Daddy gave us two pieces of advice that I can repeat.

1. Marry a skinny one, because they just get bigger.

2. Condom costs a quarter, baby costs 18 years.

I'm a little late to this to help the OP (I think) but for anyone else that's still reading this, my wife and I found this pastor's blog a few years back and really appreciated his approach. He's a super down to earth guy, seems to approach this conversation in, what you would call, age appropriate waves: spiritual aspect, biological aspect, brokenness aspect. For those that don't read the blogs, the idea is that waiting until a kid is old enough to understand some of the aspects of sex, is also probably too old for you to be the one that teaches him the basics (in proper context) prior to the people on the school playground being the teacher. So teaching some age appropriate pieces at 10 or 11 (maybe even 9 in some scenarios), then a year or so later intentionally talking about some other stuff, then another round in 6th or 7th grade…. He also uses the fire analogy referenced earlier in the thread, as well as a pretty solid gun analogy (making it very OB appropriate).

https://chrismlegg.com/2015/05/30/talking-to-kids-about-sex-part-i-re-released/

Three short, quick reads; fathers to sons, mothers to daughters (typically).

A quick add on: to echo what others said, the kids will mirror your comfort level in the conversation. If you're anxious about the subject matter, they'll know it and will likely be anxious as well. If you're cool, calm, and confident (mixing in some humor when appropriate) they'll receive it calmly and it won't come off as a weird chat.

Appreciate the offer, he's had a lot of family, friends and even therapist to talk to and unfortunately he's acting like an addict. Knows it's toxic but can't garner the strength to break it off.

One positive is my younger children are seeing this and hopefully taking my words to heart.

Gunny456 said:

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So what would you tell your daughter?

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Understandably, that is usually the Moms "job".

However, I had to go in the game once totally unexpected when I picked my stepdaughter up from school in the 6th grade. She was visisbly upset about something, so I asked.

Turns out another girl in her school had been assaulted by someones brother at a sleep over the previous weekend and now the whole school knew about it. I was a correctional officer at the time & had dealt with this from the other side of it, but never like this.

She had heard a lot of terms that she'd never heard before, and was genuinely confused. She been given pretty basic/intro info from her mom, but nothing like this.

So, I had to wing it as best I could as delicately as I could. I texted her mom & gave her a heads up before she got home & she took it from there, thankfully.

The point is though, there may come a time when you have to answer a question or questions that you were not expecting.