OEF/OIF Suicides

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Aggie Therapist
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I'm all for that my man
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I alluded to this in a previous post. It often entails several months of training to prepare for deployments. Then add one year for the deployment. There is a good likelihood of a PCS move as well. This is the life of many SMs. Then repeat this spin cycle. It's a lot of stress over a prolonged period of time. Iraq and Afghanistan were Army-Centric. Therefore, the Army leads the way in the number of cases of PTSD and suicides.
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You may be inferring a tone or implications that I don't intend. I'm not criticizing the safety nets - I'm just saying I'd like to see fewer needing them in the first place. I also don't think it's entirely a "wussification," although I could see the case that it's a significant part… but you take a 22yo who was "someone" on the inside and becomes an isolated nobody on the outside… its going to be rough. I'm curious what would happen if we set up a probationary system for vets (likely with financial incentivizes) where they get integrated with local vets and assigned someone to watched (and evaluated / referred as needed) during their first years of transition.

Think of the social role the church used to fill: helping network folks across society in worship, learning, recreation, employment, dating, etc. The decline of that institution alone leaves a half dozen voids. If the youngest generations were pushed into the VFW / American Legion groups you may see them backfilling SOME of modernity's voids.
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A significant variable that is often lost in obscurity is a good percentage of people who have PTSD also have a chemical addiction which is an impediment to healing. It is easier to fight one war instead of two simultaneously.
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Get Off My Lawn,

I am all for mentorship from the older Vets and generations for the younger Vets. It would actually be therapy for both parties. Perhaps the Vietnam Vets would get closure for their sacrifice and services. Find relevance in their time serving their country by being able to guide the younger Veterans. I know they were given a **** sandwich when they got back from Vietnam.

The VFWs and American Legion posts have always been hit or miss for me. I think working together in order to make them more appealing to the younger generations would help out a lot.

Huge potential for Peer support. Vets helping Vets.
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You are not wrong. Self medication with alcohol, drugs, risky behaviors….

In a previous post someone mentioned that PTSD wasn't so high in WWII. This was because it was buried as being a "yellow bellied" coward, or that just weird uncle Joe…. Who medicated with alcohol, drugs and beat their kids. PTSD is not generational but it has come to the forefront and being recognized.

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I read many of the WWII veterans returned and possibly went to school, started careers and families. However, upon retirement, many of them experienced intrusive thoughts about the war.

I tell people and veterans with PTSD who have chemical addictions that they should get clean because healing requires a rational mind.
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Shoot. It was still like that on line units in 2014. No one wants to "look weak".

I always told my men, "sometimes you got to take off the armor and get some help".

What do we do every Monday at the motor pool? PMCS are vehicles. What's the last thing we PMCS…..if at all? Our Soldiers. Those breakdown too without proper maintenance…
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Aggie Therapist said:

Shoot. It was still like that on line units in 2014. No one wants to "look weak".

I always told my men, "sometimes you got to take off the armor and get some help".

What do we do every Monday at the motor pool? PMCS are vehicles. What's the last thing we PMCS…..if at all? Our Soldiers. Those breakdown too without proper maintenance…
You are absolutely right. We can do so much more systemically.
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Zulu451 said:

You are not wrong. Self medication with alcohol, drugs, risky behaviors….

In a previous post someone mentioned that PTSD wasn't so high in WWII. This was because it was buried as being a "yellow bellied" coward, or that just weird uncle Joe…. Who medicated with alcohol, drugs and beat their kids. PTSD is not generational but it has come to the forefront and being recognized.


I think most WWII vets also did a better job assimilating back into society. Most of them did their job, came home, and started their families and really didn't talk a whole lot about the war. They shoved their experience deep down and out of reach. We also didn't have a culture where the military was their identity. At least I don't think

Also, everyone keeps focusing on PTSD in here. While PTSD is a legitimate concern, there are other conditions and issues that can precipitate dysfunction in life, and ultimately suicide. Right now we aren't really at war, at least not like we were 15-20 years ago, yet we're still seeing high rates of suicide among active duty - which likely continues when those individuals get out. It could be the optempo, or squeezing more out of fewer people and burning their candle on both ends, ruining work-life balance.



https://www.defense.gov/News/Releases/Release/Article/3569734/department-of-defense-releases-annual-report-on-suicide-in-the-military-calenda/
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Tell your soldiers to stop marrying strippers
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I can't remember where I read it, but the long amount of time between end of combat and returning home (occupation duty, long boat rides etc..) was good for WW2 vets. In my modern example I was running patrols and under fire exactly a week before returning home my first tour. Hell I was wounded by an IED exactly 30 days prior to coming home in 2008.
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Good point. Hadn't thought of that. I wonder if the theory is that the 1-2 months it took to come home allowed for time to decompress with people that went through the same thing you did. You got to talk things over with other men, and so when you came home you had already had some therapeutic venting with them. Your choices weren't spill all your stresses to your family, bottle it up till it explodes, or go see doc.
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Tanker123 said:

I can only give the perspective pertaining to the Army. I noticed a significant percentage of soldiers with PTSD wanted to go back to deployed environments. I really don't know why that is the case. Obviously, they miss something from their deployments. Perhaps it's the camaraderie, excitement, or the want of adrenalin.

Afghanistan and Iraq burnt out the Army. Units start training and preparing a year before deployments. Some soldiers have deployed a few to a handful of times. Constant and prolonged stress is not good for the psyche.

Obviously, the people who committed suicide lacked hope they would heal. How to give them hope is my question. The Army can do a much better job assessing the soldiers for PTSD and standardizing how they are treated by the chain of command and the Army in general. Treating people with PTSD is a hit or miss situation. We have a lot to learn about PTSD. Some people will bury their trauma in the shallow, but it can become unburied in the future.

It is unfortunate that some people can't mitigate or rationally deal with the trauma. I knew a SGT who could not get pass the fact he lost a buddy in Afghanistan. We lost a daughter a couple years ago, and I can't mitigate my wife's trauma and PTSD. It's hard to be a witness to this.
Unfortunately, the Army's OPTEMPO hasn't changed 1/10 deployed in 2021, and is deploying again. On top of that the Army's rotations to Europe keeps ABCTs and SBCTs busy.

The Army is still burnt out and is being worked to the bone.
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Misplaced Aggie said:


Unfortunately, the Army's OPTEMPO hasn't changed 1/10 deployed in 2021, and is deploying again. On top of that the Army's rotations to Europe keeps ABCTs and SBCTs busy.

The Army is still burnt out and is being worked to the bone.
Yeah, same with the Navy. Especially with the need to counter China, and then support other Allies in the mid-east. Deployments are long and frequent. When I was attached to the Marines, they deployed every 2 years for 6 months on a rotation with 3 other units. If you have a kid, and you stay with that unit for 4 years, that's a whole year of their life that you're missing. And I know some people that have been with that unit for more than 4 years.

The amount of infidelity I saw from the Marines, as well as the divorces due to spousal infidelity back home, was shocking. Even among the officers that I thought were better men than that. You figure all these little things affect people. A lot of people are getting out, or trying to switch into the Air Force, for better quality of life, or because they say their wife can't deal with them being away so often/long.
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Well, Soldiers will marry just about anything that moves to get out of the barracks.

One of my Soldiers blew his head off when we got from Korea in his backyard in front of his son, wife and MPs. The wife said "just do it already. I want your son to see it!"

Life is an absolute meat grinder for military families…healthy and toxic relationships.
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bigtruckguy3500 said:

I think most WWII vets also did a better job assimilating back into society. Most of them did their job, came home, and started their families and really didn't talk a whole lot about the war. They shoved their experience deep down and out of reach. We also didn't have a culture where the military was their identity. At least I don't think
I want to elaborate on a couple of points you made.

I'm lucky enough to have gotten to spend a good amount of time with my mother's father b. 1915 but not nearly as much time with my father's father b. 1909. Dad's dad served in the Navy and since he was married with children, he spent the entire war at Pensacola, FL where he was a tailgunner trainer. Mom's father didn't get married until after the war but he spent 3 years in combat with the US Army Air Corps in the South Pacific fighting through New Guinea and The Philippines.

A few major differences between then and now.

In WWII, our nation was fighting against major industrialized nations - Germany, Italy and Japan. They attacked us with weapons they manufactured themselves. And today, we drive their cars.

When was the last time you bought anything that was made in Iraq, Afghanistan, etc. And what is that thing they're well known for producing? Afghanistan - rugs, opium? Iraq - can't think of anything other than oil unless you want to go back to Biblical times and give them credit for beer. In any case, neither country passes the Frank Zappa test of having a good beer and a good airline.

In WWII, we as a nation were at war other nations. And we were in it until it was over. I've seen my Grandfather's Enlistment papers where it states that he's in for 5 years or until the War is over. I look at his six Overseas Service Bars and think that's a lot. Then I look at some of the Generals today with 10-15 Overseas Service Bars and think - As a nation, what were we doing for 20 years? We could beat the Russians in the Space Race and put a man on the Moon before the end of a decade but we can't defeat a bunch of guys living in a cave inside of 2 decades.

Myself, I was an Armor Officer in the TXARNG from 1994-2000. There was never a question in my mind that we would wind up back in Iraq at some point. Likely fighting a Tank battle. It didn't happen during my watch but in 2005, my old unit deployed to Iraq for a year.

I thought about it a lot during that year (probably as much as the "weapons of war" VP candidate did). I felt regret that I wasn't there with my unit but, my time in service was long over. In 2005, I was offered a Civilian Job in Iraq making $300k/yr with the caveat that they couldn't guarantee my safety. I thought about it for a split second but I was already making half that much working in Los Angeles and nobody was actively trying to blow me up.

The points I want to make by giving that description is:
We were not at war against an industrialized nation. We were at war against factions of what were usually religious fanatics. Just looking at the casus belli and the enemy, WWII and the GWOT were nothing alike.


For the GWOT, there was no mission complete / successful end state criteria. It wasn't over when Saddam Hussein was removed from power, executed and democracy installed in Iraq. It wasn't over when Osama bin Ladin was killed while hiding out in Pakistan. There's no way to defeat an idea. It's as ridiculous as the NFL's "End Racism" campaign. As long as people exist, it will never end.

The USA as a nation never felt like it was at war for 20 years. There was no rationing, there was no draft. The Military was something that a lot of people did if they wanted to get into combat against members of a different religion, or if they were desperate to get out of town during a bad economy (dot.com crash started just before 9/11 and the Surge in Iraq was just ahead of the Subprime Mortgage crash)

When the WWII veterans came home, it was over. There was no more Mussolini, Hitler or the Third Reich, Japanese Empire. After the war, we occupied those countries for ?? years (79 years and counting at this point).

When the GWOT veterans came home - over a 20 year period, almost nothing was resolved. And we didn't remain in those countries to rebuild their industrialized economies back to where we can buy their cars. No, we just kind of left them in a worse state than when we showed up and we lost a lot of American lives and Trillions of USD doing it.

As far as assimilation back into society, there are two parts to it.
1 - The fact that it was individuals getting out of the service while the conflict was still going. The civilians didn't know it was over because they never knew it was going in the first place. See people like me living fat dumb and happy while my old unit was deployed.
2 - With budget cuts and our weapons becoming more lethal, fewer and fewer people are required to project the same amount of combat power. As a result, we have very few people serving in the military. So instead of everybody my age who had both Grandfathers serve in WWII, these days, most people have to look really hard to find a cousin or friend who is serving in the Military or who has served recently.

That leads to this treatment of Military Veterans as some sort of odd entity. And because regular civilians don't know anybody in the military, they don't really know anything other than what they see on TV or in the movies.

Back to the whole topic of how this relates to suicides, etc.

According to the report posted earlier, military suicides related to OEF/OIF appear to be not much different than civilians in the same age range. But, we all know somebody who has succumbed or somebody who is on the edge. Maybe more than one.

In conclusion to my whole thought, overall point is - we shouldn't compare today's veterans to WWII veterans because it was a totally different ballgame back then.

Nevermind Social Media versus Newspapers and Newsreels.

Once last comment on WWII vets and the military as their identity. Speaking for my mother's father, yeah, it was part of his identity but it wasn't his whole identity. He got up and did calisthenics every morning. Kept his Class A jacket in the front hall closet. I guarantee he thought about it every day and he never stopped hating the "Dirty Nasty Japs".

It wasn't viewed as anything out of the ordinary because everybody else had the same kinds of stories because everybody back then served when our Nation was at war. Even the civilians had to participate with rationing, etc.
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Your quote:

"According to the report posted earlier, military suicides related to OEF/OIF appear to be not much different than civilians in the same age range. But, we all know somebody who has succumbed or somebody who is on the edge. Maybe more than one."

Made me reflect on something.

I work in an inpatient mental health hospital. Civilians. Before taking the job, I would not have guessed that there was so many people on the verge of suicide. Everything from active Suicidal Ideation, recent Suicide attempts and those with an extensive history of OD attempts.

Demographics of these individuals: 20s-40s.

They say our military is a microcosm of society, so our servicemembers having a suicide epidemic makes sense if our society as a whole is having a mental health crisis and astronomical suicide rates as well.

I think the stigma is worse on the civilian side of the house when it comes to PTSD and mental health issues. Military members get a pass because "oh they were in the Marines, he needs care and love to deal with his issues". Well, our civilian counterparts need that care too.
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In Ken Burn's documentary "The War" some of the wives/relatives of the solders who went overseas said they all used to gather in the back yard or front porch on the weekends and talk among themselves about what they did, saw, etc. Relive it thru each other's eyes. It allowed them to talk about it with people who also lived thru it without shame or judgement. The neighbors who didn't serve were never part of those conversations. That was there therapy.

Can you imagine Eugene Sledge coming home and talking to a Counselor, or his wife, or a neighbor who didn't deploy about pulling gold teeth from dead Japanese on Okinawa. Or falling down that hill in the mud/rain into a pit full of dead bodies. They'd be horrified and it would show on there faces.

But when he talked to other vets who lived thru the same stuff, they all shook their heads and told similar stories without judgement or crossways looks.

My grandfather was a WWII Army Corps of Engineers Captain. Stationed on Okinawa after the fighting stopped building the B29 runways. Their was a Japanese holdout in a cave and the CO told him to get someone from his company (?) to get him out or kill him. So, my Grandpa decided he could not ask his men to do what he was not willing to do, and crawled into the cave to try and get the guy to surrender. He tried several times to get him to give up and the soldier would not surrender. So, he took his .45 and shot him. I'd heard this story second hand a few times from my father, but only in bits and pieces and not much detail because my grandfather just never talked about it.

One Easter my wife and I were visiting and in the hallway of his home looking at all the photos of his grandkids on the wall right by his bedroom. His bedroom door was open, and he was looking for something in his top dresser drawer and there is a white piece of cloth on top. My wife asked him "what is that?". He pulls out a Japanese battle flag and proceeds to tell my wife, in great detail, about what he did in Okinawa. I'd never once heard him ever refer to that incent before, or after. But you could have heard a pin drop for the 10m he told that story. When he was done, he ended with, "we were at war, and I did what I had to do to protect my men". That was it. I have no clue if he ever told anyone else except maybe another Uncle who was in the infantry with Patton in North Africa that story.

I guess my point is the guys from WW2 felt they did something for the world that was bigger than themselves and they shared a common accomplishment and shared it with each other. I know lots of people who feel like the last 20-years of the WOT has been a huge waste of life and money.
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Peer support groups is the future

I'm a huge fan of them. Best of all, no cost.
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My Grandfather was WW2 and my Stepfather Vietnam. Never saw either more relaxed than at family gatherings, when they were off by themselves, talking.
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Suicide is something that I struggle with understanding because no matter how bad things get, I'm always looking for some sort of upside. Obviously if I had a terminal disease or something like that, I'd probably have a different view.

During my first 10 years out of Texas A&M, we had a bunch of guys from the Classes of 1989 - 1991 commit suicide. I don't know what the normal distribution is but if we looked at the 265 or so people who marched Final Review with the Fightin' Texas Aggie Band in May 1989, something like 7 of them would commit suicide within the next 10-15 years. I'd have to go back and list names to validate my numbers but those numbers are fairly accurate.

One of the craziest ones and most shocking for me was a guy who I attended Muster with at Fort Knox during 1999. I was there for our 2 week Annual Training in SIMNET and he was there for the Armor Officers Advanced Course.

Then I ran into his father at Muster at Reed Arena in April 2000. I assumed he was there in his capacity with the Aggie Band Association to answer "Here!" for the Class of '89 Infantry Band Drum Major who died in a plane crash in May 1999. But before the ceremony, he said that he didn't know he was going to be there and just found out. I didn't read too much into that but when they called his son's name and he answered "Here" I realized what had happened.
https://sites.rootsweb.com/~txdicken/spur/m/marion_paul.htm

Anyway, fast forward to Covid-19 and I start hearing stories about college aged kids committing suicide during the lockdowns and thereafter. I went through that crap in Los Angeles County and I was very mad. Furious. I did everything I could to cope and developed a really bad attitude.

The first story that got my attention was the USAFA cadets who killed themselves during the initial quarantine lockdowns. But then I started hearing more stories. I think it's been about 2 years now since I had two different friends have their children commit suicide.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/2020/03/30/air-force-academy-senior-cadets-deaths-suicide-pandemic/5089018002/

I think these stories don't get reported enough and nobody wants to pry so we don't really learn anything more that might be able to help with prevention.

But yeah, it's more prevalent among the regular population these days than what most of us realize.
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Aggie Therapist said:

Well, Soldiers will marry just about anything that moves to get out of the barracks.

One of my Soldiers blew his head off when we got from Korea in his backyard in front of his son, wife and MPs. The wife said "just do it already. I want your son to see it!"

Life is an absolute meat grinder for military families…healthy and toxic relationships.

Wow. He was already unstable with a gun to his head. But her? "just do it already. I want your son to see it!"

WTF is wrong with her?
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What class were you in the Band? Outfit?
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Hell Bent Streetfighter '92
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We did not cross paths. But I knew fish Roberts.
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As a fish, it was myself, Kevin Roberts '89, and two Class of '91 sophomores who were on the cut crew who accidentally dropped a tree on a fish's truck who had parked next to the cut site.

Sadly, one of the sophomores died in a car wreck on an icy road so that leaves only two of us to share that memory.
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Awful. Did not like seeing you post of so many suicides from BQ's.
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hillcountryag86 said:

Awful. Did not like seeing you post of so many suicides from BQ's.
Same. Especially when that number includes people like the Class of '90 Band Commander (also B-Co and was a Navy Vet).

In the wake of a lot of that, we started checking in on our buddies regularly. Might not catch every scenario but at least we're all still looking out for each other.

In case you didn't know, Kevin Roberts got into some weather when he was just starting to fly commercially.
https://www.oklahoman.com/story/news/1999/04/29/plane-crash-pilot-identified/62244627007/
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I found the accident report on this one, I used to fly freight in that kind of plane, and it appears the wing failed on him.

That's an era of my career I'm thankful I survived.
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Aggie Therapist said:

Peer support groups is the future

I'm a huge fan of them. Best of all, no cost.
Peer support groups are good, if it's actually peers. Guys I knew who were struggling with combat, and losing friends in combat, aren't going to sit in a group with the guy who got ptsd stateside while an airplane mechanic. He may have legit ptsd from something, but they don't care, he needs to be with people with the same experiences.

They especially loathe the guy who was coached on what to say to get his ptsd rating for the benefits.They would rather deal with it on their own then be around people like that.

This is not a hypothetical.
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Yeah. Trust me I get it.

As clinical inpatient therapists, I have heard it all. Combat related PTSD, non combat related PTSD and civilians that struggle with PTSD because of HORRIBLE things that has happened to them as children or at some point in their life.

I show everyone the same unconditional love and support and positive regard.

If a Veteran doesn't feel like opening up because "MY PTSD IS WORSE THAN YOURS" or "Bro, that's nothing compared to what I went through" then that's going to be on them. Hopefully they can find someone who understand them.
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Not unique to our forces either.

https://www.cnn.com/2024/10/21/middleeast/gaza-war-israeli-soldiers-ptsd-suicide-intl/index.html
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"When Mizrahi was on leave, he suffered from bouts of anger, sweating, insomnia and social withdrawal"

This quote alone hits home for me personally and my own personal journey with PTSD.
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What needs to be invented is a comprehensive healing program from start to finish. That is what is sorely missing. What I have seen is a rather random approach.
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