Zobel said:
What is different about asking me to pray for you (obviously ok) and asking the Theotokos to pray for you (obviously ok in my book, categorically different in yours)? I don't understand the difference, so to me one is as obvious as the other. What is the difference?
This is the most common response, but I've come to believe it falls flat.
This is what you are essentially claiming (please correct if I misunderstand it).
I reach out to you via some physical/personal medium (I talk to you on the phone, in-person, I text/email and you acknowledge, etc) and you respond by praying for me.
I reach out to Mary and ask her to pray for me (whether spoken outload, or in my mind, or written down, etc.), she hears this prayer and prays for me.
That's the comparison I think you want us to make.
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The challenge the Reformers, and frankly anybody should have is do we have any reason to believe that Mary, or any Saint, can hear these prayers?
The Lutherans asked that question:
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Moreover, even supposing that the saints pray for the Church ever so much, 10 yet it does not follow that they are to be invoked; although our Confession affirms only this, that Scripture does not teach the invocation of the saints, or that we are to ask the saints for aid. But since neither a command, nor a promise, nor an example can be produced from the Scriptures concerning the invocation of saints, it follows that conscience can have nothing concerning this invocation that is certain. And since prayer ought to be made from faith, how do we know that God approves this invocation? Whence do we know without the testimony of Scripture that the saints perceive the prayers of each one?
Nothing can be produced by the adversaries against this reasoning, that, since invocation does not have a testimony from God's Word, it cannot be affirmed that the saints understand our invocation, or, even if they understand it, that God approves it.
(Source: https://bookofconcord.org/defense/of-the-invocation-of-saints/ )
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And that becomes the difference. If we have no way of knowing whether Mary can hear us, nor whether God even approves of such behavior.
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To get ahead of the standard response from Rome, yes the Saints and Mary are alive in Christ. Part of a living Church, but that doesn't answer the question.
If I, at my desk right now in Texas, silently ask someone to pray from me, who is in another country, state, even building (ie. I do not actively reach out to them), I should not have any expectation that they heard me.
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So your example becomes apples to oranges because we do not have a reasonable belief that Mary (or other Saints) actively hear every individual prayer made to them.