If she committed adultery, which you indicate here, then you are in the clear, according to the Bible.

I believe your relationship with God is fine. Focus on yourself and your well being.

If she's the one who cheated on you, and she's the one who ended your marriage, then I think that you kept your side of the marriage covenant, and did nothing wrong. You're responsible before God for your decisions, not for hers, or for anyone else's.

While divorce is certainly not ideal, it is sometimes necessary, and the Bible does explicitly permit it in cases of adultery.

Still, the heartache that you're feeling right now is understandable. Not having been in your situation, I'm not sure what to say, except to try not to dwell on the past, and to seek support from your friends, family, or spiritual leaders.

Maybe someday, you can forgive your ex-wife. And yourself.

I cannot give you a Biblical answer, but I can certainly give you a legal one.

Texas is a no-fault divorce state. If she wanted to divorce, she was going to get a divorce. All you could have done was drag it out and make it both expensive and painful for everyone involved.

No God worthy of your devotion would expect you to fight a battle with absolutely zero chance of success.

Sorry to hear about this. I've been there, and I wouldn't wish this on anyone. First off, regardless of any laws or religious rules, a marriage requires two people to continue. If she wanted out, then there's nothing you could have done. You can't keep a marriage going by yourself when the other person wants out. So at the very least, clear your mind of any guilt in that regard. Sin requires a choice, and in this matter you didn't have a choice.

In regards to divorce itself, you could talk with your priest or pastor. There's a lot of different Christian thought about this, and best to stick with someone you trust.

Past that, take time to grieve. A lot of time. Your marriage and your future just died. Your life will never be the same. Take plenty of time to get used to living alone, any situation with kids, untangling finances and all the rest. Take some time trying to figure out your relationship with your former in-laws. Some want to still be family, others will want to break contact, and your feelings are going to be complicated. Don't rush into another relationship. Your emotions are going to be very unpredictable, and it's not really fair to whoever you meet.

I am sorry Sinuso. For me, it was year 16 that my wife decided no more. She actually filed for divorce on my parent's wedding anniversary. I was devastated and had many of the concerns you mention. As others have said, you didn't have a lot of options if she wanted the divorce. I reached peace by looking at what I did. I was not a perfect husband for sure. But I tried with all my heart. And I think that is what God looks at. With time I remarried. A wonderful woman. And she and my ex are friends. And we all go on vacations and to grandkid's birthday parties together. We had a lot of years that we didn't think too highly of each other, but both decided not to speak ill of the other in front of our daughter. Now we get along OK. I still sometimes wonder if it would have worked if I knew then what I know now. But 16 years after the divorce I think we are both happier than we were iin the marriage. And I think God blessing me in the marriage I now have is His sign that I am forgiven for the divorce. So, as others said, I think you have done all you can. God will judge your heart. Take your time and do not rush into anything.

Prayers Sinuso.

God loves you. And so do we. Rest in His peace..

dermdoc said:

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Prayers Sinuso.

God loves you. And so do we. Rest in His peace..

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This. Prayers for you sir. God will heal your heart...keep it open for him.

Wow. To say thank you to all the replies to this post seems to fall short of what your words are worth to me right now.

In working through this process your prayers and advice will be checked daily until I feel like I no longer need the affirmations.

Thank you again for your prayers. I can really feel them working. For example, the Lord has been revealing things about my ex that I believe are meant to show me that I'm better off without her. If it had all come out at the time, it would have easily killed me.

I have prayed for the Lord to take away the hate, resentment and jealousy so I can go on. So far, so good.

Thank you.