Just to ease any lingering doubts in your mind, because, I know they are there. My son was diagnosed with stage 2 Wilms' tumor at 27 months.
He's 15 now with a learner's permit, which incites a whole other list of worries!
Unsolicited advice:
- Research the long-term side effects of the chemo. There's nothing that can't be fixed or dealt with. He started playing tee ball when he was four. But, if you know them, you can recognize and move forward.
- Even though you research and know the effects, she may not have ANY of them. My son had only a few (his teeth aren't as white as they should be - fixable, he was a toe-headed blond before chemo - fixable, etc.)
- Nephrectomy scar - I pounded into his brain "Chicks dig guys with scars!" but he still hid it up until a few years ago. Your situation, having a girl, may be completely different. Again, fixable. We also gave him the "that beats the alternative" line.
- Again with scarring - she may have discomfort with scar tissue. They have methods of, for lack of a better word, massaging out the connective-ness of said tissue. Do that early on, if you can. We didn't and should have.
- Get her involved with cancer/survivor charities. Childhood cancer research needs more attention. My son is involved with a 5k charity run that is about to get a national charter. Which, I hope, will help him with "survivor" scholarships in a few years!
If you have any questions, you can email me at jacobwilson at suddenlink dot net.
Again, congrats on a successful journey and best wishes for her and your family.
Jacob