Urban Ag said:
As much as it pains me to say it, I have really tried to get my boys to look hard at other schools than A&M. But both are hell bent on being Aggies. So be it.
In particular, Florida. Have also come to really like Arkansas.
But I tell you what and I never thought I'd say this. I would be perfectly happy for either of them to attend Texas Tech. As long as they wrap it up
Nothing wrong with Arkie or Tech but they are definitely not the same level as A&M. Arkie is beautiful but it's not that impressive, decent business school but certainly well below Mays. HUGE Greek scene, if you aren't doing Greek there you are kind of left out. Tech is mixed bag. Some really interesting majors that pay well but a lot of garbage too. My friends with kids there all talk about how it isn't very safe either especially if you step off campus. Also a big Greek system and hard to have a social life without it.
A&M is just massive now though, ridiculously so. You are truly a number for the most part and the sheer amount of humanity and how spread out the school is can be overwhelming. It's much moreso than when I went to school in the early 90s. Engineering school is outstanding as is Business. Science is very good. Ag School is good but kind of overloaded with people that just want to go to A&M but couldn't get into Mays. A few others are decent. If your kid can get into Honors that helps too to get some preferential treatment on classes and such.
The biggest thing I would recommend is looking at majors not the schools. When you do college visits the tours are fine for general feel but call the college your kid is looking to major in and set up a meeting, hopefully with an advisor or provost and a current student. You will learn more in an hour of sitting down that way than anything else and it also will really help your kid understand what the school and major is like. You don't want them picking the school with the coolest gym or prettiest campus, they need to see what the academic buildings and classrooms look like and where they will be spending most of their time. It also gets them thinking about what they really want to study instead of where they want to go.
I know so many kids that just go to college like it's 13th Grade and either follow their friends or go some place they think is cool. A lot of parents also get caught up in the "I want my kid to have a great college experience" thing. While I get it the goal is around getting them ready to adult and get off the payroll not to recreate Animal House at $30-$70k per year. Most kids are wasting their time in college. I've got one of my son's friends who was a middling student so he decided to get a job. Eventually got someone to let him sell insurance and he will probably make $60k working from home at 19 with zero debt. Know a few that are doing great in trades. They can always go to school if they need to. Then I have friends who have kids who graduated with middling GPA's and are now 22 with no real experience outside of being VP of their Frat. They just spent a Hundred Grand or more for a Degree that really just kept them from getting experience based on the types of job they will get.
The biggest thing is take the ball on this stuff and guide your kid. Let them make the decisions but make sure you have research and information to get them thinking about the right things and asking the right questions. Schools do a crap job of this, they are more into "What color is your parachute?" idealistic crap and don't worry about costs or practicality. Kids are kids, they have a very limited viewpoint even if they do have their head screwed on right. It staggers me how many parents I know that just let their kids figure it out on their own.
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