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So for those divorced what led to it, cheating or other things? How long were you severely fighting for prior to the divorce decision being made?
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So for those divorced what led to it, cheating or other things? How long were you severely fighting for prior to the divorce decision being made?
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The day my divorce was final I pawned my wedding ring and bought a bottle of tequila and nailed one 10 years younger ! I had been married over 8 years . Oh I spent the first two weeks feeling torn up until I realized she was the one screwing around. Then I woke up.
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So for those divorced what led to it, cheating or other things? How long were you severely fighting for prior to the divorce decision being made?
quote:This sounds so painful. Have you tried counseling? Perhaps you're still trying to figure out something that should be more forgotten about. Sorry to hear this. 12 years is too long
Divorced after 23 years and 4 kids. Nasty divorce and it took close to two years. Cause was not cheating but I think that would have been easier to deal with. My ex started dating publicly a few months into the divorce and re-married a few months after the divorce was final. I'm still trying to get back in the game (12 years), but it is difficult for an older woman. Good luck to you OP and take your time to find the right person.
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23 years of marriage, and 12 since? May I interest you in a cat or dozen?
quote:While they are waiting at age 55 for their kids to get home from the prom, you and the missus would be on the beach in the Bahamas with kids out of college.
Got married and had a kid right after college. She always complained about not being able to do stuff that our other friends could. Our kids are 9 & 11 and none of our friends started families as early as we did. I enjoyed being a family and hanging out with my kids. She apparently didn't share the same point of view.
It's been hard on my kids and that's probably where most of my anger stemmed from over the last few years. We didn't argue in front of them and they were a little surprised when we told them. For 6 months I couldn't even look at a woman and think anyone was attractive. I was just in a weird spot.
Things are much better now personally though. Just moving on.
I realize even more now that some people can't appreciate what they have sometimes and I can't control what someone else wants to do.
quote:quote:This sounds so painful. Have you tried counseling? Perhaps you're still trying to figure out something that should be more forgotten about. Sorry to hear this. 12 years is too long
Divorced after 23 years and 4 kids. Nasty divorce and it took close to two years. Cause was not cheating but I think that would have been easier to deal with. My ex started dating publicly a few months into the divorce and re-married a few months after the divorce was final. I'm still trying to get back in the game (12 years), but it is difficult for an older woman. Good luck to you OP and take your time to find the right person.
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If you have a divorce party, don't invite nuRowdy bc he will just pass out at the bar right when you're making headway with a girl, then you'll spend the next two hours getting him back to the hotel room
quote:Stop talking about me! I will be 55 when he goes to his senior prom!quote:While they are waiting at age 55 for their kids to get home from the prom, you and the missus would be on the beach in the Bahamas with kids out of college.
Got married and had a kid right after college. She always complained about not being able to do stuff that our other friends could. Our kids are 9 & 11 and none of our friends started families as early as we did. I enjoyed being a family and hanging out with my kids. She apparently didn't share the same point of view.
It's been hard on my kids and that's probably where most of my anger stemmed from over the last few years. We didn't argue in front of them and they were a little surprised when we told them. For 6 months I couldn't even look at a woman and think anyone was attractive. I was just in a weird spot.
Things are much better now personally though. Just moving on.
I realize even more now that some people can't appreciate what they have sometimes and I can't control what someone else wants to do.
quote:Thanks for the cat offer but I am a dog person! You are just too funny for words (at least words that as a lady I would not use).quote:Needlessly crude.
23 years of marriage, and 12 since? May I interest you in a cat or dozen?
quote:Interests change, lack of communication, "grow apart", you don't marry their family but the family sure is a big issue, different parenting styles, boredom, crappy intimacy, etc.......
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
quote:Sometimes, as life goes with kids, establishing a career, and everything else, you grow apart. In the back of your mind you may recognize it, but for whatever reason, it's not addressed -- too many other 'priorities of life' to tend to.
If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
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If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
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If I might be so bold as to pry about these divorces after 15+ years of marriage....HOW does this happen? I understand getting divorced over cheating but I cannot wrap my head around what kind of circumstances 'pop up' after this much time together that lead to complete destruction of the marriage. Are they things that were issues at 5 years of marriage that everyone just push under the rug? Im genuinely interested in this....I almost can't even understand 10 years but let's focus on 15+. What in the world happened and how is it not fixable?
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My parents have been married for 34 years. My sister and I have been wishing they would divorce for the past 17. Their relationship is toxic but they were raised in a different generation and with a strong cultural ideology that says "stay together no matter what".
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men in those age groups want 20 year olds