Why is dating after 35 such a beating?

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Incel
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That's pretty good.
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Stat Monitor Repairman said:



Who comes up with this absolute filth?
why do single moms post pics with their kids on dating apps? No real man is going to lock that **** down and raised another mans kids...Hilarious.
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713nervy said:

Incel


this word makes me sad as someone who is involuntary celibate. that word had been co-opted by weird woman hating manchildren when it really should be reserved for those of us that are too ugly to **** or too shiddy of a person to date
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Alan Combs Zombie said:

Stat Monitor Repairman said:



Who comes up with this absolute filth?
why do single moms post pics with their kids on dating apps? No real man is going to lock that **** down and raised another mans kids...Hilarious.


Men do it too and it's gross. I would never. I politely decline to answer even basic questions about my child on dating apps. If someone persists in asking, they get blocked.
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Did you ever start dating that guy we talked about?
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I would guess men do it to show they are not shallow hookup seekers but are mature and have life experiences and show you they have real priorities besides finding a date.
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Ag_N_Houston said:

I like it when guys posts pictures of their "princess". It shows me that I need to swipe left and not invest any time.

I will and have dated someone with a kid, but not little kids.


Way to shut out the widowers
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Ag_N_Houston said:

I will and have dated someone with a kid, but not little kids.


I agree, I think my limit at this point would be if their kids were at least of High School age. That way if they said "Your not my dad", I could respond with, "you're right, I know how to make your mom scream with pleasure", mic drop and walk away.
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soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35
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chiken said:

Did you ever start dating that guy we talked about?


We went out a few times and he is a great person, but we really don't have any chemistry so he's just going to remain a friend.
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Ag_N_Houston said:

I think there are a lot of women that would love to meet a man with kids. I know one person that really wanted kids. She got divorced with no kids. A few months later, she met a man with 3 small kids. She lives with him and treats them as her own. That just isn't me.
Yeah you're probably right. I finally gave in to the pressure and made a hinge account over the weekend. I've actually been a little surprised with how many matches I've had. I'm in Houston too and noticing a ton of aggies.. makes me wonder how many are on here
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JobSecurity said:

Ag_N_Houston said:

I think there are a lot of women that would love to meet a man with kids. I know one person that really wanted kids. She got divorced with no kids. A few months later, she met a man with 3 small kids. She lives with him and treats them as her own. That just isn't me.
Yeah you're probably right. I finally gave in to the pressure and made a hinge account over the weekend. I've actually been a little surprised with how many matches I've had. I'm in Houston too and noticing a ton of aggies.. makes me wonder how many are on here


Lots of Aggies on this site!
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JobSecurity said:

soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35

Lots of women don't mind. I became a stepmom at 26 and I definitely wasn't deterred by the fact that my ex had kids. I adored them (still do, we are very close) in fact.

At 40 I'm not interested in being an involved stepmom to young children again though. So much heartache involved in loving children who aren't yours. Really what I was referring to as icky is when it appears that men are using their kids to virtue signal that they're such great guys. If you have kids, that's not a deal breaker by any means. But you don't need to tell me what a great dad you are. If you are a great dad, I will see that as an attractive quality and it will be obvious as I get to know you.
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single between 26 and 36? my PMs are open
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JobSecurity said:

soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35


For the women it seems like it's more "my last relationship failed and I want this one to make me enormously happy and I've watched The View enough to know I'm a strong and powerful woman and the focus should be totally on me if he's serious."

My daughter has a single friend who ain't getting any younger who has been out with several guys that have kids. One of them seemed really great and a good fit for her. She doesn't want to share time or attention.

She will die a spinster. Her dad is widowed in the past two years and he has women beating down his door. He's getting more dates than his lovely single daughter. But all of his dates also have kids that are grown.
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To each, their own I guess. I don't have a dog in this fight, but I'll say that men with kid pics can prove some bit of virility while women with kid pics are more of a baggage situation.

Hoping I'm never in the situation to have to consider the prospect of raising another's children.

Dudes with kids are more desirable than women with kids. Women 35+ with no kids are damaged goods for some reason or another.

Of course I am making generalizations and 9 out 10 women who read this post will be triggered. To those, I urge taking a deep breathe and accepting the truth about men and women.
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No kid is better off with you ****ing their mom.

Thats all it boils down to.

When you don't date single moms … you are really doing it for the kids.
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JobSecurity said:

soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35


Don't get divorced
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aglaohfour said:

chiken said:

Did you ever start dating that guy we talked about?


We went out a few times and he is a great person, but we really don't have any chemistry so he's just going to remain a friend.


Translation, small peen, not tall enough , bald, doesn't make enough money
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maroon barchetta said:

JobSecurity said:

soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35


For the women it seems like it's more "my last relationship failed and I want this one to make me enormously happy and I've watched The View enough to know I'm a strong and powerful woman and the focus should be totally on me if he's serious."

My daughter has a single friend who ain't getting any younger who has been out with several guys that have kids. One of them seemed really great and a good fit for her. She doesn't want to share time or attention.

She will die a spinster. Her dad is widowed in the past two years and he has women beating down his door. He's getting more dates than his lovely single daughter. But all of his dates also have kids that are grown.
I had a lady tell me she only dated widows because they know how to have relationships.
Being in TexAgs jail changes a man……..no, not really
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Hydrocele_aggie said:

JobSecurity said:

soo what are people with kids supposed to do? No I'm not looking for someone to raise them, but they're kind of a big part of my life? Gonna have to be okay with them being around. Not hiding that and wasting anybody's time

sounds more like this thread should be about dating with kids, not dating over 35


Don't get divorced

Two people have to decide to get married.
Only one has to decide to divorce.
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Who comes up with this absolute filth?
I've seen every one of these things back when I was on dating apps, but never this many dealbreakers rolled into one! Reality can be harsh sometimes.
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People seem certainly more communicative and up front at 38 than 28.
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Green2Maroon said:

People seem certainly more communicative and up front at 38 than 28.
Some are way too up front: https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/florida-pastor-charged-performing-sex-27358092
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Ag_N_Houston said:

I have exactly none of those things on my profile. I also use unfiltered pictures. I've been asked on 3 dates in the past 2 weeks.

One guy deleted me before I actually answered. One was clearly looking for a hookup. One I accepted, but it definitely won't be more than friends. I was honest and told.
That's good, I think the majority just disappear.

There's probably a guy OLD profile starter pack somewhere on reddit too. Over here friends say it would be boat pic (because, Charleston), "look at this fish I just caught!," driving selfie in hat and sunglasses, looking pissed off at the gym, one taken from a bar, and the optional and universally hated posing with a dead deer.
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Driving selfies are weird. Is it the lighting? Is that what started the trend of "look at me I'm wearing a seatbelt and have on sunglasses!" photos that are so prevalent?
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gotsand said:

Green2Maroon said:

People seem certainly more communicative and up front at 38 than 28.
Some are way too up front: https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/florida-pastor-charged-performing-sex-27358092

The pastor bails on his over 35 date and decides he'd rather go beat off in the starbuck's parking lot.
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jwoodmd said:

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Penny


Guys - little inside info - she's over 35


lol yall keep posting celebrities and are like- "she's over 35 you wouldn't date her?" Like this is some kind of gotcha.

It's not.

Celebrities are the exception to almost everything.

1) I guarantee you she looks different without a team of stylists, hairdressers, platic surgeons, and makeup artists
2) As a celebrity she sits on the upper echelon of the dating hierarchy regardless of age. Because she is a celebrity, dating her confers alot of advantages that dating a 20 year old run of the mill hottie would not- money, prestige, etc. So to accurately judge if her status in the dating pool took a hit as she aged we would need to compare her to a mid 20's celebrity counterpart, not a mid 20's regular jane.
3) willing to **** and wanting to date with an eye on marriage are 2 different things.

But oh yes....let's toss up pics of the hottest women in the world and pretend that is how MOST women over 35 look.

LOL it's so sad that yall are so bitter about reality that yall bring it up every chance you get.
You are such a Cliff Clavin…


Well actually historically the Clavens were descendents of the Egyptian Clavonesei who were the close advisers of the pharaohs in Egypt and later Alexander the Great, Charlomaine, and the later Abraham Lincoln.

Valued for our large amount of knowledge and wisdom the Clavens have been advisers to most of the greatest empires ever to exist.
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The Fife said:

Ag_N_Houston said:

I have exactly none of those things on my profile. I also use unfiltered pictures. I've been asked on 3 dates in the past 2 weeks.

One guy deleted me before I actually answered. One was clearly looking for a hookup. One I accepted, but it definitely won't be more than friends. I was honest and told.
That's good, I think the majority just disappear.

There's probably a guy OLD profile starter pack somewhere on reddit too. Over here friends say it would be boat pic (because, Charleston), "look at this fish I just caught!," driving selfie in hat and sunglasses, looking pissed off at the gym, one taken from a bar, and the optional and universally hated posing with a dead deer.


In other words, 'heres list of my hobbies that you can look forward to nagging me about after we start dating.'
 
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