Should adultery be illegal?

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The Banned
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kurt vonnegut said:

I'll respond tomorrow . . . But I noticed you ignored my trap question.


I don't really see it as a trap question because it's a completely different issue. You have freedom of speech. You are more than welcome to express that because you and I have not entered into a life long relationship under the premise that you will not say how you feel about Christians. I guess you'd be an *******, but I was specifically referring to people that commit adultery as *******s. I could easily amend my original statement to "I wish people would just stop being adulterers" if you need me to be more accurate.
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Furthermore, I'm not advocating for making it illegal. I simply see a logical reason to try and reduce it.

What was the point of your 'novel' if the above is ultimately your position? Is it to convince me that adultery is bad? Why on Earth do you think this is different from my position? Literally nothing in my posts or anyone else's posts on this thread suggests that adultery is good, that it doesn't harm families / relationships / children, or that it doesn't constitutes a break in a social contract. The point of everything I've posted in this thread has been to simply suggest that I don't think its the government's role to police adultery. It seems we agree. Should we try and reduce it, sure. I'm on board. What the hell are we arguing about?

This is a topic where I had expected to agree with most of my more conservative counter parts on this board. I am generally under the impression that conservatives want smaller and less powerful and less intrusive government. . . . not that they want a government gifted with the power dictate how your family is required to work. Am I wrong about this understanding?

When I read your first few posts and I read your 'novel' I find it difficult to not conclude that you advocating for laws against adultery. If I misunderstood, I apologize.
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The Banned said:


I don't really see it as a trap question because it's a completely different issue. You have freedom of speech. You are more than welcome to express that because you and I have not entered into a life long relationship under the premise that you will not say how you feel about Christians. I guess you'd be an *******, but I was specifically referring to people that commit adultery as *******s. I could easily amend my original statement to "I wish people would just stop being adulterers" if you need me to be more accurate.

You are right - It is a different issue, and one that I think detracts from the thread. My bad.
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kurt vonnegut said:


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Furthermore, I'm not advocating for making it illegal. I simply see a logical reason to try and reduce it.

What was the point of your 'novel' if the above is ultimately your position? Is it to convince me that adultery is bad? Why on Earth do you think this is different from my position? Literally nothing in my posts or anyone else's posts on this thread suggests that adultery is good, that it doesn't harm families / relationships / children, or that it doesn't constitutes a break in a social contract. The point of everything I've posted in this thread has been to simply suggest that I don't think its the government's role to police adultery. It seems we agree. Should we try and reduce it, sure. I'm on board. What the hell are we arguing about?

This is a topic where I had expected to agree with most of my more conservative counter parts on this board. I am generally under the impression that conservatives want smaller and less powerful and less intrusive government. . . . not that they want a government gifted with the power dictate how your family is required to work. Am I wrong about this understanding?

When I read your first few posts and I read your 'novel' I find it difficult to not conclude that you advocating for laws against adultery. If I misunderstood, I apologize.


I probably wasn't clear enough. I'm more going through the intellectual exercise of how/why a government would make it illegal. I think it absolutely is an action worthy of illegality.

Where I wasn't very clear is that I don't think laws would be very effective. Especially fines and jail time. Maybe some public humiliation could move the needle, but thats not fool proof either. If I could summarize it as clearly as possible it would be the adultery is awful and worthy of punishment, but I can not think of a punishment that would sufficiently deter people without going barbaric, of which I'm not a fan.
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ramblin_ag02 said:

I am generally against the criminalization of private acts between consenting adults. I'm also generally against the propensity of some Christians to make every single moral issue into a matter of criminal law. So I'm against any laws that would criminalize adultery for several reason.

However, I'd wouldn't have a problem with something against adultery in the civil code. For instance, I'd support a law that allowed wronged parties to have in increased share of assets in a divorce at the expense of the adulterer.


Welp, you're in luck. Texas Family Code section 6.003 is on the books
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The Banned said:


I probably wasn't clear enough. I'm more going through the intellectual exercise of how/why a government would make it illegal. I think it absolutely is an action worthy of illegality.

Where I wasn't very clear is that I don't think laws would be very effective. Especially fines and jail time. Maybe some public humiliation could move the needle, but thats not fool proof either. If I could summarize it as clearly as possible it would be the adultery is awful and worthy of punishment, but I can not think of a punishment that would sufficiently deter people without going barbaric, of which I'm not a fan.

I'm certain that you've stated it already, but to ensure that I am not misunderstanding, can you state the reason for why you would support making adultery illegal? (Ignoring that you think it would be ineffective)

And, can you clarify what power and force the government would have in situations that rise to the standards of those reasons?

Here is where I'm going with my argument: I like the idea of limiting power for the government to force 'moral' behavior. Or at least certain types of moral behavior. The problem with a government being given power to force moral behavior is that it isfine when you agree with the government, but less fine when you don't agree with the government. It is a mistake, I think, for you to assume that your government will always support your moral beliefs. This is why I support moving toward / staying at a consensus that believes we should limit the government's ability to force certain behaviors.

I can imagine that many Christians think that my wife and I are acting immorally in raising our children outside of a Christian church. And I imagine many Christians could argue that our children may be harmed by not having a Christian influence in their youth. However, I feel that most Christians (in the West) also believe that it is neither their job nor a government's job to mandate and force me to raise my children in a church.

I am wondering where you stand on this. You are, I think, now on record supporting giving the government the power to force citizens to comply with more sweeping standards of sexual morality than it current has. Rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse, and other acts are already illegal and laws can be argued for them on the basis of their being a direct victim not consenting to the act. You wish to extend laws to include adultery on the basis that adultery can cause emotional harm to others. What about premarital sex? Or masturbation, or pornography, or forms and positions of sex which you disagree with? Couldn't you argue that anal and oral sex do not comply with God's intentions and are therefore harmful? Should that be illegal?

Here is the flip side of what I think you are arguing for: A government body that decides that Christianity is immoral and that raising children in Christianity causes them harm utilizes, I think, the same exact reasoning that you use to illegalize adultery. I believe that what you are doing right now is building a case for the government to outlaw any part of Christianity it someday decides it doesn't like. Someday when this country is mostly secular, if they makes laws against Christianity, I think it will do so using exactly the same reasoning you are using to argue for laws against adultery. And I would oppose those laws. And how would you be able to oppose those laws which would be built on the exact precedent you advocate for now?

You keep saying that adultery is bad and therefore should be illegal. And I think that in every post, you have completely ignored the consequences of giving government legal power over who you can and cannot have consensual sex with. This is tremendous power that you are advocating to give to the government. And like I said before, its not at all in line with my understanding of conservativism.
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If you think that is my position, I can see why you'd dislike it. I'm not trying to force Christian morality specifically here. What I am theoretically in favor of:

- two people consent to share their entire lives, living spaces, finances, and children together.
- two people consent with the understand that neither party will seek sexual relations with any other people
- one person breaks that contract, causing immense harm to the other spouse, the marriage itself and very likely the children who have sprung forth from that marriage

Yes these all mirror Christian teachings, but I think it also follows the natural law. There is a reason why it hurts people so much to know their significant other is sleeping around. Far more than finding out their spouse is a closet alcoholic or talks bad about them behind their back. It's a very serious violation of the marital contract we all assume we're entering into.

I stated earlier that if people want to enter into an "open marriage" that this wouldn't apply. I would not be trying to enforce monogamy. I would be trying to protect the innocent party by creating a potential deterrent. From there I get to the idea that there are probably no truly good deterrents for this. Public shame is the best I've got, and it's not really a good one.
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