BAP Enthusiast said:
fixer said:
Interpersonal relationships are too dynamic for the law to have a one size fits all approach to this.
It was illegal up through at least 1980 in a number of places, why wouldn't it work now?
I'll give you a thoughtful response. It's page 11 and you are doing good work here; I respect your posting history; and I have some respect for the " theocratic fascist " positions, especially in 2022.
My issue is not, repeat , not against promotion of traditional marriage.
I think a modern re-implementation of adultery laws not only brings unintended consequences but also could in long run further disincentivize marriage. Quite simply I view this as a marriage red flag law.
Humans are deceptive. They also change over time. People hide the bad parts of themselves to incentivize other humans to interact with them. ( this is also why I view social media is on the whole a corrosive institution).
One avenue or result of human interaction is a relationship that society calls marriage.
With time the marriage can grow stronger or weaker. Deceptive people ultimately slip up and their baggage spills out all over the place. This may happen in 3 months, or 3 years. A major life changing event can also trigger a change in a person that is so substantial that the other party barely recognizes them.
In either case jealousy and insecurity can or will run the relationship.
The inevitable next step is a malevolent act of accusing the other person of adultery based on the weakest of evidence.
Next thing you know you are dealing with police at your door and a court case. You'll have the state so far up your ass that it is now making the decisions in your marriage.
(You are likely no stranger to men's scoreboard in family law situations.... )
What is the result?
You may or may not do the 1 year in jail. But what you won't ever do is entertain the idea of getting married, ever.
Adultery laws are a landmine field for men but also a non trivial number of women who get entangled with a jealous man.
This is especially the case in 2022 ( vs 1980).
Insecurity, jealousy, poor self esteem are rampant and fueled by bad upbringing but also psychological impact of overconsumption of social media ( where female anti social behavior can be wildly outsized vs male anti social behavior).
I simply see no possible way this gets implemented well enough that you wouldn't have an amber heard vs Johnny depp situation every day.