10andBOUNCE said:
I guess the difference is that your camp believes it's more loving to give unlimited free will to make a choice. I believe that wildly unloving - using the analogy of having kids. I don't give them free rein to choose what is right and wrong. For a lot of their young lives I make choices for them for their own good. It's not a perfect example obviously since that structure will taper off but still holds true for children.
Again, this is ultimately grounded in total depravity which I believe is one of the most clear cut truths in all of scripture. So if we truly are depraved and unable to come to God, how much more unloving is it it God leaves us to that? How loving it is that he changes the heart in regeneration and gives us the ability to follow Him.
It all goes back to whether or not you think we are totally depraved. The entire reformed theology is built upon it. If that is not true, it is going to fall down like a house of cards.
I agree. Reformed theology falls apart without total depravity. The issue is we are totally depraved. The doctrine of original sin is a much, much better fit for the world that we see around us. We see non-Christians do good things. To call those actions depraved anyway is a commitment to a doctrine that was taught, not an open look at the issue.
Original sin accounts for the reality that we cannot come to God through our good works. He has to come to us BUT we are capable of rejoining Him when He does. He doesn't trap us in it. We are free to choose, because if we are not, we are not free to love. Love is an action. It is a choice. It's not something that is possessed.
So for your child example, we have to stay small children for it to hold true. Again I call the example of the prodigal son to the table. The son had to get up. He had to walk back. He had to humble himself. He could not force his father to take him back, similar to how we can not force God to take us back. But he wants us back and we have to acknowledge, humbly, that we can't do it without him.
Maybe your next step is reading more of the doctrine of original sin vs total depravity. Personally I believe TD doctrine requires us to call objectively good acts works of evil, and I can't go there.