AgShaun00 said:
GenericAggie said:
Mets should be burned down to the ground.
Instagram is an awful platform that destroys the confidence, self-esteem and well being of young girls.
It's awful. They should have had to pay a trillion dollars or more. **** Zuck.
but then your daughter hates you cause she can't have it any all her friends do. No win
Be a man. Be her dad. She has no other person to protect her but you.
I am such a parent. I told my daughter that she cannot have a smart phone until soph HS when all her friends had it in Jr high. That is the rule of the house. No arguments. Doesn't matter if Olivia, Eva or Dhruvi has one.
But I did explain to her why, and said it was not a punishment, it was to protect her. And that she was a good kid. She probably did not understand the logic at that time but felt good that she wasn't being punished.
I also joked with her that I "did not care" if she hated me... she would laugh but the hidden implication was it did not matter what her friends did, I am there to protect her.
If your kids turn out well, it is a win. Not popularity or being the cool dad/mom.
The messaging is critical. It is not "You cannot have it because I say so". That leaves a lot of doubt and may cause low self esteem or rebellion. Instead the message should be "You cannot have it because it is not good for you, you are not being punished, I am protecting you because I love you". That will yield better results.
I get it that my approach is very different from most parents, even my friends would be shocked or pretend to be, when I'd tell them. They would be boasting about how their kid would demand the latest iPhone.