swimmerbabe11 said:

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for those of you that said to switch the door and lock them in... does that not concern you from a safety perspective?

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The lock we have is just a push button that unlocks when you turn it from the outside. Feels way safer for him to be locked in rather than wandering the house getting into who knows what while we are sleeping. I guess hypothetically if there was a fire in the kids room it could be a bad deal but other than the monitor and a sound machine there aren't any electronics that might burst into flames.

swimmerbabe11 said:

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for those of you that said to switch the door and lock them in... does that not concern you from a safety perspective?

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What is the safety concern?

swimmerbabe11 said:

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for those of you that said to switch the door and lock them in... does that not concern you from a safety perspective?

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I thought that too.

My son left his crib once to put diaper cream in his hair and once he got his bunk beds, he was worried about Skeletor. And so he slept in the kitchen. After eating an entire container of blueberries

Whiskey

Swimmer doesn't have children

And others with a kid, would have never locked their child in a room.

That is just cruel.

Tanya 93 said:

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And others with a kid, would have never locked their child in a room.

That is just cruel.

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Nah it ain't

Aggies1322 said:

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Tanya 93 said:

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And others with a kid, would have never locked their child in a room.

That is just cruel.

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Nah it ain't

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If you say so

Tanya 93 said:

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Aggies1322 said:

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Tanya 93 said:

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And others with a kid, would have never locked their child in a room.

That is just cruel.

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Nah it ain't

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If you say so

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How is it different than a crib? What is cruel about a child staying in their room? Rather than making absurd claims, try to rationalize your point behind it.

I googled out of curiosity and once of the dunces on Reddit said it was unethical to lock a child in a room. She recommended using a childproof door knob to keep them inside instead. Huuuugge difference there…waterheads

rilloaggie said:

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I googled out of curiosity and once of the dunces on Reddit said it was unethical to lock a child in a room. She recommended using a childproof door knob to keep them inside instead. Huuuugge difference there…waterheads

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This is actually what we do which is obviously effectively the exact same thing. It is insane how stupid some people are.

I'm not thinking unethical at all, my brain goes immediately to fire hazard or if there is an emergency where kid needs to leave the room and get help, they can't get out.

no accusations either, just curious where the risk tolerance falls. my mom's house burned to the ground when she was little and if her brother wasn't such a light sleeper, they might not have made it out.

So the doorknob that can't open from the inside is fine. But the doorknob that only opens from the inside when you unlock it is child abuse

Reversed the knobs on one of our kids. The other one didn't need it. The third one we'll find out soon.

Every kid is different but the general rules mentioned above should do the trick. Both parents being on the same page is the biggest deal.

We love you and we had a good day. I don't want to see you again tonight unless you are on fire or bleeding. Good night.

Appreciate all of the tips. Honestly surprised by the GB.

3-5 nights of sleep training. Talk to them like an adult and let them know what you're doing. Leave and let them cry for 15 min. Then return and reassure that you're here for them and then leave again. 15 min between every cry u til finally asleep.

Don't sleep with them or let in your bed.

We just went through this. First night was rough. Got better the second night and so on. No the kiddo (2 year old) is holding my hand walking me to his door on my way out and closes the door behind me.

Just remember lots of love and reassurance that you're always there for them. But boundaries.

I'll also add we have a baby gate on the door frame. They can open the door but obviously can't get out.

I have multiple kids of my own, but they're older now. I remember more about my parents training me to sleep than I do training my own kids. Funny what the brain blocks out.

Oh look at me, I had sex three years ago.

That's hilarious! Our middle kid will definitely sleep in some, but he's picked up some bad habits from his sister. We bought one of the clocks and trained the oldest.

https://a.co/d/0fneqyL

At a certain time in the morning it turns yellow which signals she can get up (she's already awake) and play quietly/read alone on her room. 30 mins later it turns green and she's free to come out of her room and quietly make breakfast/watch TV til others are awake.

Also has a nap mode that turns green after awhile. She dumped naps super early so it became an hour of quiet time.

Took awhile honestly, but one of the best things I ever bought

Jack Cheese said:

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Oh look at me, I had sex three years ago.

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Braggart

Moral High Horse said:

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Put'em to work in the yard for several hours
Good supper
Hose them down
Put to bed by 7pm

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This is our go to. Get home from work and run her outside. They're digging up the retention pond at the end of the street she lives climbing the dirt piles and looking for seashells and running around. If it's crappy weather we'll hit Chick Fil A and turn her loose in the playground for an hour. Come home, give her a bath and she's out by 7:30.

we reversed the door knob when we moved our daughter to the toddler bed. I had no qualms about it. should have known there were a bunch of dorks on line shaking over it.

also, 1 thing we have never done is let our kids sleep in our bed. I'm not saying we have been 100% perfect. but, they have never gone to sleep in our bed. we have only rarely brought them into bed well into the night when we were exhausted fighting it.

i don't begrudge anyone that lets their kids sleep in their bed. but, i do believe it makes it much harder to teach them sleep on their own.

lastly, avoid pacifiers if you can. our daughter never took to one and it was a godsend never having to deal with taking it away. really didn't try with our son.

Babies sleep alot, if you feed them enough, Pam.

Aggies1322 said:

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Tanya 93 said:

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Aggies1322 said:

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Tanya 93 said:

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And others with a kid, would have never locked their child in a room.

That is just cruel.

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Nah it ain't

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If you say so

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How is it different than a crib? What is cruel about a child staying in their room? Rather than making absurd claims, try to rationalize your point behind it.

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A crib is so they don't roll onto the floor.
I just never had the thought to lock my child in his room.

But he usually never left it. And certainly not to sleep in our bed.

What if the kid is sick or has a nightmare and can't leave the room?

At what age is it okay not to lock them in?
After being potty trained?

If they're sick or scared wouldn't you know from monitor? It's not like you lock them in there with zero visibility as to what's going on in there.

txaggie_08 said:

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If they're sick or scared wouldn't you know from monitor? It's not like you lock them in there with zero visibility as to what's going on in there.

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Do you lock your kids as toddlers or preschoolers in their room?

Monitors can't be the all saving instrument

I guess I am too old to fathom locking up my child so he doesn't bother me at night

Ask your pediatrician.

Ours actually recommended 1mg of melatonin for our oldest.

And reversing the doorknob just creates a room sized crib instead of a bed sized crib. No one batted an eye when you kept your kid in a caged in bed overnight

Also if any future parents are lurking, it's easier said than done, but co-sleeping is one of the hardest habits to break once it starts. I know parents who haven't had a bed to themselves for 7 years. Think about that before you let the kids into bed!

Let's just I have a buddy that the one night they had alone in the 2 years that their first was born resulted in number 2. So glad we didn't go down that route.

JCRiley09 said:

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Also if any future parents are lurking, it's easier said than done, but co-sleeping is one of the hardest habits to break once it starts. I know parents who haven't had a bed to themselves for 7 years. Think about that before you let the kids into bed!

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My wife's friend has 3 kids that are spaced in 30 months...the oldest was 10 when he moved off of the parent's bedroom floor. When he moved, the 9 and 8 year old moved too.


Complete morons in my opinion!


I am a very rational, calm, and fun parent to my four children between 6am - 7pm. Outside of those hours my kids are terrified. We have never had a sleep issue. Parents need to treat their kids like felons now so they dont become felons later.

father of many kids so plenty of trial and error....

routine, not to the minute, but some routine is key, we don't have a specific bedtime, but try to or have good success with the following

- brush teeth
- shower/bath
- read books (they can pick 2) in room with main light off, use a lamp
- sit with them a few minutes
- done, and we're done - there is no getting out of bed without a consequence

for my family, my kids go to bed quicker and easier when I do it so that's my thing while my wife is handling other things