I rarely post here but I desperately need prayer for my family and particularly my 18 year old son who is in a bad place. Frankly I don't know what to do.
Prayers please
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Last: 1 day ago by DirtDiver
Praying for all of you right now
Prayers sent
Prayers are sent.
Whatever is going on, I hope you can take him on a father-son trip and escape the world for a bit while y'all pray this through. God is in the silence, and this world is noisier than ever before.
Whatever is going on, I hope you can take him on a father-son trip and escape the world for a bit while y'all pray this through. God is in the silence, and this world is noisier than ever before.
Praying for your family and son.
Praying for you, your son and your family.
If you want to email me I might be able to offer some guidance privately. This is a terribly difficult world for our sons.
Agfaithful12@gmail.com
If you email me let me know here and I will check that account asap
If you want to email me I might be able to offer some guidance privately. This is a terribly difficult world for our sons.
Agfaithful12@gmail.com
If you email me let me know here and I will check that account asap
Right now - tonight- I would tell you just be there for him, stay with him - next to him or sleep in the hallway. hold onto him, let him know you love him and care no matter how low he is feeling.
Tomorrow call a good crisis counselor and get him in to see someone who knows what they are doing ASAP.
What city are you in?
Tomorrow call a good crisis counselor and get him in to see someone who knows what they are doing ASAP.
What city are you in?
Faithful Ag said:
Right now - tonight- I would tell you just be there for him, stay with him - next to him or sleep in the hallway. hold onto him, let him know you love him and care no matter how low he is feeling.
Tomorrow call a good crisis counselor and get him in to see someone who knows what they are doing ASAP.
What city are you in?
First
Faithful Ag said:
Praying for you, your son and your family.
If you want to email me I might be able to offer some guidance privately. This is a terribly difficult world for our sons.
Agfaithful12@gmail.com
If you email me let me know here and I will check that account asap
2nd
The Banned said:
Prayers are sent.
Whatever is going on, I hope you can take him on a father-son trip and escape the world for a bit while y'all pray this through. God is in the silence, and this world is noisier than ever before.
3rd
Yes - your #1 priority tonight is to stay with him and be there next to him even if he wants you to give him space. Get everything dangerous out of his room (including his phone) and then sleep in his room or outside his door if you have too. He needs you to be there tonight.
Just saw this. Prayers for you and your son. Lots of good advice on here.
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NoahAg - praying for you and your son today and hoping you made it through the night okay. I'm traveling this morning but will check that email when I can just in case.
TODAY: I would call a behavioral health counselor who specializes in your situation for a one-on-one with your son (and you and your wife). Make the appointment ASAP and follow their guidance. Don't try to figure this out on your own and don't wait. It sounds like immediate help and action is needed and the longer you delay the more difficult the path to recovery will be.
Without the right help it won't get better. Do whatever you have to do for your son. I know his being "an adult" may limit what you can require him to do but he needs to see you moving mountains and dropping the world to help him and be there for him.
In everything you do for him show him you are there for him, no judgement - just concern and unconditional love.
Good luck. Praying for you
TODAY: I would call a behavioral health counselor who specializes in your situation for a one-on-one with your son (and you and your wife). Make the appointment ASAP and follow their guidance. Don't try to figure this out on your own and don't wait. It sounds like immediate help and action is needed and the longer you delay the more difficult the path to recovery will be.
Without the right help it won't get better. Do whatever you have to do for your son. I know his being "an adult" may limit what you can require him to do but he needs to see you moving mountains and dropping the world to help him and be there for him.
In everything you do for him show him you are there for him, no judgement - just concern and unconditional love.
Good luck. Praying for you
Amen.Faithful Ag said:
NoahAg - praying for you and your son today and hoping you made it through the night okay. I'm traveling this morning but will check that email when I can just in case.
TODAY: I would call a behavioral health counselor who specializes in your situation for a one-on-one with your son (and you and your wife). Make the appointment ASAP and follow their guidance. Don't try to figure this out on your own and don't wait. It sounds like immediate help and action is needed and the longer you delay the more difficult the path to recovery will be.
Without the right help it won't get better. Do whatever you have to do for your son. I know his being "an adult" may limit what you can require him to do but he needs to see you moving mountains and dropping the world to help him and be there for him.
In everything you do for him show him you are there for him, no judgement - just concern and unconditional love.
Good luck. Praying for you
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Prayers for all.
Thank you for the outpouring of support. I'll say he is "safe." Too many details to post now but there is deep seated anger and it's directed at my wife and me. Truly praying for the Lord to intercede and bring healing.
NoahAg said:
Thank you for the outpouring of support. I'll say he is "safe." Too many details to post now but there is deep seated anger and it's directed at my wife and me. Truly praying for the Lord to intercede and bring healing.
Thanks for the update. Prayers continue.
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Just said a prayer for you all, and I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
Praying
Said some prayers for your family.
“Falsehood flies and the truth comes limping after it” -Jonathan Swift, 1710
Prayers for your son and family!
I have been thinking about you today and prayed a Rosary with your son and your family as my intention.
Every individual and situation are obviously unique…but I am here to help in any way possible. Unfortunately I've been there and I have some appreciation for how difficult this is for you and your wife and family. My heart breaks for you for what you are enduring. I hope and pray your son is able to have the healing he needs.
I won't say more here, but if you need or want you know how to reach out to me. May god bless your son and your family and give the comfort and healing needed. May the Holy Spirit guide you in your words and actions, and soften your son's heart to receive your love.
Every individual and situation are obviously unique…but I am here to help in any way possible. Unfortunately I've been there and I have some appreciation for how difficult this is for you and your wife and family. My heart breaks for you for what you are enduring. I hope and pray your son is able to have the healing he needs.
I won't say more here, but if you need or want you know how to reach out to me. May god bless your son and your family and give the comfort and healing needed. May the Holy Spirit guide you in your words and actions, and soften your son's heart to receive your love.
Just emailed you, Faithful. Thank you
Just saw your post and we also are putting All of you in our daily Rosary. This time of year is always fraught with a mixture of good and bad. Our family has also dealt with this same thing, and we truly hold you in our hearts and continuous. prayers. Mark and Marsha
Gig'em, Ole Army Class of '70
Prayers brother, for you, your family and strength.NoahAg said:
I rarely post here but I desperately need prayer for my family and particularly my 18 year old son who is in a bad place. Frankly I don't know what to do.
Prayers continue. How are things?
No material on this site is intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. See full Medical Disclaimer.
Praying for you. As a semi new dad to two kids, I would appreciate even very vague summaries of what leads to your children hating you as parents. Outside of the normal teenage drama of being grounded or something.
Continued prayers, OP.
Prayers for your family.
Jim
I can only speak for myself, but it's not about hating us or really anything about our direct parent- child relationship. It has more to do with the evils of the world and the negative influences and spiritual battles facing our children - but our kids are unable to fight them on their own and we are not equipping them with the tools and skills they need for the fight.
Spiritual warfare is real, and unfortunately satan and his evil spirits are impacting our children in virtually every facet of their lives - and the family is being attacked from all angles. The world has become more self-centered and superficial and teens are bombarded with negative signals constantly.
My family attends Mass at least weekly, and sometimes more. We pray together before all meals, and I pray for and/or with my kids before bed. We eat dinner together as a family almost every night. I thought I was "doing it right" and until about a year ago I was feeling pretty good and felt we were "winning". And in the big picture we are on the right path, but let's just say I've realized in the past year how much power satan has in this world.
Social media is the devil. Period. Our phones and iPads have invited Satan to replace us as parents and as the most influential forces guiding our children. We have willingly given our children's mental and emotional wellbeing to strangers and the devil.
I would recommend reading The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. He details the harms that phones and technology are having on society and especially on our children. As a whole, technology and our ability to be self-entertained has left us lonelier, more isolated, and more disconnected than ever - and people (especially our teens) are more depressed than ever before.
My advice: Resist the temptation to give your kids technology as much as possible, and delay a smart phone for as long as possible. No social media - especially Snapchat type apps.
Home school is best - or enroll your kids in private school but private schools have their own drawbacks so don't assume you are safe in one.
Check in with your kids regularly, and make sure they know you are a safe place to come when they are feeling down or are sad about something. Don't assume their behavior is just puberty or typical teenage stuff. Your teens might appear totally normal while a storm is raging beneath the surface. Life as a kid or teenager in today's world is difficult, much more difficult than I faced in the 90's. There is no time for innocence anymore - no protected bubble. The internet and social media bring the evil of the world directly to our precious children and there is little we can do to prevent it or protect them from it. So do what you can and stay close to them so they know you're there for them when they need you.
Spiritual warfare is real, and unfortunately satan and his evil spirits are impacting our children in virtually every facet of their lives - and the family is being attacked from all angles. The world has become more self-centered and superficial and teens are bombarded with negative signals constantly.
My family attends Mass at least weekly, and sometimes more. We pray together before all meals, and I pray for and/or with my kids before bed. We eat dinner together as a family almost every night. I thought I was "doing it right" and until about a year ago I was feeling pretty good and felt we were "winning". And in the big picture we are on the right path, but let's just say I've realized in the past year how much power satan has in this world.
Social media is the devil. Period. Our phones and iPads have invited Satan to replace us as parents and as the most influential forces guiding our children. We have willingly given our children's mental and emotional wellbeing to strangers and the devil.
I would recommend reading The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. He details the harms that phones and technology are having on society and especially on our children. As a whole, technology and our ability to be self-entertained has left us lonelier, more isolated, and more disconnected than ever - and people (especially our teens) are more depressed than ever before.
My advice: Resist the temptation to give your kids technology as much as possible, and delay a smart phone for as long as possible. No social media - especially Snapchat type apps.
Home school is best - or enroll your kids in private school but private schools have their own drawbacks so don't assume you are safe in one.
Check in with your kids regularly, and make sure they know you are a safe place to come when they are feeling down or are sad about something. Don't assume their behavior is just puberty or typical teenage stuff. Your teens might appear totally normal while a storm is raging beneath the surface. Life as a kid or teenager in today's world is difficult, much more difficult than I faced in the 90's. There is no time for innocence anymore - no protected bubble. The internet and social media bring the evil of the world directly to our precious children and there is little we can do to prevent it or protect them from it. So do what you can and stay close to them so they know you're there for them when they need you.
Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him we humbly pray; and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the Power of God, cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits, who prowl through the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.
Howdy Dammit said:
Praying for you. As a semi new dad to two kids, I would appreciate even very vague summaries of what leads to your children hating you as parents. Outside of the normal teenage drama of being grounded or something.
I am a grown older guy and Havnt spoken to my father In a decade. There are any number of things that can create resentment and hate so I can't speak to anyone else's situation.
For me, after a series of comments and bad decisions on his part, I havnt spoken to him since. I dont respond to text, phone, messenger, nothing. If there is a God, he didnt put my father on this earth for me to have a fun project to fix. He put him on this earth to show me how not to be a parent, friend, or member of society. I'm no longer angry.
So, if you want him back or you want it fixed, figure out what it is that's messing up y'all's groove and make it go away. I'm only telling you this as a perspective from the son side in my situation. I cannot begin to imagine yours but I hope you get it fixed for his sake and yours.
Faithful Ag said:
I can only speak for myself, but it's not about hating us or really anything about our direct parent- child relationship. It has more to do with the evils of the world and the negative influences and spiritual battles facing our children - but our kids are unable to fight them on their own and we are not equipping them with the tools and skills they need for the fight.
Spiritual warfare is real, and unfortunately satan and his evil spirits are impacting our children in virtually every facet of their lives - and the family is being attacked from all angles. The world has become more self-centered and superficial and teens are bombarded with negative signals constantly.
My family attends Mass at least weekly, and sometimes more. We pray together before all meals, and I pray for and/or with my kids before bed. We eat dinner together as a family almost every night. I thought I was "doing it right" and until about a year ago I was feeling pretty good and felt we were "winning". And in the big picture we are on the right path, but let's just say I've realized in the past year how much power satan has in this world.
Social media is the devil. Period. Our phones and iPads have invited Satan to replace us as parents and as the most influential forces guiding our children. We have willingly given our children's mental and emotional wellbeing to strangers and the devil.
I would recommend reading The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt. He details the harms that phones and technology are having on society and especially on our children. As a whole, technology and our ability to be self-entertained has left us lonelier, more isolated, and more disconnected than ever - and people (especially our teens) are more depressed than ever before.
My advice: Resist the temptation to give your kids technology as much as possible, and delay a smart phone for as long as possible. No social media - especially Snapchat type apps.
Home school is best - or enroll your kids in private school but private schools have their own drawbacks so don't assume you are safe in one.
Check in with your kids regularly, and make sure they know you are a safe place to come when they are feeling down or are sad about something. Don't assume their behavior is just puberty or typical teenage stuff. Your teens might appear totally normal while a storm is raging beneath the surface. Life as a kid or teenager in today's world is difficult, much more difficult than I faced in the 90's. There is no time for innocence anymore - no protected bubble. The internet and social media bring the evil of the world directly to our precious children and there is little we can do to prevent it or protect them from it. So do what you can and stay close to them so they know you're there for them when they need you.
Great advice. Thanks!
Still praying for you and your son and family.
Here too.Faithful Ag said:
Still praying for you and your son and family.
Jim
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