I was all ready to bounce upstairs to my library, then I realized all my sailing books are at my secondary library 200 miles from here. The only one I can recall offhand is The Art of Rigging George Biddlecombe. It's more about the setting of the sails rather than the tacking and wearing.
Let me give you my experience. From 2003-4, I was a volunteer sailor on the Elissa, a three-masted barque owned and operated by the Texas Seaport Museum in Galveston. Here she is:
The Elissa was built in 1877 and sailed until the 30s, when her masts were cut off, and she was fitted with an engine and ended up being a smuggling vessel around Greece. She was impounded in the 1960s and an American nautical archealogist saw her there, and learning that Galveston wanted to build a replica pirate ship, convinced the Texans to buy and restore her instead, which they did.
The museum has a special
sail training program, where volunteers can learn and be qualified to sail on her. This is what I did. If you really want to learn about how sailing ships work, I highly recommend it. I drove down from Austin to Galveston every two weeks for six months or so, which was not cheap, but it was an awesome hobby. I quit when life intervened. If I lived in Houston or that area, I'd still do it. As a crewman, you learn the ropes literally, memorizing what every rope on the entire ship does, what the sailing commands are, how to respond to them, etc.
From a deck perspective, you don't learn how much tack you can sail into the wind or any of those kind of nuances, because that's the sort of thing the ship's officers know. The crewmen just know how to furl and unfurl sails, how to turn the yardarms, etc.
Not sure of the purpose of your interest. Mine was that I wanted to write a book about that time period, which I never did, but still may do sometime. I couldn't write it from the captain's perspective, but I could from the Richard Henry Dana perspective. I served as a crewman on the foremast, mainmast and jibboom, but have some experience on the mizzen as well.
By the way, the Texas Seaport Museum's bookstore has a lot of these kinds of books for sale. Go browse it.