These homeowners perpetuate a bad, stereotypical label that tags a lot of gay men and women in this country. What they are doing is shameless and embarrassing to a significant percentage of the gay community. A person becomes a victim when he or she ALLOWS himself or herself to become a victim. There are no excuses for claiming to be, becoming, or remaining anyone's victim in this country. There are many members of the gay community who NEVER pull the "gay card" because they see that behavior as weak, petty and a blatant admission that gays cannot become legitimate members of society without special assistance. These homeowners may not like the HOA rules and the manner in which they are enforced (and a lot of us who live in such communities can join that very large club), but that doesn't mean they don't have to abide by them. If they didn't like the rules, they shouldn't have moved into that community. "Rules for thee, but not for me" can never be seen as legitimate.
Having said that, there are a lot of laws and rules that might need to be changed. These HOA rules might be among them. But whining about the rule is pathetic. Most of us here despise the state of the law on abortion, but until the current law is changed, Roe v. Wade --- coupled with some state restrictions --- prevails on the issue of abortion. If people don't like certain rules or laws like those mentioned above, their time, energy, effort and resources would be best used in attempts to alter those laws rather than to merely complain about how they are administered or enforced. Wringing their hands and making a shameful spectacle of themselves won't get that done.
The bigger issue --- which is rarely discussed (and not the main focus of this post) --- is the fact that discrimination based on race, color, religion, sex, national origin, marital status, age and disability is constitutionally or statutorily prohibited in this country, while there is no federal constitutional or statutory prohibition against discrimination based on sexual orientation or choice. Has anyone here ever REALLY thought about that?