I know you and I can clash now and then, but here's some suggestions from someone who's had this conversation with similar minded people now and then from the other side of the coin.Sea Speed said:AgLA06 said:
The burbs and private school really aren't much of a thing.
People move out for bigger / cheaper homes and better school districts so they "don't' have to pay for private school". What most don't get is it isn't just about the quality of the school, but the type of education you get from private school.
Even though many families don't necessarily claim a particular religion anymore (or the denomination of the school the kids attend), almost to a family they cite morals / ethics and a wholesome caring staff as a major reason they chose private schools on their surveys.
It's the best way to say they chose a Christian environment without saying they chose a Christian environment.
I was actually talking to a friend about this yesterday. We had a suburban home we bought to be zoned to a great elementary. We made the switch to private school and I couldn't be happier. Our purely private school kindergarten student is easily a year ahead of where my oldest was in public school at the same point. My oldest is now reading on a nearly 5th grade level in 2nd grade. The benefits to me are innumerable. I'm so glad we made the switch and personally I am pretty anti religious, but why should I let that get in the way of the best education possible for my kids.
While you may be anti religious, the loving Christian environment plays a huge part in the results you are seeing. It's not the only reason, but in my opinion it sets the tone to allow academic growth and exploration without the same threat of bullying / being made fun of if they fail as other options. There will likely be a time where their stance on a political issue comes at odds with you or the family. Whether it's enough for you to look elsewhere will ultimately be up to you, but I'd suggest keeping in mind what you just said. Instead maybe use it as a conversation point with your kids to explain that there's going to be lots of times in life you don't' agree with your boss / company / whatever, but that doesn't mean you don't understand where they are coming from.
Make sure to socialize your kids outside of the private school friends / sports. The biggest thing private schools tend to struggle with in my opinion is preparing kids for college environments. Not the academics, but setting of large numbers of diverse students on large campuses. Especially large public schools like we went to because everyone tends to be of similar class, morals, etc at private schools. The best thing about private schools are the close, tight nit bubble of similar thinking they are. The worst thing about private schools are the close, tight nit bubble of similar thinking they are.
Take advantage of the great environment and be as involved as you can. You only get one chance. Private schools seem to provide more chances for field trips, class parties, fun days, etc than public schools these days. Being dad can make you feel out of place around all the moms for these things, but my suggestions is to power through and be there when you are home for your kids. They may not say it, but they notice and care.