NonregCT
I understand you concerns and fears. I used to be concerned about what I believed to be all the stipulations that were placed on salvation.
Felt like it was sold to you as accept Jesus but then you have to do this, this , and this or its a no go.
I am not one of the guys that come on here and quote scripture. Some times I feel less than adequate because of my inability to do so, but that is not something I can do. What I tend to do is try and use common sense combined with whats in my heart and what I beleive and understand.
First thing I would tell you is you don't have to be afraid of Jesus. Only be afraid if you do not know him.
The only things you have to do to is recognize him as the son of God and ask him to come into your heart, ask for forgivness, and salvation is your through grace.
When you accept him and follow him you will try and do the right things. I said try because no matter what you do you will fail, because you are only a man and a sinner by nature.
This is the important one, you cannot do enough to earn your way into heaven. Many people frustrate themselve trying to work their way in to Gods favor. Just accept his gift.
How do I know these things? I have drifted back and forth in my commitment to Jesus during my life. Everytime I have found my self in a pickle and I turn to him in prayer I am amazed at the peace, comfort, and clearness of mind that comes over me. I have done some rotten things but each time I ask for forgiveness I feel a great weight lifted from me because I know I am forgiven.
Last it helps me to think of God and Jesus as a list of haves rather than have nots. Men make up most of the have nots. Jesus is about have me have life.