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I disagree.
It is a choice to have a constrained view of yourself. You could change your mind, and decide to improve yourself. Anyone CAN do that.
You assume that to be the case. Perhaps you never had any choice but to decide to improve yourself while another never had any choice but to wallow in victimhood. This is simply how their dominos were set up to fall. If the future is determined they could never choose to do differently in either case.
So my past is pretty interesting:
When I was in high school, I was arguably one of the smartest people in my school, but my grades sucked because I didn't study. I didn't study because I was told I had ADD, and used that as an excuse not to study.
I got good enough grades to get into Blinn, but also got a job on campus at TAMU so that I could get a rec membership. I majored in pick-up basketball at the rec my freshman year, and my grades sucked.
Then, I decided that I didn't want to be a Jr. college dropout, quit going to the rec so much, and started to study. It wasn't hard to make straight A's at Blinn with just a touch of effort, and I was accepted into the business school at A&M after my sophomore year.
At A&M, I did pretty well. Studied hard, only made a few B's. I had one bad semester due to personal issues and illness, but had a very good GPA coming out of A&M, right into a major recession. Enron had just blown up, and my dreams of trading electricity were kind of in ruins.
I got a boring job at a bank, and really kind of mailed it in for a couple of years. Married, DINK, lots of eating out and playing video games.
Then, we got pregnant. Again, I was spurred to make something of myself, applied for an MBA, got into A&M for basically free, worked my ass off, graduated 2nd in my class, and things have been golden ever since.
During that period of time, there were a couple of times where I really felt like the world was pigeon holing me. It wasn't. I was deciding my own fate. For some reason (I would say by the grace of God), I picked myself up by my bootstraps twice, and made a decision to invest in myself.
So, I arguably went from constrained to unconstrained back to constrained back to unconstrained during the course of my younger days. To me, that doesn't feel like being a victim of circumstance. That looks to me more like a person making both good and bad decisions while he grew up.