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men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
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men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
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men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
quote:I see....but looking back (not you, anyone that replied), these things would be fixable if proactively dealt with? In case you couldn't tell, Im curious because I am married with kids and havn't run into any of these issues and its of great interest to me because I wish for it to remain that way.quote:Sometimes, as life goes with kids, establishing a career, and everything else, you grow apart. In the back of your mind you may recognize it, but for whatever reason, it's not addressed -- too many other 'priorities of life' to tend to.
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
In the meantime, you slowly grow more apart.
Then one day it hits.
quote:Yeah, but they did it the way God intended, by not touching wieners together.
You people have destroyed a ton of marriages.
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men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
It's anecdotal, but almost all the single (divorced or widowed) men I know between 35-45 are dating women about 10 years younger. I know at least some of them want to start a second family, so they tend to gravitate towards younger women with the intent of getting married and having more kids with baby-mama #2. Many of them also want to find someone who can fit into their post-divorce life (ie, not a woman who has been single for a while, has an established career, owns her own home, and has kids that she doesn't want to move around).
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If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
Wife gets fat
Or goes lesbo
quote:quote:Go on....quote:quote:
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
Wife gets fat
Or goes lesbo
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men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
quote:You're right. SOMETIMES they are fixable if you both are proactive.quote:I see....but looking back (not you, anyone that replied), these things would be fixable if proactively dealt with? In case you couldn't tell, Im curious because I am married with kids and havn't run into any of these issues and its of great interest to me because I wish for it to remain that way.quote:Sometimes, as life goes with kids, establishing a career, and everything else, you grow apart. In the back of your mind you may recognize it, but for whatever reason, it's not addressed -- too many other 'priorities of life' to tend to.
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
In the meantime, you slowly grow more apart.
Then one day it hits.
Actually I did run into the career issue early on as I was trying to chase the top positions at work....it began to interfere, but thats been resolved.
quote:Will that one make four or five 20 year old strippers with daddy issues?quote:quote:
men in those age groups want 20 year olds
Not really. Maybe for a poke, but not for a relationship.
Speak for yourself, old balls. I'll be looking for my 4th or 5th marriage by then, and I'll be looking for a 20 year old stripper with daddy issues
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It's been 16 years since my mother died.
I think my dad has been on two dates.
He says he married her until he dies, not her.
He needs a wife or a girlfriend.
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Many of them also want to find someone who can fit into their post-divorce life (ie, not a woman who has been single for a while, has an established career, owns her own home, and has kids that she doesn't want to move around).
quote:I see. Thanks for the response. I can certainly understand the 'we'll deal with that later" thing....quote:You're right. SOMETIMES they are fixable if you both are proactive.quote:I see....but looking back (not you, anyone that replied), these things would be fixable if proactively dealt with? In case you couldn't tell, Im curious because I am married with kids and havn't run into any of these issues and its of great interest to me because I wish for it to remain that way.quote:Sometimes, as life goes with kids, establishing a career, and everything else, you grow apart. In the back of your mind you may recognize it, but for whatever reason, it's not addressed -- too many other 'priorities of life' to tend to.
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
In the meantime, you slowly grow more apart.
Then one day it hits.
Actually I did run into the career issue early on as I was trying to chase the top positions at work....it began to interfere, but thats been resolved.
But, it is so easy to get caught up in life that the relationship gets put on hold. Babies up all night, then they get in activities which can become full-time commitments. One or both is getting a career, a business, a degree started which takes untold hours. As you know, life goes by quicker when you are out of school. So, before you realize it, years go by with kids, jobs, school -- everything -- and the relationship was not given the same priority as those other things.
Adding to all this is the fact that neither is really the same person they were when they first married. It may be physical changes / appearances. It may be life's experiences which caused the other to have changes in personality. Stresses and commitments might make someone go from the easy going college kid to a much more serious personality.
If the relationship is not the priority in early years, if it's not cared for at the expense of all those other things, it can die. Again, you probably know it but it's always, "We'll worry about that later."
Then later comes and you are faced with someone you may not know anymore.
quote:This is really why the straights don't want the gays marrying. As soon as we marry we have the potential of destroying the sanctity of straight divorces.quote:Yeah, but they did it the way God intended, by not touching wieners together.
You people have destroyed a ton of marriages.
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Another pro-tip, nervy is into recently divorced guys
quote:what kind of whiskey?
Three years for me and I'm guessing it may be about time. First year or two I've been crying in my whiskey, last year I've been thinking about getting back in the game.
quote:i thought this was known like 3-4 years ago
Another pro-tip, nervy is into recently divorced guys
quote:I was VERY cautious - almost too much so. I done good!
Speaking from experience, immediately post-divorce is when the crazies come at you full force. They try to catch you when you are shaken and vulnerable and sink their claws into you...my advice is date cautiously....very cautiously. I've learned that jumping into something "too soon" is dangerous and will bring the wrath of TexAgs if you are stupid enough to post about it. (All due respect and no offense meant B1)
quote:Obligatory...she got a sister??? Bonus points if she also owns a liquor store..quote:I was VERY cautious - almost too much so. I done good!
Speaking from experience, immediately post-divorce is when the crazies come at you full force. They try to catch you when you are shaken and vulnerable and sink their claws into you...my advice is date cautiously....very cautiously. I've learned that jumping into something "too soon" is dangerous and will bring the wrath of TexAgs if you are stupid enough to post about it. (All due respect and no offense meant B1)
quote:As a matter of fact, yes - 2! I would not wish the single one on my worst enemy. The married one is gorgeous, but high maintenance.quote:Obligatory...she got a sister??? Bonus points if she also owns a liquor store..quote:I was VERY cautious - almost too much so. I done good!
Speaking from experience, immediately post-divorce is when the crazies come at you full force. They try to catch you when you are shaken and vulnerable and sink their claws into you...my advice is date cautiously....very cautiously. I've learned that jumping into something "too soon" is dangerous and will bring the wrath of TexAgs if you are stupid enough to post about it. (All due respect and no offense meant B1)
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If you are in DFW or if not take a weekend road trip, and hit up the bars/restaurants in the Shops of Legacy. It is a divorcees paradise with fertile cougar hunting grounds.