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So I took a week off for a "trial retirement"

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Anchorhold
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South Platte
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RooAg said:

I don't understand how someone who is "loaded" can be bored in retirement. I can't even engage in this conversation because I'm so confused by the premise. Maybe it's a trick question. I can think of tons of stuff I enjoy to do, especially if money isn't a concern.

I don't know if OP is loaded. He's a pretty grounded guy, at least when I've interacted with him on the Texas Rangers thread. If he is, congrats to him and his family.

I'd say that part of what gets people to "loaded" status is a high internal drive to succeed, to set goals and accomplish something. Something difficult to achieve. An ability to sustain that drive over a career earns someone a nice retirement account.

When the competition, goals, and achievements are taken away, or at least modified in a retirement setting, I can see how life becomes boring until they find a new purpose.
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I think this can happen in a few ways.

1. They're not really loaded. Money coming in isn't greater than the cost of whatever they want to do. So the stuff that would really interest and excite them is too expensive. And rather than admitting to themselves that they're not really rich, they just pretend that they didn't want it in the first place and say they're bored.

2. They're miserable people. Some people can make the worst of any situation. Many people who had miserable careers also end up having miserable retirements. New version of the same problem. The issue isn't the situation, it's the person in the situation deciding to be miserable.

3. They have no imagination or curiosity. They haven't ever done the work of really understanding what brings them peace and joy. Doing nothing and being bored is easier and safer than figuring it out.
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fc2112 said:

IIIHorn said:

fc2112 said:

histag10 said:

Become an RN and come work part time with me!

My wife is an RN.

No thank you, ma'am!


Why is your wife working?

She enjoys her job.


Nvm
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RooAg said:

I don't understand how someone who is "loaded" can be bored in retirement. I can't even engage in this conversation because I'm so confused by the premise. Maybe it's a trick question. I can think of tons of stuff I enjoy to do, especially if money isn't a concern.


They work basically until they no longer have good years left and along the way refuse to enjoy the money.

Someone inherits the money, buys land, a luxury vehicle, and a Rockstar vacation
"I don't care about your feelings OP. I'm not going to let fandom replace reason, thought, and history"
Whoop Delecto
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Vincent Van Gopher
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I retired a little over a year ago. Volunteer one day a week at a charity and another day at church. There's
always something that comes up to take care of the rest of my time. It's great to be able to spend more time with family too. It's like a lot of other things....it's what you make it to be. Good luck to you.
Enrico Pallazzo
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You know how you can spot the head nurse?

She's the one with dirty knees.
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I realize how it looks every time I type it out, and the child in me giggles a little. Thank goodness I work from home, and the coworkers I do occasionally work with in person have the same sense of humor.
fc2112
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Nurses have THE raunchiest senses of humor. Get a few drinks in a gaggle of them, and you got a hell of a party.
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fc2112 said:

I was going stir crazy by Thursday/Friday. I can only read so much and watch so much TV.

Good news was the house was sparkling, the yard perfect and my wife enjoyed home cooked meals for lunch and dinner every day. She liked that - ALOT.

But man - I have got to find more to do outside the house to make this work. Less than a year to go before i pull this trigger. I know I could do more at church related stuff. Also thought about volunteering at local animal shelters to play with the dogs.

As I began to read your post, the first line "read so much and watch so much TV" caused me to think you need to find something to do outside. But then you say so in your last paragraph. And you are absolutely correct. Whether you do volunteer work or church stuff, it isn't like it is a 40 hour a week committment. Something to keep you busy and it is always something you can skip for a week or two. The best part of being retired is being able to do things WHEN you want to do them, or not do them at all, lol.

Not singling out you, but in my area, I was the second youngest CPA and I sold my practice to the youngest CPA (and neither of us were young!). Many of the doctors, dentists, CPAs, and lawyers in my area are working into their mid to late 70s. I know most of them pretty well, some were clients. One thing I noticed that is common to most is they don't seem to have any hobbies. Few fish or hunt or play golf, camp or hike, or anything else. A few did play golf when younger. Most of them I know for a fact they are pretty well off financially and suspect the others are too. I think they keep working to have something to do because, for whatever reason, they have nothing else to do.

Good luck on your path going forward and I hope you have a great retirement!
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I also didn't anticipate dealing with cancer and three parents/in-laws with dementia.


Absolute nightmare.
bagger05
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I think they keep working to have something to do because, for whatever reason, they have nothing else to do.

Some people just enjoy what they do.

I think it's weird that when we see actors, artists, musicians, etc. producing into their 70s and 80s and it's no big deal but if someone wants to keep being an accountant until they're 75 there's something wrong with them.
Serious Lee
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wish my dad would read this thread, but im not even sure he knows how to read anymore. All the money and time in the world and he just chooses to sit in his recliner, rotting his brain watching television. Pisses me off to no end, but hes earned it.

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bagger05 said:

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I think they keep working to have something to do because, for whatever reason, they have nothing else to do.

Some people just enjoy what they do.

I think it's weird that when we see actors, artists, musicians, etc. producing into their 70s and 80s and it's no big deal but if someone wants to keep being an accountant until they're 75 there's something wrong with them.

They can do as they like, there is nothing wrong with working until they carry you out feet first. It seems sad to have little else than work, but hey, if work is your work and your hobby, go for it. Perhaps they never said "thank goodness it's Friday" but say "thank goodness it's Monday."
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I did a trial retirement for 18 months. Moved to where I planned to retire and continued working. That gave me the chance to meet retired people and find out what they do. I've now been retired for 2 years. None of the people I'm around just read and watch TV and wonder what to do. Sounds like you aren't ready for retirement.
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I work in an industry that often sample retires you on a moments notice!


Not a bad gig really. Wake up ... do whatever you want ... go to sleep. I choose to golf and mow grass in my downtime.
fc2112
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Lot of good replies and thoughts on this thread.

One thing to point out - yes, I have a lot of charities and outside pursuits I'd like to get more involved with. I just haven't done so yet because of a lack of time while working.

One thing I absolutely want to do is more football officiating. In football, especially high school ball, you're pretty far away from the parents. And the coaches are usually pretty professional and trying to set a good example for the boys. Best seat in the house for watching the best high school football in the nation - and they pay you to do it? Heck yeah.

I also have a couple of charities through my church and a homeless charity in downtown Fort Worth I've worked with before.

And when I said I'm loaded - I'm not rich enough to take off on round the world trips - just loaded enough to pretty much replace my income with pension + social security + a modest draw on my investments.
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Ya'll will probably think this is weird, but I love true crime stuff. When I retire I'm gonna go to the courthouse and experience a murder trial or something similar. I'm a former newspaper editor and mabye I'll write about it since our local newspaper is terrible.
fc2112
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That actually sounds pretty cool. I'm guessing real trials are a bit more mundane than the TV shows portray them, though.
Anchorhold
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If you are looking for someone to retire for you, we might me able to work something out.
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Serious Lee said:

wish my dad would read this thread, but im not even sure he knows how to read anymore. All the money and time in the world and he just chooses to sit in his recliner, rotting his brain watching television. Pisses me off to no end, but hes earned it.



When I retired I thought I would watch more TV and play video games since those were my "hobbies" during my working years. I realized that those were only my hobbies b/c that is all I had time for when I was working. After traffic, work, errands, home cleaning, exercise etc I only had maybe a few hours to myself a week so I defaulted to just watching the latest series on Netflix. I almost never play video games anymore and outside of the occasional baseball game, hardly watch any TV.
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jja79 said:

I did a trial retirement for 18 months. Moved to where I planned to retire and continued working. That gave me the chance to meet retired people and find out what they do. I've now been retired for 2 years. None of the people I'm around just read and watch TV and wonder what to do. Sounds like you aren't ready for retirement.


It's a good plan, but waiting until one's late 60s to do it leaves a pretty small window to enjoy the fun while you have good mobility and health. The 70s are brutal on folks. Now sometimes that is simply financial necessity and it is what it is. But I never understand it when someone doesn't retire just because they basically just need something to kill time.
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NoahAg said:

I'm 46 and have plenty of hobbies/interests to keep me busy for a lifetime if I retired today. I'll never understand people whose whole identity is wrapped up in their career and don't know what to do in retirement.

Same boat here. If I could retire tomorrow, I would do it.


Yup. If I could retire tomorrow, I wouldn't even be remotely able to do all the things I want to do. Boredom would not be an issue!
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I'm semi-retired, still maintain a position at fund (medical insurance for life) but only check on things remotely. Manage family investments so kids will be set and mistress is taken care of as well. Spare time I like to focus on boobs.
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fc2112 said:

I was going stir crazy by Thursday/Friday. I can only read so much and watch so much TV.

Good news was the house was sparkling, the yard perfect and my wife enjoyed home cooked meals for lunch and dinner every day. She liked that - ALOT.

But man - I have got to find more to do outside the house to make this work. Less than a year to go before i pull this trigger. I know I could do more at church related stuff. Also thought about volunteering at local animal shelters to play with the dogs.

My dad retired at 50. He was a huge grouch for the next year or so because he was bored out of his mind. He started volunteering at Houston's medical center in the cancer center and is about to hit 30 years of volunteering. He got to know former UH coach Bill Yeoman and his wife very well because Yeoman was there a lot at the end of his life.

If you're a people person, volunteering at a place like this can be a huge dividend for your life and all the people that are there for the worst, scariest reasons.
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Enrico Pallazzo said:

It's a good plan, but waiting until one's late 60s to do it leaves a pretty small window to enjoy the fun while you have good mobility and health. The 70s are brutal on folks. Now sometimes that is simply financial necessity and it is what it is. But I never understand it when someone doesn't retire just because they basically just need something to kill time.

for some people (mostly boomers who grew up in an agrarian lifestyle), work is all they've ever known how to do.
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Go to daily mass.

Make sure your prayer life is amazing.

Give your time to charity.

Make your life's purpose to get as many souls to Jesus as possible.
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My dad was a school teacher and farmed during the summers. He retired from teaching at roughly age 50. For the first three months or so after that, he would hop in his pickup every morning and make the rounds drinking coffee and smoking cigarettes at the tractor dealers and feed stores in the area. I think he figured out most of his farming buddies had free time, but not THAT MUCH free time. I also think they got tired of him hanging around and his lame jokes. Within a few months he was working harder as a farmer than I ever saw him work as a teacher
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Athanasius said:

Go to daily mass.

Make sure your prayer life is amazing.

Give your time to charity.

Make your life's purpose to get as many souls to Jesus as possible.

So I work out every morning and typically am done by 7 AM. Daily Mass is one of those things i always wanted to do but never had time. This is a great suggestion.
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Athanasius said:


Make your life's purpose to get as many souls to Jesus as possible.

Are you suggesting he MURDER?!
Gnome Sayin
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713nervy said:

Athanasius said:


Make your life's purpose to get as many souls to Jesus as possible.

Are you suggesting he MURDER?!


He's just arranging the meeting
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Had a one-night stand with an ER nurse once.

Still consider it top 3 sex of my life.

Her bed was soaked with a mix of sweat and bodily fluids.

It was quite steamy.
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fc2112
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AggieArchitect04 said:

Had a one-night stand with an ER nurse once.

I've had a 38 year stand with an OR nurse.
 
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