Not posting link, so here are some excerpts:
"I was out of the closet, but in many ways, my head was still enveloped in "straight logic." I held onto the misconception that other gay men were either the object of my desire or, in the case of a girlfriend's other gay best friend, naturally, my competition. There was no middle ground."
"At a time when masculinity is being re-examined, it seems America has never been more divided on the definition of "real masculinity" a definition I've grappled with myself. I've found clarity in two places we seem to be looking last: the next generation and the queer men who blazed their trail."
"Gen Z is setting their own rules for 'real masculinity'
At the end of last semester, I asked my freshman critical writing class at Pace University in Manhattan whether they believed that our culture was witnessing a "crisis of masculinity." Most argued that men were notin crisis, citing the economic and socioeconomic privileges that come with being a white man. They defended their case by citing how other groups, like people of color and LGBTQ+ communities, have seen their rights taken away in real time.
"I think those are the people really in crisis," one of my students lamented after citing the recent passing of anti-drag, anti-trans legislation."
"What straight men could learn from queer men aside from a host of stylistic, hygienic and sex tips is to have a greater zeal and lust for life. What we're seeing from the misery of men is the product of patriarchal conditioning. While we know straight white men are the beneficiaries of our capitalist patriarchy, they are also unknowingly victims of it. "
"I was out of the closet, but in many ways, my head was still enveloped in "straight logic." I held onto the misconception that other gay men were either the object of my desire or, in the case of a girlfriend's other gay best friend, naturally, my competition. There was no middle ground."
"At a time when masculinity is being re-examined, it seems America has never been more divided on the definition of "real masculinity" a definition I've grappled with myself. I've found clarity in two places we seem to be looking last: the next generation and the queer men who blazed their trail."
"Gen Z is setting their own rules for 'real masculinity'
At the end of last semester, I asked my freshman critical writing class at Pace University in Manhattan whether they believed that our culture was witnessing a "crisis of masculinity." Most argued that men were notin crisis, citing the economic and socioeconomic privileges that come with being a white man. They defended their case by citing how other groups, like people of color and LGBTQ+ communities, have seen their rights taken away in real time.
"I think those are the people really in crisis," one of my students lamented after citing the recent passing of anti-drag, anti-trans legislation."
"What straight men could learn from queer men aside from a host of stylistic, hygienic and sex tips is to have a greater zeal and lust for life. What we're seeing from the misery of men is the product of patriarchal conditioning. While we know straight white men are the beneficiaries of our capitalist patriarchy, they are also unknowingly victims of it. "
