94DCAg said:
93Marine- I welcome the opportunity to read different research, but I don't think SAT and ACT scores are favor men or women overall. High school grades favor women due to girls having more executive management skills earlier in life--i.e., turning in the homework, organizing tasks.
Infiniti- Cheers to your wife, marriage is hard. We all have it hard right now. Guys and gals. Nothing is easy. Claiming a war on men may make you feel better but it is not helping the situation.
In addition to the voices that advocate for traditional white christian based gender roles from 80+ years ago, I'd suggest following some of the work by Scott Galloway and Ricard V. Reeves. They both have a lot of thoughts on how society has ignored the unique needs and role of men. Lots of food for thought.
Did you raise a girl and a boy? As someone with a young adult boy and girl, I look back at how much of my parenting edits influenced and had no influence. Comparing the cognitive, educational, social and executive skills of both of my kids has been interesting. I apologize to my son all the time for not red-shirting him. He's found his groove in college, but missed opportunities in high school for sure--and didn't get into his first choice colleges as a result.
Infiniti is the car. I am Infinity (as is unending!). :-)
My wife has done well but she has leaned a lot on me and does not acknowledge it. Why? Who knows. For example, she did not have a good Bachelors degree, I paid for her Masters degree in a good field with my money (when I was making a paltry amount) that she is in now. I drove her to and picked her up from school every day as we just had 1 car. Then I bought a new 2002 Ford Focus for her so she could use that. I also guided her on how to negotiate offers. But I have never heard any word of appreciation, which is all that men need. I don't need gifts or money or anything.
Most women I know have similar stories. They lean on daddy or hubby or boyfriend, stand on their shoulders and reach for the stars. Then they forget the ladder and sometimes kick it away.
I have a boy and a girl. With the boy's college, he had a stellar profile but got into only 1 top 10 school in his field. His close male friend who had a comparable profile didn't even get that, he had to settle for 10-15 and was depressed for months. His girlfriend got into the same school my son got into and then dumped him because he was not of her status, whatever that meant. Their female classmates with similar profiles all got multiple top 10 admits and had the luxury to pick and choose. Hmm should I go to UCBerkeley or should I accept CMU? I also like Columbia and I hope GeorgiaTech takes me off the waitlist. Its very unfair.
My daughter is applying to college now and sadly she has an inferior profile. If she had my son's profile, she would get a good number of Top 10 schools. Things are also easier for her with reduced international students. Oh well. I am trying my best to guide her through. She was up until 4:30am preparing for a Math test today.
Same situation with internships, girls get called for all the coveted ones in trading applications. There are about 3-4 girls to 1 boy.
At work I've seen a good number of women who are clearly DEI hires. Just like some are hired based on race. You can just tell.
Boys are left out in the cold by society.
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High school grades favor women due to girls having more executive management skills earlier in life--i.e., turning in the homework, organizing tasks.
My personal experience is the opposite. My son was very diligent and I did not have to micromanage him. Daughter? Even in her senior year, she was skipping some homework "because I had a math test that day". Okay, did you turn it in the next day? "ummm no". But I get you are saying for the entire population and may be right.