I was in HEB today getting stuff for dinner and some beer for the game tonight. I went to the self checkout and had to have someone clear me on the beer purchase. The guy came and helped the lady next to me and then walked past me. I said, "Sir, can you help me?" As soon as "he" turned around I knew I had F'd up. He stormed over and entered the necessary whatever and I noticed that he had long painted fingernails, etc. He then stormed off to the office and left all of the self checkouts unattended.

I felt myself feeling like I had messed this situation up because I was not more observant. I actually sat in my truck and thought about how I could have handled it better.

I just find it weird that I even felt self doubt in that situation. I guess you really do boil the frog slowly.

You can't be expected to never offend someone for a honest mistake. Doing it intentionally is a different story. But English language exists as it does to make conversation simpler and just because people choose to *******ize the language doesn't make your speech wrong.

Don't feel bad. If the snowflake can't handle it, then zer should find a job that doesn't involve the public.

People have made faux pas forever. It wasn't until 2020 anyone ever thought it was a problem

It's having the opposite impact on me. I still say thank you "sir" or "ma'am" according to biological gender, I just say it more confidently and louder now to the ones playing pretend. And I always make sure to look them in the eye when I do.

Haven't had one real issue yet.

I'm slightly confused. Was it a biological male that is likely trans and didn't appreciate being identified as a man? Or a butch female upset at being called a man.

Regardless, there is a life lesson somewhere for you. Although I'm not sure what it is.

Besides the fingernails, did the person look more like a guy or a girl?

Not your fault they are ****ed up in the head. You didn't mean anything by it.

Despite it being a goal of the left, misgendering is currently not a crime. I'm going to refer to someone as mam, sir, he or she just as I was taught by my parents and teachers as a kid.

If that offends them (they/zhe/etc.) than so be it ... F your feelings

The carnies branching out cause hiring carnies now comes with a social point that can be used for virtue signaling.

Misgendering should be a jailable offense.

BCG Disciple said:

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I'm slightly confused. Was it a biological male that is likely trans and didn't appreciate being identified as a man? Or a butch female upset at being called a man.

Regardless, there is a life lesson somewhere for you. Although I'm not sure what it is.

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No, this was obviously a male. When he got close I noticed the nails, eye shadow, and makeup. From a distance and just wanting some damn service it was not noticeable.

I blurted out "see you later " to a blind guy in an elevator after small talk when I exited. Oh well. It happens.

On a funny note, I was behind Randy Rogers and his family last week at HEB. Maybe he will run across him and write a Charlie Robison type song.

frenchtoast said:

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Misgendering should be a jailable offense.

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Only if by "misgendering" you mean an adult playing pretend like they are a gender they are not

You're allowed to have culture and a point of view too. I don't think it's unreasonable to grow up in a culture that uses respectful terms such as yes ma'am and yes sir. It's also not crazy to use the term sir for someone born with a dick.

FrioAg 00 said:

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frenchtoast said:

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Misgendering should be a jailable offense.

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Only if by "misgendering" you mean an adult playing pretend like they are a gender they are not

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To the gulag with you!

JB!98 said:

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On a funny note, I was behind Randy Rogers and his family last week at HEB. Maybe he will run across "it" and write a Charlie Robison type song.

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Maybe they already did and that's why they wrote "kiss me in the dark"

Fireman said:

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You're allowed to have culture and a point of view too. I don't think it's unreasonable to grow up in a culture that uses respectful terms such as yes ma'am and yes sir. It's also not crazy to use the term sir for someone born with a dick.

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In that I am going to 52 this month and this person was probably 20, it should have been an honor of my upbringing that I called him sir.

I've been "misgendered" plenty of times at restaurants by waiters who see the long hair from behind before seeing the beard. My response is always a chuckle and a "no biggie"

Anyone who responds otherwise to that situation *wants* to be offended. You probably did him a favor, now he can go make a SM post about his harrowing encounter with oppression

I am not a biologist, so unsure how I should know what a man is vs a woman.

Have you tried being a Giant MexiHonky?

I've found that it offers a large amount of DGAF about silly **** like this.

Honestly, in the current climate, we've all been there.

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It's having the opposite impact on me. I still say thank you "sir" or "ma'am" according to biological gender, I just say it more confidently and louder now to the ones playing pretend. And I always make sure to look them in the eye when I do.

Haven't had one real issue yet.

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I've gotten to the point I don't care anymore. If I misgender so be it. I'm getting old and don't give a chit!

Muktheduck said:

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I've been "misgendered" plenty of times at restaurants by waiters who see the long hair from behind before seeing the beard.

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I had some grocery sacker approach me from the back while I was paying for my groceries and after he asked if I wanted paper or plastic "ma'am", I just turned, looked at the kid and raised an eyebrow.

I might have long blond hair but I'm 6'3" for crying out loud. I'd be a starter in the WNBA, not some dude wearing a Baja Jacket shopping for groceries.

I didn't see any need to confront the kid. Honestly, after the scamdemic, I'm just glad to see people working again.

Personally, I wouldn't do it on purpose but don't make me guess then get mad if I get it wrong.

I do not need to participate in someone else's mental illness.

Leaving aside everything else, there's obviously nothing wrong with trying to have good manners in whatever situation you're in. I assume you were raised that way.

The fact that you care shows you have a good heart. A balanced person who is accidentally "misgendered" will laugh it off.

frenchtoast said:

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Misgendering should be a jailable offense.

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Actually the only reasonable punishment is for you to be forced into gender reassignment.

Let's examine this more closely: What kind of beer did you buy? That could have been what triggered (she/sir/sirs).

The best technique is to never use pronouns. Everything is "hey you!" Or "Excuse me!" Instead of ma'am or sir.

You helped the lunatic op, you should feel good about yourself


The best thing that we can do for these crazies is not play along with their inane pretendland

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I do not need to participate in someone else's mental illness.

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This.