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I think a lot of the older guys on here define abuse differently. Or they at least learned how to deal with abuse differently. The thought process is that learning to deal with adversity, and abuse, prepares you for the real world. Football happens to be the pinnacle of life preparation. You get knocked down, you get up. You get beat, you keep playing. You do what you don't want to do. You get abused and you deal with it.
Or they're in denial, and refuse to characterize what happened to them as abuse. Admitting you experienced abuse is also admitting you are a victim of abuse, and very few men are going to admit they are a victim, especially if part of their personal identity is rough tough former HS football player who walked uphill both ways to school in the snow with feet wrapped in barbwire.
Never forget that it took the US gymnastics team testifying about Larry Nassar's sexual abuse for former Ohio State athletes to recognize that what Richard Strauss did to them for decades was sexual abuse. These were football players, wrestlers, basketball players, lacrosse players, men easily strong enough to tie Strauss into a pretzel if they wanted to. Why was he able to abuse them for so long? Because he was an authority figure, and classified the abuse as 'medical treatment'. Anyone who spoke up was dismissed as weak-minded and lacking in mental toughness. Admitting what Strauss did was abuse meant getting all of these rough, tough grown men to admit they were victims of sexual assault, and good luck with that. Easier to classify a guy as 'creepy' than to admit you were a rape victim because you went in for a strained ligament and he jammed a finger up inside of you.
Nassar called it medical treatment, and it was sexual assault. Strauss called it medical treatment, and it was sexual assault. They were both able to get away with it for so long because they were protected by their title and their authority.
Some head coaches subject their players to physical abuse, and it is easier to classify that as 'hard coaching' than admit to yourself you were a victim.
I'm not saying this current generation isn't soft (there are plenty examples they are), I'm just pointing out how easy it is for people to dismiss what happened to them because it allows them to ignore an ugly truth.