Trying to gauge what my prep should be prior to going home to visit my parents during Thanksgiving beginning on 11/22. Both of them are 67 and my mom has a compromised immune system. Here were my thoughts:

- Begin quarantining from everyone other than my girlfriend 10 days out (11/12) other than outdoor activities such as hiking or jogging

- Get tested on 11/15 and 11/19 for the virus.

- Not use my apartment gym

Thoughts? Too loose? Move it back to 14 days? Or just right? Any advice is appreciated.

Fauci said no Thanksgiving with family.

So no Thanksgiving with family.

In this case, we have to listen to THAT scientist.

Really, though, you'll do well if you get tested and just quarantine for about 4-5 days before.

Get tested like Friday before. Lock down till the event. Reserve spots now as this will be popular.

Is your girlfriend quarantined as well? Because if she isn't then you aren't really either.

TxAg82 said:

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Is your girlfriend quarantined as well? Because if she isn't then you aren't really either.

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We both are planning to follow the same guidelines on whatever is agreed upon.

Live life. I honestly feel like your being too strict. If you feel better going to that trouble, I completely understand. Sounds about textbook. I was to hang out with my parents in their 80s this weekend but I have a head cold I've "fought" this week so decided to skip. But to me, just monitor your health the week of. Unless they have major comorbidities, it's almost impossible to quarantine for 10 days unless you're single, work from home and/or don't have kiddos.


Edit to say I take Remicade every 10 weeks so one could define me as having a compromised immune system.

If you have to go to those lengths, just don't go. Just Zoom in and fight with family that way because they didn't quarantine as hard as you did.

I will be seeing my parents and in-laws over thanksgiving. Looking forward to spending time with family like every holiday.

Maybe it doesn't seem like a burden to him because he and his family don't fight every time they get together.

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If you have to go to those lengths, just don't go. Just Zoom in and fight with family that way because they didn't quarantine as hard as you did.

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Que?

How are you getting there? Airports have been okay so far, but I'm not sure I'd trust holiday travel especially since a lot of colleges are sending everyone home at Thanksgiving.

If you're driving, stay out of public bathrooms.

As for pre-visit prep, I would definitely get a PCR test a day or two before you leave and quarantine completely between test and departure. I wouldn't eat inside at a restaurant week of but I would continue to grocery shop, run errands. I don't think two tests are necessary unless you start feeling bad in the days before leaving. Just be mindful of your surroundings and wash your hands often.

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How are you getting there? Airports have been okay so far, but I'm not sure I'd trust holiday travel especially since a lot of colleges are sending everyone home at Thanksgiving.

If you're driving, stay out of public bathrooms.

As for pre-visit prep, I would definitely get a PCR test a day or two before you leave and quarantine completely between test and departure. I wouldn't eat inside at a restaurant week of but I would continue to grocery shop, run errands. I don't think two tests are necessary unless you start feeling bad in the days before leaving. Just be mindful of your surroundings and wash your hands often.

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Driving and going to avoid public bathrooms will be a given for sure. We're both going to avoid eating in restaurants and will likely do a majority of grocery shopping if not all via curbside pickup.

If you have a soul... you know what to do

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Capitol Ag said:

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Live life. I honestly feel like your being too strict. If you feel better going to that trouble, I completely understand. Sounds about textbook. I was to hang out with my parents in their 80s this weekend but I have a head cold I've "fought" this week so decided to skip. But to me, just monitor your health the week of. Unless they have major comorbidities, it's almost impossible to quarantine for 10 days unless you're single, work from home and/or don't have kiddos.


Edit to say I take Remicade every 10 weeks so one could define me as having a compromised immune system.

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This. I can't believe people are still going through these lengths after so many months. We see our parents often. Quarantining with work and kids in school isn't possible and our parents don't want them or us isolating anymore.

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Thats great for you, but the OP said his mother was immune compromised. Everyone's situation is different. The OP is doing what he feels necessary to safely visit his family. If we're ever going to move forward on this, people need to understand that not everyone is in the same situation, and no one should look down on others because they choose to take more precautions.

Great that works for you and your dad. It doesnt work for everyone and the OP made it very clear that is not the situation he is in.

You have damn near a thousand posts telling other people how they should be living their lives. Should someone start telling you to stop posting on Texags and live life more after every post?

Just found out that my brother lost two high school classmates to Covid in the last week. Yes we are old and high risk, but this is NOT the Giver where the old people are kindly killed off when society gets tired of them. Brother and wife have been staying in self isolation since the start. Brother's health if really high risk, one lung, a fib issues just to mention a couple of things. Again each family needs to make its own choice. They are isolating for Thanksgiving. His daughters are out and about like many on here and just too risky for them to see. Ihave an invite but will have to make my choice closer to the time. I can only isolate from Friday after school on,

We're driving to visit my wife's 92 year old grandmother in Arkansas and she doesn't GAF about the virus and neither do we. We'll be living every day normally as we've done since March. She's said she's lived through real crises in her life and this isn't one of them.

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We're driving to visit my wife's 92 year old grandmother in Arkansas and she doesn't GAF about the virus and neither do we. We'll be living every day normally as we've done since March. She's said she's lived through real crises in her life and this isn't one of them.

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I genuinely wish my parents would have this sort of mindset but unfortunately they do not.

Hoping for good weather in Texas as we are doing our Thanksgiving family meal outside on of the backyard deck in the open air with chairs spaced reasonable distance. We are keeping our gathering smaller, just immediate family (10 people). Looking forward to seeing everyone.

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We're driving to visit my wife's 92 year old grandmother in Arkansas and she doesn't GAF about the virus and neither do we. We'll be living every day normally as we've done since March. She's said she's lived through real crises in her life and this isn't one of them.

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Went to wedding in Amarillo last weekend. Bride had Covid about two weeks before. 89 year old grandma was still there having a great time. No mask.

I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

We both work in healthcare with exposure to COVID. Not worth the risk to the olds in our families.

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I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

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I love this. How come the elderly value family more than surviving? How come the elderly were the first to return to church? The elderly just have this thing called priorities and their survival isn't based on substance but on will.

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I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

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I just don't understand why people can't see that it's not just about individual life and death. If this were something where fatality happened instantly, it'd be close to that (but would still occupy morgue resources). Instead this is quite the opposite: survival rates are pretty dang good, but it frequently involves weeks of hospitalization to get there. That's the impact on society. It doesn't really matter to society at large if your grandma dies. It does matter if your grandma spends a month in the hospital, occupying an ICU bed and requiring highly dedicated care from hospital staff that would normally be available for car/workplace accidents, heart attacks, etc.

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ReloadAg said:

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We're driving to visit my wife's 92 year old grandmother in Arkansas and she doesn't GAF about the virus and neither do we. We'll be living every day normally as we've done since March. She's said she's lived through real crises in her life and this isn't one of them.

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Went to wedding in Amarillo last weekend. Bride had Covid about two weeks before. 89 year old grandma was still there having a great time. No mask.

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One thing I've noticed is that old folks in their 90s or close to that age don't seem as worried because realistically they could kick the bucket at any time due to their advanced age. Big difference between a 65 year old and 90 year old.

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Proposition Joe said:

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I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

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I love this. How come the elderly value family more than surviving? How come the elderly were the first to return to church? The elderly just have this thing called priorities and their survival isn't based on substance but on will.

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You know it doesn't have to be either "family" or "surviving", right?

There's thousands of elderly out there that are still communicating and seeing their family, just taking certain precautions while doing so -- with the mindset that if they make these adjustments for a year that they can survive and have more time with their family.

There's very few people around here promoting a "lock the elderly up and we'll see them next year if they survive"... People are still seeing their elderly family, but that doesn't necessarily require a "eff social distancing and this mask, meemaw ain't changin' for no virus!"

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coolerguy12 said:

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ReloadAg said:

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We're driving to visit my wife's 92 year old grandmother in Arkansas and she doesn't GAF about the virus and neither do we. We'll be living every day normally as we've done since March. She's said she's lived through real crises in her life and this isn't one of them.

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Went to wedding in Amarillo last weekend. Bride had Covid about two weeks before. 89 year old grandma was still there having a great time. No mask.

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One thing I've noticed is that old folks in their 90s or close to that age don't seem as worried because realistically they could kick the bucket at any time due to their advanced age. Big difference between a 65 year old and 90 year old.

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Someone in their 90's at a milestone family function? Yeah, it's fairly easy to understand and support that mindset.

Doing thanksgiving with In-Laws, Christmas with my family.

In my family, my mother and sister/BIL are all very skittish still. BIL has immunodeficiency, and my mom thinks she's old already (she's 62). For the first few months my mom refused to see my family (Me, My Wife, Our Daughter) at all and only saw my sister as she, too, was isolating. Fathers day that finally changed and we've seen them once a month of so since. Seen my sister only once, outside at my daughter's 2 year birthday during mid-October.

My grandmother (88) has been all over with all of our extended family (beach vacation, family lakehouse), and in-and-out of the hospital last month. She's dead set on everyone being together for Christmas as usual so I think even the skittish ones will oblige.

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texagbeliever said:

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Proposition Joe said:

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I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

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I love this. How come the elderly value family more than surviving? How come the elderly were the first to return to church? The elderly just have this thing called priorities and their survival isn't based on substance but on will.

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You know it doesn't have to be either "family" or "surviving", right?

There's thousands of elderly out there that are still communicating and seeing their family, just taking certain precautions while doing so -- with the mindset that if they make these adjustments for a year that they can survive and have more time with their family.

There's very few people around here promoting a "lock the elderly up and we'll see them next year if they survive"... People are still seeing their elderly family, but that doesn't necessarily require a "eff social distancing and this mask, meemaw ain't changin' for no virus!"

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First of all your original post was a slight at the intellectual capabilities of the elderly. Mocking their ability to only get the most basic cell phone to work. You use this as a basis to deem them unfit to make decisions that they think are best for them. I'm just telling you, that maybe, just maybe, elderly people are wise enough to value things better than you!

Just remember 2 weeks = 8 months. So you can say things will be better next year, or 2 years but don't think that line hasn't been used before. Besides life is not guaranteed for the young and certainly less for the old.

texagbeliever said:

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Proposition Joe said:

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texagbeliever said:

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Proposition Joe said:

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I applaud people - including the older generation - deciding on their own risk tolerances.

But those are individual choices not guidance for all - we shouldn't be looking at someone who has mastered a Jitterbug phone and assume they also are wise ole sages on epidemiology.

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I love this. How come the elderly value family more than surviving? How come the elderly were the first to return to church? The elderly just have this thing called priorities and their survival isn't based on substance but on will.

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You know it doesn't have to be either "family" or "surviving", right?

There's thousands of elderly out there that are still communicating and seeing their family, just taking certain precautions while doing so -- with the mindset that if they make these adjustments for a year that they can survive and have more time with their family.

There's very few people around here promoting a "lock the elderly up and we'll see them next year if they survive"... People are still seeing their elderly family, but that doesn't necessarily require a "eff social distancing and this mask, meemaw ain't changin' for no virus!"

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First of all your original post was a slight at the intellectual capabilities of the elderly. Mocking their ability to only get the most basic cell phone to work. You use this as a basis to deem them unfit to make decisions that they think are best for them. I'm just telling you, that maybe, just maybe, elderly people are wise enough to value things better than you!

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Apparently you didn't comprehend the point being made. I never stated old people are "unfit to make decisions that they think are best for them" -- I actually applauded people for making their own risk assessments in another post.

My point is just because meemaw decides she doesn't care (or it's worth it) isn't an indicator of anything other than her own personal decision, not that it's a smart move for Meemaw Worldwide.