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"I'm not a bad mom. I'm not a bad person."
None of this really matters, honestly.
This fight isn't about right or wrong, really. Its about rights. She has rights. You have rights. The kids have (some, but not many, in a practical sense) rights. The court is going to try to find the balance between those conflicting sets of rights, ostensibly in the best interests of the kids.
Fundamentally courts are loathe to restrict anyone's rights without a really good reason to do so. On the surface at least this is good.
From a practical perspective it always seemed to me that the kids (when younger) were treated by the courts as if they were a favorite couch that the parents were going to split time sitting on. In other words, the primary concern was for the parents' rights and the kids' were secondary.
My point is simply to say that looking at the courts as moral arbiters or a source of right/wrong/justice is a fools errand. The court's primary function is to balance everyone's competing rights until someone screws up so badly that the court can't ignore it (which you honestly have to hope never happens).
Keep in mind that your situation may seem really important or even egregious to you, but the judge has seen a parade of human debris come through before and after you, and your nice, suburban middle class complaints are hard to take seriously when the case before you featured some person that left their used heroin needles out where the 2 year old found them or some similar human disaster.