combat wombat said:
No one forces you to have sex. A child is always a risk when you have sex. Therefore, you have to be responsible for that possibility.
And I completely agree. I just believe there is a better vehicle than child support. The scenario that the current system causes is often as follows (I'm assuming we are only discussing the fathers that want to be a dad, the deadbeats are a different discussion all together):
Dad gets ordered to pay child support. In order to meet his obligation, he has to work a second job/tons of ot.
Mom decides it isn't enough, takes him back to court to modify. She argues that dad doesnt exercise all his visitation, so the kid isn't with him enough, therefore she needs more cs to pick up his slack.
She wins bc dad has indeed missed some visitation bc he has to be at work to meet the aforementioned obligations.
And she can ask the court to reduce his visitation as well. It becomes a vicious cycle.