Neely, I wish I could help, but I only knew your dad here. Apparently some of the others here knew him fairly well, and hopefully they might have something to say.
We all loved your dad, I have two daughters and I'd give anything if they thought as much about me as you do about him. Maybe they do, I hope so. God bless you.
As an aside, I noticed Longhorn Dub, surf, and Tex Pete left a note on Tom's obituary. There are and were some class folks in this forum, despite its irreverent reputation.