Howdy!
What advice do you wish you had learned/have you learned in regards to making important decisions? How do you know if you'll end up regretting or enjoying a decision you make? How do you typically determine if you're making the right decision and aren't making a decision you'll regret? Would love any words of wisdom you have to offer! TIA

Gig 'em!

What kind of decision are we talking about? What to eat for dinner or whether to marry a particular girl?

Someone very wise once told me to make the best decision you can on the facts that are available, and never look back.

Second guessing oneself after making a decision is very, very rarely profitable.

Also, I've worked for some extraordinarily successful people. One thing that they had in common was that they were very decisive. One explained to me that if you don't make a decision, a decision will be made anyway one way or another. Usually, you only have a narrow window of opportunity to make a decision before someone or something else closes that window on you.

He also said that he might change his decision, but he would make a decision.

G.W_Busch said:

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Howdy!
What advice do you wish you had learned/have you learned in regards to making important decisions? How do you know if you'll end up regretting or enjoying a decision you make? How do you typically determine if you're making the right decision and aren't making a decision you'll regret? Would love any words of wisdom you have to offer! TIA

Gig 'em!

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Are you a person of faith?

Yes and no. I'm in the process of coming back to the faith

I always enlist my wife and we take it to the Lord in prayer.

G.W_Busch said:

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Yes and no. I'm in the process of coming back to the faith

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Any advice I might have for you would be based on personal experience after 57 years of life. That experience tells me to encourage you to study/pray/act in a way that seeks to align your choices/behavior/overall approach to life with God's will and of course that begs the question "how do I know what God's will is for my life?" Have you ever thought about the proposition that the path to being truly content and living a life of authentic peace, freedom and joy is by aligning your life with God's plan and purpose for you?

Let's start with that. What are your thoughts about the role of God's will in your life? Do you believe that you were created by God for his purposes? Why or why not?

Once you have studied and prayed about that, then I would encourage you to study and pray about how you can discern what God's will for you might be.

I'm a Catholic so my go to is to study and pray about how I should understand God's will by reading scripture and other sources such as the church fathers and other more contemporary sources to help form how I think about God's will. I also have learned to try and listen for God's "voice" and how it might manifest itself to me. This takes time and discipline and a real commitment. Are there impediments in your life that are blocking the grace God wants to give you? Some sober self-examination of your life and your relationship with God is called for here, including confession and genuine repentance.

As I learned more about how God's will works in my life, I started thinking more about how I might be able to understand my role in trying to align my small and big choices (tactical) and overall direction (strategic) with God's will.

Eventually, you will come to a point where you will have to accept or reject that the only way to truly live your life in a way that is conformed to God's plan and purpose for you AND a huge part of this is whether you are willing to submit/surrender and give up the lie of "control."

If any of that resonates with you I would be happy to share more or just engage in a conversation about this and share more.