TheEternalOptimist said:
I find it's very hard to explain the ethnic aspect of the war to Americans who have very little cultural understanding of pre-1991 Soviet Republics, and how 3-4 generations of people in the USSR were essentially moved, en masse, to different Republics in an attempt to Russify them which started under Stalin and continued into the Gorbachev era.
My friends were in Chisinau (Capital of Moldovan SSR) at the time. Their father was Russian and his grandparents were forcibly moved from Southern Russia just after WW2 to Moldova. So his home was Moldova even though he was Russian. He served in the Afghan-Soviet war, and met a Ukranian-Moldovan woman with family in Kiev. The family settled in Chisinau, but were ethnically mixed but linguistically unified. Then Dec 26, 1991 found them strangers in their own homes - as Moldovan 'friends' and people they knew demanded 'Russians Out!' .... they fled to Moscow where they were there was some ethnic tension, but not much, given Moscow's cosmopolitan composition.
Since 2014 - the family has found itself divide on opinion, divided on two sides of a war, and now essentially geographically isolated from each other. From the perspective of many of them - this is the result of the Greater Russian Empire not being restored at the end of the Soviet Union. For some in Ukraine (but NOT ALL) it is seen as a war of defense against a foreign invader.