I posted a thread a couple of months ago about this. Looking at a Pacifica and/or Toyota. Odyssey is out.
Good review - Owner of current Honda. I test drove and came away with the same impression.
Pacifica - allpar.com. Homer site, but decent review of the vehicle. Matched my thoughts on a test drive.
The Sienna is the only thing I could see that matched the Pacifica technology-wise. Their 8th seat honestly looks like a airline stewardess seat at the front. The Pac actually looks and sits like a seat.
The bigger issue right now is the pain of removing the seats vs. folding down inside. How often are you going to do that? And does having a full size spare matter to you?
The Odyssey drove fine, but the technology in it (2016) all seemed like "oh s***, we need to put something in. Uhh...how about this?" And a few of their 'safety features' were way more distracting that helpful (as noted in the review above).
~egon