Also look at land cruisers in 2016+.

Cons first:

Your options being Tundra, Gx460, Tacoma, and 4runner… your fuel mileage will be the worst possible mileage.

Even the new generation tundra is poor compared to competitors.

The tech in these vehicles is about a decade behind everyone else.

The 4runner is very "underpowered ". It does not accelerate all that well. Take it to any elevation above 3500ft and it will camp out at 4,000 rpm just for basic traffic maneuvers. Throw in a big steep hill lmao wow it will spin over 4k for minutes at a time.

I have a 2021 Limited and have had 5 other 5th gen 4 runners. The an acceleration is the only thing that really irks me about the 4runner.

The tundra hauls ass and especially in tow haul mode.

Tacoma is so-so. Make sure you sit in the Tacoma for extended period. The seats can bother some people.

I don't have much experience with gx 460 but it is definitely a better engine( small v8) for acceleration than 4 runner.

On 2019-2021 Tundra's Toyota yanked the auxiliary transmission cooler. These ab60 transmissions run suuuuper hot with every day driving. I'd put a cooler on it. There are retro fit kits available that bolt in in 3 hours. However there is not a giant wave of transmission failures either so apparently Toyota did their homework on that.

The limited 4 runner has a cross linked shock absorber system that helps with cornering and stability but doesn't last as long as the other 4 runner trims. It isn't bad but you are looking at shock replacements well before the other trims.

Starter replacement on tundras are a real pain.

The tundra does seem to have some accelerated timing chain tensioner replacements in vehicles with poor maintenance.

The 4 runner has added maintenance with greasing the driveshafts .

The canister style oil filters are definitely more involved for basic maintenance than a spin on oil filter.

The 4 runner has to have the front skid plate removed every oil change.

4runner and tundra in 2018-2020 had some minor issues with front differential bearings going out mostly in lifted vehicles. You can upgrade with a set of bushings from east coast gear supply. A very popular mod if you are gonna lift these vehicles.

Toyota also recalled fuel pumps on all 4 vehicles from 2015-2020 ( can't remember exact years) however I've yet to hear of a fuel pump actually failing as the recall info states…

The pros

The tech, fuel mileage are a trade off for reliability and durability . The 4runner weighs as much as a 74 Cadillac. It is super heavy for a v6. (The 4 runner barely got push button starting in about 2020-2021.)

Most 4runner trims are stupendous off road.

The tundra, Tacoma are good off road with right trim level. Gx 460 is fairly decent as well.

Resale value is good on all 4 vehicles compared to their competition.

4 runner, Tacoma have extensive aftermarket support for off roading and cargo gear.

I have a 2019 trd pro tundra and a 2021 limited 4runner. I really like them both.

The fuel mileage, and old tech are not that big of a deal to me.

The acceleration in 4 runner takes some planning and patience for passing on highway.

GX460
Can get 2019-2020 with 75k-ish miles for $35k
They have full time 4WD and an understressed V8 that will go forever.

I've bought 4 so far and can't recommend enough. You can add CarPlay as well which negates the tech being outdated.

I was in the same boat, but I couldn't justify getting a Tundra that was 2-3 years older with 30+ k more miles. So, I got a Titan with 27k miles. SV, King Cab, 4WD. Has been great so far.

I would agree with fixer. Back when we bought our Odyssey in 2020, we looked at an Armada, and the Sequoia, and found the third row to be way too small for my 12-year-old. My wife was adamant that she would not drive a minivan. Still, after test driving the Honda and the Toyota, and after renting a Kia Sedona, she realized that the minivan was a rolling living room, and when it comes to straight-up people hauling, minivans are the way to go.

Now, if you only occasionally need the third row, then a mid-sized SUV is fine, but if you are like us, we use the heck out of that minivan (two teens, both play sports, and you can stuff a lot of athletic equipment, coolers, pop up tents and fold up wagons in the back of a mini-van). And before you say it, yes, minivans are not "cool" and you lose all street cred with your friends, but to be honest, you probably peaked on your wedding day, so don't worry about being cool as an adult. Just kidding, I don't know you but as a general rule, we are all cooler in our heads than we are. Anyway, that's just my two cents.