BluHorseShu said:It's a good thing no one here has an overweight wife or daughter.aTmAg said:
It's not that I'm afraid of fat people. It's that they disgust me.
This is the internet. We all date, marry, and produce models.
BluHorseShu said:It's a good thing no one here has an overweight wife or daughter.aTmAg said:
It's not that I'm afraid of fat people. It's that they disgust me.
IIIHorn said:
What do they expect to gain by this?
Rapier108 said:Quote:
"Health justice" is becoming a new woke agenda item in universities across the country, as progressive academics try to eliminate "fatphobia," or the cultural stigmatization of obesity, including scrapping the word "obesity" itself.
The University of Illinois Chicago's school of public health defines weight stigma as "the discrimination or stereotyping based on a person's weight," which it claims is "reported at rates comparable to racism and is one of the last types of discrimination still condoned and carried out by public health and medical experts."
"The incidence of weight stigma has increased by 66 percent with the rise of public health campaigns to end the 'obesity epidemic,'" the school says.
The school released a policy brief in October called, "Addressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health," which said the country's focus on body size is "rooted in racism" dating back to Charles Darwin, and it advised against using "extremely stigmatizing" words like "obesity" in favor of terms such as "people in larger bodies."
"Though lifestyle factors such as nutrition and exercise are important, it is essential to note the historical racism and injustices within our current food environment," the brief said. "As presented by Soul Fire Farm, the U.S. food system is built on stolen land using stolen labor from Black and Latinx indigenous people. Not only has this created a large scale food apartheid and trauma for people indigenous to this land, it has caused a disconnection of indigenous people from their cultural practices and identities."
Hey, accepting your body is one thing. Forcing others to "accept" your body is another. Living unhealthy is also another. Also, these people never consider the fact that we evolved to like a certain, healthier, body type. It varies between individuals but overall among our species, there is a (range) sweet spot and if one is over weight or obese, they will fall out of that sweet spot range. It's up to you to feel attractive in your own skin. But perhaps losing weight actually is a great place to start.Quote:
Hi All,
I am about 3.5 years in to my antidiet journey. I have gotten significantly larger through recovery but plateaued about 2 years ago at (what I am assuming to be) my body's happy place. I am definitely a much healthier and happier human than I was during my 15-20 years in the diet-culture cult.
Where I am struggling is feeling good in my skin, feeling attractive and desirable without the need for outside validation. Most days I have a pretty good hang on body neutrality but I also have some really rough days/weeks of feeling horrible about my body.
Where it impacts me the most is in my relationship. My partner is incredibly supportive of my recovery. He is complementary and loving. We have a healthy relationship (thank you recovery).
And...he is a thinner man, conventionally attractive, a good communicator and overall has his life "together" etc. So, when my bad body image days take hold, the dark road I go down is incredibly painful to us both. He handles it like a champ and reassures me, but that reassurance only comforts me for a fleeting time.
I get gripped by thoughts of what he "must actually" think about my body, that he "must" want to have an affair with a thin woman, that one day he will "surely" wake up and realize he could have a "hot" wife and will proceed to leave me and go get one.
Now, I know this is diet culture programming along with trauma responses from past relationships. I know, logically, that there is no evidence to support these fears in this relationship. But, when these thoughts take hold, I start to spiral hard.
My questions are these:
[ol]How do you survive or even thrive through these types of thoughts? I never go into diet behavior but I am getting exhausted by the level of fear and pain they cause me. How do you work towards actually feeling good in your skin, feeling attractive and worthy? I KNOW I am worthy, but when these bad days come, I feel in my bones that I am not. [/ol]I do work with a HAES therapist and she is a huge support. I would just really love to hear some real life experiences and wins of how you may have overcome or improved this in your journey.
Thanks all
BluHorseShu said:It's a good thing no one here has an overweight wife or daughter.aTmAg said:
It's not that I'm afraid of fat people. It's that they disgust me.
tk111 said:
lol that last paragraph. They absolutely overloaded their plate with all of the words from the woke salad bar
Actually, they were doing both.mulch said:
Thankfully Covid vaporized a lot of the fats.
It's called evolution. Survival of the fittest.
Unfortunately the media won't report that being massively overweight is a direct line to Covid death.
So now we have to coddle the ones that remain
We just went through a COVID pandemic where one of the most significant bellweathers to immuno-health was obesity, and we're trying to lessen the stigma of being unhealthy?Rapier108 said:Quote:
"Health justice" is becoming a new woke agenda item in universities across the country, as progressive academics try to eliminate "fatphobia," or the cultural stigmatization of obesity, including scrapping the word "obesity" itself.
The University of Illinois Chicago's school of public health defines weight stigma as "the discrimination or stereotyping based on a person's weight," which it claims is "reported at rates comparable to racism and is one of the last types of discrimination still condoned and carried out by public health and medical experts."
"The incidence of weight stigma has increased by 66 percent with the rise of public health campaigns to end the 'obesity epidemic,'" the school says.
The school released a policy brief in October called, "Addressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health," which said the country's focus on body size is "rooted in racism" dating back to Charles Darwin, and it advised against using "extremely stigmatizing" words like "obesity" in favor of terms such as "people in larger bodies."
"Though lifestyle factors such as nutrition and exercise are important, it is essential to note the historical racism and injustices within our current food environment," the brief said. "As presented by Soul Fire Farm, the U.S. food system is built on stolen land using stolen labor from Black and Latinx indigenous people. Not only has this created a large scale food apartheid and trauma for people indigenous to this land, it has caused a disconnection of indigenous people from their cultural practices and identities."
Ya. I mean reading that post about "recovering" by GAINING weight. Its a Bizzaro World post.MouthBQ98 said:
Kelly Clarkson, is that you?
I can't weightQuote:
How long until we see a lawsuit brought against a thin or fit person b/c they wouldn't date an overweight person? I mean, why not?
FIFY - There's no salad going on there.tk111 said:
lol that last paragraph. They absolutely overloaded their plate with all of the words from thewoke salad barbuffet line
It's just the latest attempt to lower the human population (abortion, homosexual grooming, baby formula shortage, releasing violent criminals, unproven vaccinations, and now fatphobia...did I leave anything out?)Keller6Ag91 said:We just went through a COVID pandemic where one of the most significant bellweathers to immuno-health was obesity, and we're trying to lessen the stigma of being unhealthy?Rapier108 said:Quote:
"Health justice" is becoming a new woke agenda item in universities across the country, as progressive academics try to eliminate "fatphobia," or the cultural stigmatization of obesity, including scrapping the word "obesity" itself.
The University of Illinois Chicago's school of public health defines weight stigma as "the discrimination or stereotyping based on a person's weight," which it claims is "reported at rates comparable to racism and is one of the last types of discrimination still condoned and carried out by public health and medical experts."
"The incidence of weight stigma has increased by 66 percent with the rise of public health campaigns to end the 'obesity epidemic,'" the school says.
The school released a policy brief in October called, "Addressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health," which said the country's focus on body size is "rooted in racism" dating back to Charles Darwin, and it advised against using "extremely stigmatizing" words like "obesity" in favor of terms such as "people in larger bodies."
"Though lifestyle factors such as nutrition and exercise are important, it is essential to note the historical racism and injustices within our current food environment," the brief said. "As presented by Soul Fire Farm, the U.S. food system is built on stolen land using stolen labor from Black and Latinx indigenous people. Not only has this created a large scale food apartheid and trauma for people indigenous to this land, it has caused a disconnection of indigenous people from their cultural practices and identities."
Sheesh. Wisdom takes another hit for the sake of not hurting someone's feelings.
Junction71 said:
Somebody questioned an immigrant on why he wanted to come to America?
His reply: "because all the poor people are fat."
mulch said:
Thankfully Covid vaporized a lot of the fats.
It's called evolution. Survival of the fittest.
Unfortunately the media won't report that being massively overweight is a direct line to Covid death.
So now we have to coddle the ones that remain
This was most definitely created through Mad Libs... one way or the other....Rapier108 said:Quote:
"Health justice" is becoming a new woke agenda item in universities across the country, as progressive academics try to eliminate "fatphobia," or the cultural stigmatization of obesity, including scrapping the word "obesity" itself.
The University of Illinois Chicago's school of public health defines weight stigma as "the discrimination or stereotyping based on a person's weight," which it claims is "reported at rates comparable to racism and is one of the last types of discrimination still condoned and carried out by public health and medical experts."
"The incidence of weight stigma has increased by 66 percent with the rise of public health campaigns to end the 'obesity epidemic,'" the school says.
The school released a policy brief in October called, "Addressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health," which said the country's focus on body size is "rooted in racism" dating back to Charles Darwin, and it advised against using "extremely stigmatizing" words like "obesity" in favor of terms such as "people in larger bodies."
"Though lifestyle factors such as nutrition and exercise are important, it is essential to note the historical racism and injustices within our current food environment," the brief said. "As presented by Soul Fire Farm, the U.S. food system is built on stolen land using stolen labor from Black and Latinx indigenous people. Not only has this created a large scale food apartheid and trauma for people indigenous to this land, it has caused a disconnection of indigenous people from their cultural practices and identities."
So that makes them disgusting? I think you've missed my point, but thanks for supporting itbackintexas2013 said:BluHorseShu said:It's a good thing no one here has an overweight wife or daughter.aTmAg said:
It's not that I'm afraid of fat people. It's that they disgust me.
So what if they do? It's not like they don't know they are fat and need to get healthy.
My wife and I run marathons and our kids follow our example. I was speaking in general and not about my own situation. My point was about calling out people as disgusting. The term "fat" is very subjective and often used as a perjorative when someone finds a person unattractive and is looking for a physical deficiency. But your comment about parents being crappy if their kids are overweight explains a lot. My son was very thin until he was 8 and then a few years of definitely looking chubby, and then lost it all and now he's 17 , 6ft and very thin. Guess I must have been a crappy parent during those pudgy years.Ol_Ag_02 said:BluHorseShu said:It's a good thing no one here has an overweight wife or daughter.aTmAg said:
It's not that I'm afraid of fat people. It's that they disgust me.
My wife and I both work out hours per week, we encourage our children to exercise and provide them opportunities to do so. The best thing we can do for them is to show them good habits; i.e. exercise is important and it's something both mom and dad do regularly.
Fat kids almost always have fat parents. Quit being a crappy parent and be a better example for your kids.
BigRobSA said:
I'm fat.
This is dumb as hell. We need more shaming, and bullying, not less. We're raising a generation of poosays.
My son: "Dad, some boy at school called me a name."
Me: "You'll be alright. Did you punch him in his stupid face?"
Son: "No, my teacher said for him to stop it. He didn't. Then the teacher took away some points...."
Me: "You catch that little mofo slippin', and you plant his ass with a right cross. He'll think twice before messing with you again"