dermdoc said:
May I ask what made you change?
Probably more than you wanted, but -
Just stopped believing it around age 18 or 19. But, I also think there were a few people that inadvertently influenced it. I never had any 'bad' experiences, if that is what you mean.
I went to a Catholic school until about age 13 and I remember always being skeptical about things being taught. . . . like some of the things being taught just didn't make sense. Why would God create a race of beings to worship Him? Or, if you are going to create a race of beings, stick them in Utopia / Heaven to begin with - why mess with all this? Why create a Hell? And of course, I was given an answers to all of those questions, but they never made sense to me.
Dated a Jewish girl in high school and was questioned by family and friends on my plans for converting her to Christianity. And this girl was universally loved, kind as can be, straight A's, all honors classes, ivy-league bound, involved in about every philanthropic and charitable group at school and at her temple that you can imagine. The idea proposed that she was someone that was bound for Hell or in need or moral saving or guidance from my far less philanthropic brother and friends was absurd to me. Their intentions were totally good, but it still seemed absurd. I only bring up the old girlfriend because it served to push questions and doubts to the forefront.
We amicably broke up before college, I went to church for about 6 more months before realizing I had a very superficial level of understanding and belief and that the more I dove into Christianity the more I couldn't ignore those doubts and questions. Stopped going to church, started dating my future wife 6 months after that. . . also Jewish. I never set out to pursue Jewish women, just sorta happened. One of my wife's childhood best friends is gay. And again, here was another highly intelligent, high achieving, and massively empathetic person and I just couldn't wrap my brain around all of the hate directed toward him.
And I'm fully aware of the shallowness of the incidental criticism of Christianity in the paragraphs above. I didn't leave the faith because I assumed all Christians hated gays and expected all Jews to burn in Hell. These are just moments that forced me to stop being a half-ass Christian. They pushed me to decide if I was 'in' or 'out'.