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AggieArchitect04
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11:39p, 2/9/24
If this story doesn't end with someone's tires slashed it'll be incredible.
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bmc13
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6:46a, 2/10/24
have we seen the floor plans yet? I feel like we need to see them before passing judgement
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Sea Speed
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In reply to bmc13 • 7:58a, 2/10/24
bmc13 said:
have we seen the floor plans yet? I feel like we need to see them before passing judgement


Yes. Just need to see these "floorplans".
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maroon barchetta
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In reply to Sea Speed • 8:08a, 2/10/24
Sea Speed said:
bmc13 said:
have we seen the floor plans yet? I feel like we need to see them before passing judgement


Yes. Just need to see these "floorplans".


We should see both "floorplans" if she really wants a fair comparison.

ib unfurnished or furnished?
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8:13a, 2/10/24
This entire thing reads like a girl having an affair with a married man who keeps promising to leave his wife for the mistress but the time isn't just right yet. Guy wants his cake and to eat it too. Really surprised this is even a question. If the dude doesn't have nefarious intentions, he at the very least is clueless. Girl should run screaming.
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9:22a, 2/10/24
1. Definitely nothing wrong with living in an apartment at 32 especially if you're still single.

2. I wouldn't want to live next to my ex and would think it would make it inconvenient to the person I was seriously dating.

She should bring it up with the guy.

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bmc13
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In reply to maroon barchetta • 10:02a, 2/10/24
maroon barchetta said:
Sea Speed said:
bmc13 said:
have we seen the floor plans yet? I feel like we need to see them before passing judgement


Yes. Just need to see these "floorplans".


We should see both "floorplans" if she really wants a fair comparison.

ib unfurnished or furnished?


shag or smooth tile?
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:19a, 2/10/24
713nervy said:
My niece is dating this dude. Here are some facts.

- They started dating in September.
- This dude lives in an apartment.
- A couple months ago his (most recent) ex-gf moved into the same complex.
- Today he called to say that the apartment floor plan he was interested in moving into was open but the apartment was next door to his ex and he's thinking about taking it.

Let's assume for the sake of the following that:
- no cheating has occurred,
- and that he decides to move into the apartment.

QUESTION: You're my niece. How do you feel about this? What do you do - keep dating him? Set some firm boundaries and then trust that he's adhering to them? Dump him?



Is the niece against it? If so, has she had a mature discussion with the bf and let him know her feelings?
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In reply to harrierdoc • 12:32p, 2/10/24
She's not thrilled. She has had a mature conversation with him to express her discomfort, yes.
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In reply to 713nervy • 12:33p, 2/10/24
713nervy said:
She's not thrilled. She has had a mature conversation with him to express her discomfort, yes.


And his response?
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In reply to maroon barchetta • 12:34p, 2/10/24
I don't know yet. Haven't heard his decision.
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In reply to 713nervy • 12:35p, 2/10/24
If he didn't give her an answer right then she needs to punt.
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In reply to bagger05 • 12:57p, 2/10/24
bagger05 said:
IMO everything about this says that this guy is not that serious about your niece.

Whether that's a problem or not depends on a bunch of info we don't have.


EOT
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In reply to 713nervy • 2:03p, 2/10/24
713nervy said:
I don't know yet. Haven't heard his decision.


Tell her texags is waiting! She'll know what's up.
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AggieArchitect04
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11:08p, 2/13/24
What is happening with this case?

We need an update.








And pics.

























Mostly the pics.
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tandy miller
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In reply to AggieArchitect04 • 8:47a, 2/14/24
Nervy tried to seduce the bf but he didn't take the bait bc she is over 35
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In reply to tandy miller • 8:52a, 2/14/24
tandy miller said:
Nervy tried to seduce the bf but he didn't take the bait bc she is over 35
Or maybe Nervy is the "niece" - kind of "asking for a friend"
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9:51a, 2/14/24
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:01a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?


That is an upgrade not a Floorplan change and of course that changes things. You are introducing facts not in evidence.

Additionally, this dude either has poor taste in women and your niece is probably crazy, or the dude is crazy and drives women off and your niece should run.

Also, this is starting to sound like a real tree hugger situation.
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:06a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
Ooh - he sounds like a real winner - she definitely needs to keep him.
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10:19a, 2/14/24
So, dude has a child with woman #1. His ex, woman #2, has moved into his complex, and now he wants to move closer to her unit. Could he find a nice apartment in another complex? Sure, but having woman #2 nearby and ready for love is a hell of a lot more fun than dealing with the baby he made with woman #1.

Your niece looks to be woman #3.
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tandy miller
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10:26a, 2/14/24
Maybe he's moving next to her for a free babysitter
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:29a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
You know, after this post and looking at the others, you sure do seem to try everything to spin it to justify that the bf is doing nothing wrong, i.e., you're making lots of excuses for him. Now, starting to think maybe you aren't the "niece" but instead you are the "ex" (hopefully next door!).
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:33a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
Moving to a 50% larger apartment is not a floorplan change.
If he's in a 600 sq. ft. apt, is that a studio or a 1 bdr?

And now there's a 9 month old daughter?

Let me get this straight:
Woman 1 - Baby Momma - 9 month old daughter
Woman 2 - Ex - not involved with the 9 month old daughter
Woman 3 - Your niece

The fact that he's not with Baby Momma of his 9 month old is no problem.
The red flag is that he wants to move in to next door to the Ex?
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:34a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
Time to drop that zero and get you a tandy miller!
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In reply to The Fife • 10:36a, 2/14/24
The Fife said:
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
Time to drop that zero and get you a tandy miller!


What is 5/5 custody?
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10:43a, 2/14/24
9 month old daughter? How the hell am I going to work that into the Penthouse forum story?

Is he watching Baby Einstein on the rented OLED?
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In reply to jwoodmd • 10:43a, 2/14/24
jwoodmd said:
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
You know, after this post and looking at the others, you sure do seem to try everything to spin it to justify that the bf is doing nothing wrong, i.e., you're making lots of excuses for him. Now, starting to think maybe you aren't the "niece" but instead you are the "ex" (hopefully next door!).

False. My posting has been limited to facts for this thread.
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10:44a, 2/14/24
There are 3 options here:

1. B- troll job
2. Niece is desperate for a guy and she can't do better than this dude
3. Niece and OP are very dumb and feeding off each other by looking for reasons to say with the guy
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10:46a, 2/14/24
Increasing square footage changes the floor plan and is therefore a floor plan change.
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:50a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
jwoodmd said:
713nervy said:
Does it change the situation if he is currently cramped in a 600 sf apartment with his 9 month old daughter (with 50/50 custody with a different woman, not the ex in question) and the potentially new apartment is 900 sf?
You know, after this post and looking at the others, you sure do seem to try everything to spin it to justify that the bf is doing nothing wrong, i.e., you're making lots of excuses for him. Now, starting to think maybe you aren't the "niece" but instead you are the "ex" (hopefully next door!).

False. My posting has been limited to facts for this thread.


Why did you not mention the baby or the fact that the new place is 50% larger until just now?

Both of those seem to be pretty important considerations.

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In reply to HollywoodBQ • 10:51a, 2/14/24
HollywoodBQ said:

The red flag is that he wants to move in to next door to the Ex?

The question I'm asking is what you would do if you were her.

I don't know that he wants to move next door to the ex. That's an assumption that many others in the thread are making but has not been expressed in reality. What I do know is that the apartment upgrade that's available and affordable is next door to his ex.
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In reply to tandy miller • 10:52a, 2/14/24
But are they? Would it change your feelings or behavior if you were in her place?
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:53a, 2/14/24
Was the relationship w/ the neighbor ex before or after relationship w/ baby mama?
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In reply to 713nervy • 10:53a, 2/14/24
713nervy said:
But are they? Would it change your feelings or behavior if you were in her place?


Yes.
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