Rocag said:
But you're not the one that gets to decide for other people whether they think they can afford to have more kids. I have a pretty good engineering job and would probably be solidly considered a part of the middle class. My wife and I have two kids. Could we have afforded a third or a fourth? Yeah, probably. But two additional kids would have brought lots of added expenses with it and taken away time we would have otherwise spent with each other or the kids we already have. In the end, we decided against more kids.
I'd imagine lots of couples are making similar decisions.
THIS!! This is the primary driver. In general, people prefer more vacations, more space, nicer vehicles, more me time, and to focus their resources on giving one or two kids everything they can versus having more kids that may cramp their lifestyle a bit. Hard to do travel ball for everyone with 5 kids.
We were going to stop at 3. The 4th came along and showed us how stupid of a decision that would have been. Completely opened our eyes to what we would have said no to. A new child, completely unique, adding even more love to our home. Which led to number 5.
End of the day it's a heart issue. People crave comfort and kids are are anything but comfortable. It totally changes your day today as well as your future plans. And Rocag, I'm not judging you at all and hope it doesn't come across that way. It's just something I'm very passionate are about since converting to my new way of thinking. My financial and day to day comfort seemed more important than "another baby". But once that new life showed up I realized how wrong I was.