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An active-duty member of the United States Armed Services whose Home of Record with the military is Texas is presumed to be a Texas resident, as are his or her spouse and dependent children. A member whose Home of Record is not Texas but who provides the institution Leave and Earnings Statements that show the member has claimed Texas as his or her place of residence for the 12 consecutive months prior to enrollment is presumed to be a Texas resident, as are his or her spouse and dependent children.
If you did not select Texas as your Home of Record when you entered the service, and you have not taken steps to change your permanent residence with the military to Texas, you may still qualify for a waiver under Texas statutes.
Veterans (Retirees and prior service members) must meet requirements for Independent Individuals even if their home of record was Texas. Spouses and dependents of veterans must also meet requirements for either independent or dependent individuals.
https://aggie.tamu.edu/billing-and-payments/residency-for-in-state-tuition/establishing-residency You’re not alone—the Veterans Crisis Line is here for you. You don’t have to be enrolled in VA benefits or health care to call.
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