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Is he threatening your sister? If he is, adultry aside, call his commander if he's an officer, call his Chief if he's enlisted or just call the police and while you may not be able to prove adultry, you can make his life miserable by informing his commander/chief. I know the AF takes domestic violence VERY seriously

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I've never been in the military but was not aware that military members were subject to different laws than common law specifically adultery which is not illegal per common law.

https://veteran.com/ucmj-adultery/

I am not in the military nor am I having (or have ever had) an affair with a member of the military. I just felt I would get better responses to this subject than on the Military board versus getting ridiculed in the Zoo (General board).

My BIL (sister's husband) is making a career of the Navy (~ 25 year to date) and had a 6 month long affair on my sister before being caught. She has since filed for divorce. He's being a real ass during this time to her. I wanted to know if notifying the miliary of his adultery could be something I could threaten him with if he doesn't be more respectful during this time.

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Of course, we only have one side of the story.

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The wife could also be lazy and unwilling to work, and realizes she is about to lose her income and salary.

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Of course, we only have one side of the story.

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He's pissed because she going after 1/2 of his pension.

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As he should be.

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If she has been with him for all 25 years of his military career, and he's the one who blew up the marriage, I have little sympathy for him.

He likely couldn't have had a career without her, and her career probably suffered from being a military spouse.

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The wife could also be lazy and unwilling to work, and realizes she is about to lose her income and salary.

All of those things could be true, or not, but we don't know.

Again, we only have half the story... and really, not even half.

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In 1982 Congress passed the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act, which allows state courts to treat disposable retired pay either as property solely of the member, or as property of the member and his spouse in accordance with the laws of the state court. A state court can now divide retired pay in any way it chooses (subject to the laws of that state). All 50 states opted to treat military pension as marital or community property.

As the wife in question apparently followed her husband from base to base around the world for 25 years supporting him, the household and their family, she's hardly lazy. She was an essential element for him being professionally successful enough to earn a pension. The Act was passed because so many military spouses were being dumped by their husbands while he walked off with a pension.

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Well then, maybe, just maybe, he shouldn't have f***ed around.

Because now he is finding out.

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Took you 4 edits to post a paragraph from google?

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What I find odd is how does anything about her ex being disabled and compensated for it have anything to do with her? The rest I understand

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What I find odd is how does anything about her ex being disabled and compensated for it have anything to do with her? The rest I understand

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BC once retired tax free VA comp comes into play and service members often use this to raise their pay while excluding ex-wives from their court appointed share. This happened to a friend of mine, her ex kept getting VA disability raises and her share was decreasing, the VA would not talk to her BC her name wasn't on the account except as a beneficiary. They finally caught it and she got a $15K check in the mail one day with no explanation, from the VA, and her monthly pay is also up.

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What I find odd is how does anything about her ex being disabled and compensated for it have anything to do with her? The rest I understand

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BC once retired tax free VA comp comes into play and service members often use this to raise their pay while excluding ex-wives from their court appointed share. This happened to a friend of mine, her ex kept getting VA disability raises and her share was decreasing, the VA would not talk to her BC her name wasn't on the account except as a beneficiary. They finally caught it and she got a $15K check in the mail one day with no explanation, from the VA, and her monthly pay is also up.

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That's right, forgot about the old way that was calculated, pretty sure for 98% of the time now the military retirement pay and any VA Disability checks are separate and distinct items (I think there is a way more wordy explanation on the DFAS site but that's the basic gist)

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If I got this call, I probably wouldn't take action. A random accusation with no evidence from the brother of a disgruntled estranged spouse. Calls like that happen all the time.

Even with evidence, would need to show how it affected good order and discipline. Don't see the elements of the charge being met in this.

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