BAP Enthusiast said:
Teslag said:
BAP Enthusiast said:
Old McDonald said:
BAP Enthusiast said:
if you don't have a religious marriage, why do you even care about faithfulness? You just have a civil union for tax purposes so who cares what your spouse does? Your marriage isn't valid in the eyes of the lord anyway.
because adultery is effed up. don't need the bible or the quran to tell me that. that's just basic golden rule.
Why? Your marriage is meaningless. You shouldn't care about behavior. I mean that's what you all tell us all of the time. You should be able to act without consequences and that's what a civil Union non-religious marriage means. There is absolutely no reason at all your spouse should remain faithful in a non-religious marriage if there shouldn't be any negative consequences for personal behavior that doesn't physically hurt anyone. Additionally, you would have no right to be upset about it because that would mean you are judging them for acting on their desires and we all know that's bad.
Many people are devoted to their wife and not God. You don't need a deity to not betray someone and treat them like ****.
If personal behavior cannot be judged if it harms no one then how is this bad? I've yet to have a leftist explain to me why adultery is bad if you can't judge people for their own behaviors from a sexual standpoint. If a man or a woman wants to sleep around then who are you to say that they can't. I am told that judging people for their promiscuity is terrible all of the time so clearly this just falls under that umbrella since your marriage is nothing but a legal document and has no bearing on behavior.
The bolded part is why adultery is wrong. It harms someone. You have committed to a lifetime of sharing resources and companionship that is now betrayed and thrown into disarray. That is by definition harming someone and is immoral.
If you want to use an edge case of polyamory or swingers or some thing where someone's oath or commitment to each other isn't technically violated by adultery, then fine.
The philosophical crux of the OP is where does civil society draw the line between what is merely unethical or immoral behavior and white requires government use of force. My personal view is that the line is drawn at tort to someone's person or property. Adultery does not rise to the level of criminal actions.