flown-the-coop said:
There is no ad hom.
It's not withholding disaster relief funds.
And if you have stipulations with money you are providing someone, that is not coercion. You can simply decide not to accept the funds.
Is it coercion to tell you kid not to spend allowance money on drugs or you won't get any more allowance.
You seem to be operating under the assumption that the federal government just "has" money and spends it as it sees fit. In reality, the federal government has money from taxing its population. So your analogy of a parent giving kids an allowance does not work.