Negative life events

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Wicked Good Ag
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Would you mind putting the link here or do we need to contact you?
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BBRex said:

Tanker123 said:

Any of you have a high level of anxiety? I have developed a coping skill for it.


In some ways, yes. I have a lot of internal conflict over who I am and what I should do to fit in. I get way into my head and overthink things a lot. I was a bit of a nerd and didn't fit in socially with other folks for most of my life. I really worry about the people I'm around and how can I blend into my surroundings.

Are you maybe on the spectrum too?
Complete Idiot
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A good re-read when hitting a down patch.
maroon barchetta
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It's an incredible thread for a number of reasons.
PaulDicton
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Thanks for this Tanker
Aggie Dad 26
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I was just thinking about this yesterday. I'll never get over some things. At age 10 I saw (miles away) the bolt of lightning that hit and killed my best friend. The image of him in his casket, and his purple/black hands will never leave me. I came across a bunch of pics of his yesterday.

Then as I stated, I lost another best friend on Mother's day of 2018 to suicide. Both died in May

May can go f itself. So much bs has happened to me in that month.
Aggie Dad 26
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RIP Andy. I've never forgotten

BadMoonRisin
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Going through one now. Thanks for this thread.

It's a good reminder that no matter what happens in life "This too shall pass"
7yrplan
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3 yr old son passed away.

We were leaving a friend's house, saying our goodbyes.

In a blink of an eye he got away from us, couldn't catch him fast enough and he was bit by a car.

My wife, myself, and his two brothers saw the whole thing.

Some scars will never be healed in this life. My wife, especially will never be the same.
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My younger sister (c/o '08) died suddenly in 2018, just a couple of days after I got back from vacation with her. She was a perfectly healthy mother of 3. It made NO sense. I feel like my life has been divided in 2 - one part before that day, and then a completely different life after it.
p1 Claire
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Oh wow..."I'm sorry" does not even begin to say what I wish I could say. But, I am so sorry.
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My heart hurts with you. I know how difficult the holidays are. You are not alone. may your family feel daily, even hourly, hope when grief hits hard.
BadMoonRisin
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I am so sorry. I have lost a child as well. Back in 2016

I will never again be the person I was before that day.
The pain never goes away.
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Never
TexasAggie81
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On March 29, 1987, my parents' truck was struck my another vehicle. The driver was 16. He had just gotten his license the month before. He was under the influence. My dad, whose side was t-boned, died gruesomely and instantly. The truck rolled three times. My mother survived, but was unconscious in the hospital for days. It was surreal identifying my dad's body at the morgue. I'll never forget that day and that sight. It was an indescribable moment. I grew up a lot that day. I was 27 and became "the man" in my family. My mother recovered and lived a wonderful, vibrant life. Weirdly, she died on Mother's Day. Life throws us a lot of curveballs, but I live without regret, always remembering my mother's words: "Life is for the living … so get on with it."
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TexasAggie81 said:

On March 29, 1987, my parents' truck was struck my another vehicle. The driver was 16. He had just gotten his license the month before. He was under the influence. My dad, whose side was t-boned, died gruesomely and instantly. The truck rolled three times. My mother survived, but was unconscious in the hospital for days. It was surreal identifying my dad's body at the morgue. I'll never forget that day and that sight. It was an indescribable moment. I grew up a lot that day. I was 27 and became "the man" in my family. My mother recovered and lived a wonderful, vibrant life. Weirdly, she died on Mother's Day. Life throws us a lot of curveballs, but I live without regret, always remembering my mother's words: "Life is for the living … so get on with it."
That's a lot of pain. Sorry for your loss.

As your mother said, life is for the living...we all do the best we can every day.
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Thanks for sharing
bobcat90
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Cancer diagnosis. Radiation began this week.
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bobcat90 said:

Cancer diagnosis. Radiation began this week.


Thanks for sharing. Hang tough and beat it. You're in my thoughts.
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bobcat90 said:

Cancer diagnosis. Radiation began this week.
Cry "Havoc" and let slip the dogs of the cancer war!


Fight with all you have!
Being in TexAgs jail changes a man……..no, not really
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**** cancer. Praying for you
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Tanker123 said:

knoxtom said:

Can it be more than one event?

Here is my last 5 months...

One of my best friends had a heart attack (survived)

One week later my Mom died

Then my wife's grandma went in the hospital and wasn't expected to make it (survived)

Then my dog swallowed a toy whole and had to be cut open from pecker to chest (survived)

Then our other dog tore his ACL and needed TPLO surgery

Then my wife's great aunt died

Then my wife's Aunt had a massive heart attack (survived)

Then I split my head open while snowplowing with the UTV, Too much snow to make it to a hospital so the neighbor stitched me up at the kitchen table

Then I went into the hospital for weakness and stayed 10 days for a triple bypass, that was three weeks ago today

Good friend of mine is on his last few days for brain cancer as I type

I am sure I am forgetting a few things

Been a busy few months.
Absolutely. It is called Complex PTSD or CPTSD. Essentially you were bombarded with one trauma after another trauma.


Just an update... It keeps rolling.

My friend died of the brain cancer. That was sad.

My sternum didn't heal after the open heart surgery. Wiggled all over for 7 months before they finally went back in and put in 4 plates, 3 cables, and 26 screws. Feels pretty solid now, although it hurts constantly.

Then my company lost 85% of our business in a week to government funding issues. I am building it back but that was a significant hit.

I'm sure I have some stress and trauma but it is OK. I am getting new business for my existing company and opening two new ones as we speak. Planning a good summer and healing from the surgeries. All is fairly good, I just focus on the kid and the wife and the future. When it all comes down to it, I should be dead. So I'm not stressing too bad.


NoahAg
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Just found this thread. Praying for all those here suffering. Asking for prayers as well.
 
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