and Facebook feeds and you're sending snaps to all your peeps so they can see your latest tiktok, leave me the fck alone.
Your Age: 34, soaking up my last few months of youth
Looking for: life buddy
Age: open to a range
Height: open to a range
Physique: open to a range, but my life is geared around being active so that usually lands me with fit people. Must love hiking and mountain biking at minimum
Smoking: big no
Drinking: don't care as long as it's not a life focus. I'm not a partier and don't seek out that life. Will have a few beers amongst friends
Education/Career: no formal educational requirements, but I like a smart partner that is a deep thinker that is open to debates and can have such debates without getting angry
Kids: probably my biggest sticker point- I do not want kids of my own nor do I want to raise someone else's. I'm ok if the guy has grown kids.
Other: character is the most important thing to me. Showing strength through kindness/doing the right thing even when it's hard. Almost as tricky to find as a guy who doesn't have his biological clock going off.
Looking for: life buddy
Age: open to a range
Height: open to a range
Physique: open to a range, but my life is geared around being active so that usually lands me with fit people. Must love hiking and mountain biking at minimum
Smoking: big no
Drinking: don't care as long as it's not a life focus. I'm not a partier and don't seek out that life. Will have a few beers amongst friends
Education/Career: no formal educational requirements, but I like a smart partner that is a deep thinker that is open to debates and can have such debates without getting angry
Kids: probably my biggest sticker point- I do not want kids of my own nor do I want to raise someone else's. I'm ok if the guy has grown kids.
Other: character is the most important thing to me. Showing strength through kindness/doing the right thing even when it's hard. Almost as tricky to find as a guy who doesn't have his biological clock going off.
The problem is all the low achiever smokers already got kids because they irresponsible.jwoodmd said:I think a low achiever smoker fits you perfectly given how inarticulate your writing is. Yikes!Stat Monitor Repairman said:Ag_N_Houston said:
Age: 20-33 is right where you want to be. That's ideal world conditions at any sex or gender.
Height: Inversely proportional to weight. That 5'9 and above is your sweet spot. Shorter and its a constant battle with weight, and poor lifestyle choices will bleed over and drag you down. So you got to watch for that.
Smoking: I almost prefer a smoker nowadays. My absolute best relationships have all been with smokers. All things considered. You go out and smoke out the house, and away from the house all you want. No smoking in the house. But overall, I don't mind if you smoke, and I'd encourage it. It really keeps the weight off and the appetite down for most folks. Folks that smokes's craving for sugar and carbs are way down. The nicotine overpowers that neural network. And it gives them something to do and not be right up on your ass. Smokers are generally more content than nonsmokers. In my experience.
Drinking: Nope. I ain't about people drinking and going crazy. If you the type of person where alcohol is a stimulant. I don't want that on or near my premises. I've come to Jesus on that. Smoke all the weed you want. Be high all day every day. Idgaf. But no drinking on a regular basis. Especially if you over 35. Which you shouldn't be. If you reading this far.
Education/Career: I don't give a **** what you do. If you working. I'f you ain't working. Have something to to that don't involve me. I don't need to see you more then 4 -5 hours a day. I don't want to be going to a bunch of work bs and social events. That **** will suck the life right out you. Its a nightmare. So a 'low achiever' is a real plus in my book.
Kids: No kids. I got a non kid friendly lifestyle. I don't want to see a kid, hear a kid or have a kid calling on the phone while Im trying to relax.
P.s. glad you don't want to be around kids.
I guess what Im saying is, Im looking for someone thats irresponsible enough to smoke but responsible enough to not have kids. Thats pretty rare though.
Yeah me too on the kids thing. Thats a really really hard sell. I don't know how people do it. Y'all must be made of sterner stuff.
You all need to go back and add your location. How can this become a dating thread without that crucial information
Ag_N_Houston said:
My username checks out!
Didn't someone think it meant North Houston?
Former Navy doctor I've had a couple dates with listed her height as 5'8". Lol not sure if I quite buy that but I certainly like her.
I fit all these quite well - just need to get permission with the wife on the bold part!aglaohfour said:
Your Age: 40
Looking for: A decent male human being
Age: 35-55
Height: 5'10+
Physique: Healthy height/weight proportion. Prefer someone active for lifestyle reasons more so than superficial reasons.
Smoking: Don't mind occasional cigars as I enjoy one a couple times a year myself. No cigarettes or vaping.
Drinking: Yep.
Education/Career: Don't care about education, but stable career or source of income.
Kids: Doesn't matter.
Other: I don't want a relationship. Just someone cool to hang out with a couple times a week, who enjoys at least some of the things I enjoy, will go with me to the occasional social event and be cool to my friends, won't expect me to be in constant communication or get pissy because I've got other things happening in my life, won't want to meet my kid or have me meet his, and won't care if I go out with other people.
JobSecurity said:
You all need to go back and add your location. How can this become a dating thread without that crucial information
I already know No one is in Florida.
Geralt of Rivia said:
The lady I've been dating for about the last month is 44 with two HS aged kids. Fingers crossed that things keep going well
Narrator: It did not keep going well
Pirate04 said:JobSecurity said:
You all need to go back and add your location. How can this become a dating thread without that crucial information
I already know No one is in Florida.
Dates with Florida Man sound like an adventure. I love his appearances in the news!
No one in Florida would date an aviation warrant officer, 36 years old, with a degree? Probably a pretty good personality too? No? You sound like a freaking standout of a girl.
Geralt of Rivia said:Geralt of Rivia said:
The lady I've been dating for about the last month is 44 with two HS aged kids. Fingers crossed that things keep going well
Narrator: It did not keep going well
Ag_N_Houston said:
Technically still checks out.
Ag_N_Houston said:
Your Age: 37
Looking for: female from birth
Age: 25-45
Height: doesn't matter
Physique: not obese
Smoking: prefer non
Drinking: their choice
Education/Career: whatever
Kids: no kids under 2
Other: must appreciate me being a dork
Jeez this seems like such a sad thread.
I mentioned a couple of sad stories but I was not the only one.
EFE said:Like divide the the year by 4 and you get 1/4's... So every three months or so, the guy I know from my story flies to Vegas to drain the poisonOgre09 said:
Quarterly???
can we get an update on your quarterly guy? How'd he do in Q2? Is he pacing well for Q3?
cisgenderedAggie said:
Jeez this seems like such a sad thread.
I miss the old Aggroid
It was the two HS aged kids, wasn't it.maroon barchetta said:Geralt of Rivia said:Narrator: It did not keep going wellGeralt of Rivia said:
The lady I've been dating for about the last month is 44 with two HS aged kids. Fingers crossed that things keep going well
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