I don't know. The guy is a dip****, and got duped hard. That was the fact then, and the doc doesn't try to steer the narrative otherwise. I watched it more interested in how it all went down. And from that angle, they made some pretty compelling arguments.
He was LDS, apparently a big thing for the Hawaiians, I didn't know. He goes off to notre dame and is immersed in a Catholic environment he isn't used to, in a white midwesterner world he knows no one in, and a climate so far removed from where he came it's hard to fathom. He meets a chick online who's pretty hot, from his region, shares his beliefs, and he allows himself to get sucked in to the only thing that resembles home he's seen in a long time.
Yeah, the not ever seeing her stuff, not going to the hospital, etc is pretty flimsy, but there were reasonable explanations behind it in the doc. It did sound like prior to her supposed car wreck, it was a relationship on thin ice because of the lack of in person, and the wreck and hospitalization was a desperate attempt to lure him back in, and it worked.
And while not leaving to go to the funeral is a bit suspect, it's not unprecedented. Favre played a Monday Night game the day of or right around when his dad died and played arguably the best game of his career.
I still think Teo is a moron, but I do think he got screwed over by the he/she, then it was so deep and so bad on the surface, I think everyone just hoped if they didn't say anything it would all just fade away, but it only burned hotter, and that's what got them the worst. The he/she to their credit was a GD master at playing that catfishing game before it was even a thing. I gotta hand it to him, he probably could have tricked most of the people on this board too. The ability to change voices, covering the tracks by approaching Teo's connections prior so when he did ask people about her they would tell him they knew her. Especially that rabbit out of a hat trick to go and approach the girl to make the date stamped and hand signal pic Teo demanded to prove she was real. That's deep fake type stuff.