Hoyt Ag said:
Curious how many posters so far are married folks commenting on the dating scene in the USA.
There is no way any sanctimonious F16 posters would EVER cheat on their wives or gfs.torrid said:Hoyt Ag said:
Curious how many posters so far are married folks commenting on the dating scene in the USA.
Doesn't mean they aren't on dating apps.
This is all bs.JWinTX said:
I do feel sorry for guys that fall into the incel definition. I'd imagine that life is majorly depressing to feel that isolated and different. Their social skills lack, which often makes up for a lack of good looks. Women tend to love having someone that they can flaunt in front of their friends (Chad), but they also need Chad to be something he can't be, which is really truly into being with them. Hence, they try their best to latch on, but it isn't gonna happen.
What I think is completely wrong with the culture is what manifests the incel in the first place. The hookup culture. Sleeping with someone just for the sake of it is as flawed as it's ever been, but now, more women think it's the way to go, too. Yet another reason why the Bible was right to say sex in marriage is holy and sanctified. Even if you aren't religious, it's still a great model to go by. And if you really think about it clearly, the best women you've known are usually the good girls that are church going. The good girl is the one that the bad guys and good guys go after, while the bad girl is really only attractive to bad guys, i.e., Chad. So, in closing, go to church, guys. Get yourself right with God. Learn how to be a great man. And expect God to bless you with someone who will be a great fit. Trust me, this was me, some 30 years ago. And it worked. It still works.
Bill Clinternet said:
This is actually a good thing.
You must become the person you wish to attract.
It is that simple.
Pookers said:Looks about right.Rapier108 said:
This was my experience on dating apps. I met several successful, grounded good women that wanted the same in a man.evan_aggie said:
I got divorced and started dating again in my early 30s. Holy hell was it eye opening, but a ****ing blast.
I'll never forget having 10 straight days of dates lined up with a new gal each time. Did it once but exhausting.
It was a necessary experience to realize how much I enjoyed my wife's company (got married again!) and loved her.
Despite what many think, many dating apps are just fine and you will meet lots of normal people. Most women are looking for someone who can plan activities and make decisions for them and have a stable career.
It's been years since I was on Tinder, but that sounds about right. Getting "matches" was easy...most of them were bots, men, prank profiles, and so on.Pookers said:
I doubt 192 matches per year is average for the average guy.
Bill Clinternet said:This is all bs.JWinTX said:
I do feel sorry for guys that fall into the incel definition. I'd imagine that life is majorly depressing to feel that isolated and different. Their social skills lack, which often makes up for a lack of good looks. Women tend to love having someone that they can flaunt in front of their friends (Chad), but they also need Chad to be something he can't be, which is really truly into being with them. Hence, they try their best to latch on, but it isn't gonna happen.
What I think is completely wrong with the culture is what manifests the incel in the first place. The hookup culture. Sleeping with someone just for the sake of it is as flawed as it's ever been, but now, more women think it's the way to go, too. Yet another reason why the Bible was right to say sex in marriage is holy and sanctified. Even if you aren't religious, it's still a great model to go by. And if you really think about it clearly, the best women you've known are usually the good girls that are church going. The good girl is the one that the bad guys and good guys go after, while the bad girl is really only attractive to bad guys, i.e., Chad. So, in closing, go to church, guys. Get yourself right with God. Learn how to be a great man. And expect God to bless you with someone who will be a great fit. Trust me, this was me, some 30 years ago. And it worked. It still works.
Be the person you want to attract. You dont need God or the church to do that.
If you want a *****, be a *****. If you want someone selective, be selective.
If you want someone physically attractive, be physically attractive.
A good dose of epicureanism combined with SECULAR Judaism is all you need to live a good life.
FFS, all I've said on this thread is that I SEE plenty of average guys in bars doing great with women that are pretty good looking. Perhaps since I'm in my 50's and go to bars that aren't full of young people it's different. But even walking around I see plenty of average Joes (4-6) with women that are at least average looking (5-7).Quote:
We don't represent reality, stop using yourself or this forum as an example and open your eyes. What do you think will happen when a large portion of men give up?
Proposition Joe said:
Dating amongst young people is just fine. The guys that were getting dates 50 years ago are still getting dates now.
Some of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago now are (being a nerd is no longer taboo).
And many of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago still aren't now -- they are just blogging and posting research about it a lot more to show "it's the system!" rather than their own lack of game.
Now are a higher percentage of women going to find themselves in their mid to late 30's without a mate due to grossly unrealistic standards? Sure. And the more that happens, the more things re-calibrate.
AggieKeith15 said:Proposition Joe said:
Dating amongst young people is just fine. The guys that were getting dates 50 years ago are still getting dates now.
Some of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago now are (being a nerd is no longer taboo).
And many of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago still aren't now -- they are just blogging and posting research about it a lot more to show "it's the system!" rather than their own lack of game.
Now are a higher percentage of women going to find themselves in their mid to late 30's without a mate due to grossly unrealistic standards? Sure. And the more that happens, the more things re-calibrate.
There are artifical forces making things as they are. These things will not recalibrate anymore than inflation to our dollars will as the Fed keeps printing.
Your argument that "everything works out" is naive and overly simplified.
93MarineHorn said:FFS, all I've said on this thread is that I SEE plenty of average guys in bars doing great with women that are pretty good looking. Perhaps since I'm in my 50's and go to bars that aren't full of young people it's different. But even walking around I see plenty of average Joes (4-6) with women that are at least average looking (5-7).Quote:
We don't represent reality, stop using yourself or this forum as an example and open your eyes. What do you think will happen when a large portion of men give up?
You make it seem like the majority of women are just waiting around until it's their turn to screw some hot guy and hopefully "land" him. That's not what I'm seeing. Not remotely.
Proposition Joe said:AggieKeith15 said:Proposition Joe said:
Dating amongst young people is just fine. The guys that were getting dates 50 years ago are still getting dates now.
Some of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago now are (being a nerd is no longer taboo).
And many of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago still aren't now -- they are just blogging and posting research about it a lot more to show "it's the system!" rather than their own lack of game.
Now are a higher percentage of women going to find themselves in their mid to late 30's without a mate due to grossly unrealistic standards? Sure. And the more that happens, the more things re-calibrate.
There are artifical forces making things as they are. These things will not recalibrate anymore than inflation to our dollars will as the Fed keeps printing.
Your argument that "everything works out" is naive and overly simplified.
If you think things won't recalibrate and women won't find themselves realizing they need to settle for lower standards, then you don't understand biological clocks.
As plenty of posters have said -- there's plenty of people hooking up at bars. There's plenty of people hooking up at tailgates. There's plenty of people hooking up at parties.
A lot of them ugly. A lot of them outkicking their coverage.
It takes effort though. And a lot of people these days are just really, really lazy.
AggieKeith15 said:93MarineHorn said:FFS, all I've said on this thread is that I SEE plenty of average guys in bars doing great with women that are pretty good looking. Perhaps since I'm in my 50's and go to bars that aren't full of young people it's different. But even walking around I see plenty of average Joes (4-6) with women that are at least average looking (5-7).Quote:
We don't represent reality, stop using yourself or this forum as an example and open your eyes. What do you think will happen when a large portion of men give up?
You make it seem like the majority of women are just waiting around until it's their turn to screw some hot guy and hopefully "land" him. That's not what I'm seeing. Not remotely.
My counterpoint to much of what is being suggested on here is that you have to go to a bar to meet women. I would argue that very few young men and women go to bars. And that those who go to bars are highly active in the dating market.
And on the flip side, the every day approach is not acceptable for the most part like it once used to be (work, at grocery store, etc.). Those are environments where men, unless very attractive/skilled, are way less likely to succeed in the current social media and feminist era.
Zuckerberg and Bezos are at the outer .0001 percent of net worth individuals, and not really indicative of 'dating app' demographics I believe. I also don't think either are witty, but ymmv.LMCane said:
or become a high value man and problem solved
it's not just about being six foot five, it's also about being highly educated, urbane, witty, wealthy and successful in your personal and private life.
Mark Zuckerburg 5 foot 7 inches
Jeff Bezos 5 foot 7 inches
Bill Clinternet said:
A good dose of epicureanism combined with SECULAR Judaism is all you need to live a good life.
Proposition Joe said:
Dating amongst young people is just fine. The guys that were getting dates 50 years ago are still getting dates now.
Some of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago now are (being a nerd is no longer taboo).
And many of the guys that weren't getting dates 50 years ago still aren't now -- they are just blogging and posting research about it a lot more to show "it's the system!" rather than their own lack of game.
Now are a higher percentage of women going to find themselves in their mid to late 30's without a mate due to grossly unrealistic standards? Sure. And the more that happens, the more things re-calibrate.
Trying to frame an entire dating generation because of "what the apps say" is missing that there's plenty of people still going out and meeting/dating without the apps. Apps are for lazy people (or those who convince themselves they just don't have the time).
"Back in my day" single people would have to put in the work to find dates. Either you did so by staying busy in social activities you love, or you did so by hitting the bar scene constantly. People back then would call the bar scene a grind because, yeah, sometimes you got really sick of having to go out 3-4 nights a week to try and meet someone new.
So people got lazy and started using an app and they are shocked that the app spits out results that are going to favor those who look better on the app.
LMCane said:
or become a high value man and problem solved
it's not just about being six foot five, it's also about being highly educated, urbane, witty, wealthy and successful in your personal and private life.
Mark Zuckerburg 5 foot 7 inches
Jeff Bezos 5 foot 7 inches
LMCane said:
or become a high value man and problem solved
it's not just about being six foot five, it's also about being highly educated, urbane, witty, wealthy and successful in your personal and private life.
Mark Zuckerburg 5 foot 7 inches
Jeff Bezos 5 foot 7 inches
93MarineHorn said:FFS, all I've said on this thread is that I SEE plenty of average guys in bars doing great with women that are pretty good looking. Perhaps since I'm in my 50's and go to bars that aren't full of young people it's different. But even walking around I see plenty of average Joes (4-6) with women that are at least average looking (5-7).Quote:
We don't represent reality, stop using yourself or this forum as an example and open your eyes. What do you think will happen when a large portion of men give up?
You make it seem like the majority of women are just waiting around until it's their turn to screw some hot guy and hopefully "land" him. That's not what I'm seeing. Not remotely.
Silent For Too Long said:
Completely false. Those countries fertility rates were plummeting decades before smart phones existed.
That's a much more complicated ball of wax.