Not you personally, but I do believe one of the goals of Satan is to divide and conquer. So when you call out the Church as "trads" or "progressives" -it starts to (in my mind) accomplish that goal. To me we are both Catholic brothers that emphasize different aspects of the same mission. Those aspects could be characterized as "traditional" (little T) or "progressive" -but the people are Catholic.
To your other point, you have oversimplified what I believe is a more complicated aspect of love between two persons. Here is what I believe is important to a blessed relationship:
FREE - This is where I think the list that St. Paul provides is important. The list is a list of sexual vices that are self serving or as with the case of adultery, hurt someone that is innocent. It has been written that the words used refer to sex trafficked youths (young boys) and powerful perpetrators. So the first aspect has to be that the two persons make a free and non-coerced decision to give of themselves.
LOVING - This is a reflection of God. We know God is love and it is reason that I and others have questioned the current doctrine/pastoral approach. I have said this before, that I have clients and family that are in long term, loving relationships. People can say they love each, but love is not something you can just hold in your hand and show people as proof. Love is kind, patient, self-giving, endures all things, rejoices with the truth (all those things written in scripture). Love never fails. I can only tell you that I have met same sex couples that check this box as clearly as opposite sex couples -but are denied the benefit of doubt simply because they are gay. As if being gay prevents someone from loving another as Christ loves his church. Love will be the key to unraveling the truth in my opinion. Because if there is love, there is God. If there is God then that is a blessed relationship.
COMMITTED - This is a distinguishing aspect of any relationship, but especially between two persons who say they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. There will be ups and downs. Leaning together on God, making God the center of the relationship is critical and what will make that union blessed.
How one chooses to express their love they have for their beloved is where we stand today. For now, same sex couples cannot fully express their love in a physical way because of the immorality attached to the sex act. Currently, it is understood as disordered and unnatural. In both instances it is in relation to bringing forth new life. That is why I think this understanding is misplaced.
For heterosexual married couples we can see the truth of that understanding as it is ordered by God that we go forth and multiply. That neither the man or woman withhold any aspect of their love through artificial or physical means. For homosexual couples, I believe, it is more about the unitive aspect of love than the procreative aspect of love. For heterosexual married couples, these two aspects cannot be separated without diminishing love which then diminishes God within the relationship.
TLDR; its complicated because of how we see the sex act as a part of God's plan for procreation and unifying act between two people in love.
