Larry Lajitas said:
As someone who just went through a divorce that was finalized in January I can tell you that the world is too big to look into stats. Married for 7 years and together for about a decade. We are both 31. She was having an affair and both my family and hers were shocked and devastated. Our friends were speechless.
I study theology relentlessly. Honestly that and joining the Orthodox Church got me through it. With that said there's always too many moving pieces for us to truly understand. Blame was thrown around constantly between us.
We're so distracted from the eternal. CS Lewis puts it perfectly " It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased."
Oh wow, sorry you had to go through that. That's really rough.
I'm just going to say what I'm deciphering from this entire thread: married people fall out of love. I am guessing that when you were married at age 23-24 you were on cloud nine and the thought of either party being unfaithful was so out there it never crossed your mind. Then at some point things changed. The same happens in marriages where people stay together and there's no cheating.
That is the reason people say marriage is hard. You very well may still love the person but the feeling you had before is gone and people change. Some straight up don't love each other and they divorce.
It makes me sad. I feel like for every 1 happy relationship I see, there are 10 unhappy ones.