Feeling Introspective

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Pirate04
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I leave out tomorrow for another overseas run. This time as a civilian contractor. And it has me wondering. Now, I do believe it can be seen across any profession but especially in the military, do you feel bored or unfulfilled when life is too comfortable, or too ordinary?
Maybe it's because I'm still in my 30s, single with no kids, and relatively young in my military career (about to pass 6 years) but I feel almost not myself when things aren't super hectic. Has anyone else experienced this? Does it ever go away?
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Pirate04 said:

I leave out tomorrow for another overseas run. This time as a civilian contractor. And it has me wondering. Now, I do believe it can be seen across any profession but especially in the military, do you feel bored or unfulfilled when life is too comfortable, or too ordinary?
Maybe it's because I'm still in my 30s, single with no kids, and relatively young in my military career (about to pass 6 years) but I feel almost not myself when things aren't super hectic. Has anyone else experienced this? Does it ever go away?
Just means you are comfortable with your lifestyle right now and that is awesome and should be applauded. How many other can say the same right now?

I definitely experienced it myself. I only did four years but it was a very chaotic four years with a few more contracting as well. Stateside I would feel antsy and even irritable at times. I had to be moving forward at all times. Whatever that meant to me on a particular day.

That being said, I did a complete 180 at this point. In my 30's now and weird to say it, but in the mindset to start settling down. I think this is pretty common. Live fast and hard when young and free but get older and the instincts kick in. Especially when it comes to possible family.

Will add that I have been in the same spot now for five years and I can definitely feel a pull of.....something, from time to time. I know it is the old lifestyle peeking in.

TLDR: Yes, yes(for some)
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I felt that way after getting out. It changed quickly once I got into school and into a relationship. Four years later and we are on the couch watching tv and I couldn't be more content with life. Looking forward to moving, starting new jobs, etc. I think you just haven't settled down so your just wanting to constantly be on the move which isn't a bad thing, it's just where you're in life.
sharpdressedman
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Pirate04 said:

I leave out tomorrow for another overseas run. This time as a civilian contractor. And it has me wondering. Now, I do believe it can be seen across any profession but especially in the military, do you feel bored or unfulfilled when life is too comfortable, or too ordinary?
Maybe it's because I'm still in my 30s, single with no kids, and relatively young in my military career (about to pass 6 years) but I feel almost not myself when things aren't super hectic. Has anyone else experienced this? Does it ever go away?
In several respects, you are ahead of life's game; successful in your profession, still young, and have more life and leadership experience than most of your age-group peers.

I sense your acute awareness of quickly approaching, or already having arrived at, a crossroads in your life. Moreover, you appear to be feeling the natural uncertainty that comes with it. Your understandable attempt to bridge your past to the future is common to all who are serious about planning their lives, but it occurs with intensity at different times for most people.

My professional life did not really begin until I was in my early 30s, due to medical school, residency, and a lengthy fellowship in my cardiology specialty. I was 40 before I had the time and money to pause my life and to contemplate traditionally weighty issues concerning the direction of my future. You are multiple years ahead of me. :-)

Follow your heart. Make a list of three primary, long-term goals you desire to achieve, put them on an age-based timeline, and create a specific plan to attain at least the first of them. This is not as simple as it may sound, but the serious introspection required will produce fruits of inner peace and self-confidence. It did for me.

Congratulations on your military career to-date, thank you for your service, and best wishes for your continued success in your professional and personal lives.

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